This is a real event in the news.
Finally, Zhang Peng suffered from different forms of school bullying at the same time. He stabbed the boy with a knife for a long time in a rage, which caused an irreparable tragedy.
But at first, he was just a child who wanted to study hard.
The school bullying incident keeps popping up in the news media, and many parents don't know if the fight between children is school bullying. Has my child ever been to school bullying?
What is school bullying?
School bullying mainly includes physical bullying, psychological bullying and social exclusion.
Physical bullying mainly refers to the harm to the other person's body. Such as pinching someone's throat, pulling their hair, hitting, kicking, vomiting and so on. These are all physical attacks.
Psychological bullying is mainly verbal harassment, such as you look as black as your nigger, threatening phone calls and provoking.
Social exclusion means that two or more children form a small group, deliberately crowding out another child and ignoring him, thus causing psychological harm to him.
School bullying is not only a physical injury to children, but also an incurable psychological torture.
It happens in almost every school in school bullying, far beyond our knowledge. Most children don't report bullying to their parents and teachers.
Many parents will be puzzled. Why won't my child tell us after being bullied?
That's because bullied children often think they feel guilty, ashamed and frustrated because they are unable to cope with bullying.
They are more sensitive and fragile than normal children.
Many children in our life were bullied and told their parents at the first time, but they were questioned by their parents: "Why do others only bully you and not others?" The reason why you don't find yourself. "
This sentence will deeply hurt the child's injured heart and make the child keep his mouth shut to his parents from now on.
So, what kind of children are vulnerable to bullying?
Type 1: insecure children
Most of these children are fragile, sensitive and dependent, and it is easier to please and compromise in relationships. Therefore, as parents, we should use more expressions of empathy, so that we can rebuild a safe relationship in our children's hearts. This is 1 pass for children not to be bullied.
The second type: children who are overprotected by their parents.
Their daily life is overprotected by their parents and they have no ability to guard against the outside world. Such children don't know how to deal with accidents, have no language and consciousness of resistance, and don't know how to deal with negative emotions.
Type 3: withdrawn and introverted children without friends.
Most of these children are introverted and shy, not good at communicating with others and making friends, and have no social circle of their own. How to make children accepted by peers and improve their social skills is very important, which will greatly reduce the possibility of children being bullied.
The fourth category: thin children.
Thin is the most common bullied child. I can't fight if I want to, let alone resist. A typical heart doesn't have enough spare capacity.
For this kind of children, what they can do is to enhance their immunity, accompany them to exercise their physical fitness, and let them have a healthy body from an early age. This is very important.
The fifth type: children who are different from others.
Looking back on the days when we were studying by ourselves, who would be the target of the class's common attack? Stuttering, looks a bit special, too short, too fat, unique personality, etc. There are also those with unique talents, or single-parent families, or those with particularly good family conditions, who show off their capital and are easily bullied.
As parents, how can we help our children intelligently?
As we said before, there are many kinds of bullying, not only physical conflicts are called bullying. Most conflicts eventually develop irretrievably, starting from the initial verbal bullying, so what we can do is to teach children to recognize bullying behavior first and take measures from the beginning to avoid further deterioration.
When my child was in kindergarten, I bought him a set of children's anti-bullying education picture books, which were recommended by many parenting education institutions, especially suitable for children aged 2-8. I think it is particularly helpful for children's socialization.
Here I summarize the help this picture book has brought to children, hoping to help more families with children:
L recommended by authoritative organizations, in line with children's cognition.
This set of anti-bullying picture books was written by senior preschool experts and strongly recommended by many parenting psychology research institutions. Suitable for children aged 2-8 to read, and effectively cultivate children's awareness of self-protection.
L the theme is clear, and let the children know what is bullying with easy-to-understand stories.
This set of children's anti-bullying education picture books consists of 8 volumes, each of which is an independent theme.
The titles corresponding to these eight topics are as follows:
Implicit bullying "I don't like being laughed at: what should I do if I encounter implicit bullying?" 》:
What should I do if I am laughed at, ugly and weak? This is actually not a simple joke, but a hidden bullying.
Most physical bullying begins with implicit bullying. Let children realize the importance of hidden bullying and know how to deal with it, so as to effectively put an end to the other party's more excessive behavior.
Emotional bullying I don't like being wronged: what should I do if I encounter emotional bullying? 》:
Many timid and inferior children start with emotional bullying. What should they do if they are wronged? This is something that children must learn and deal with in life. Only when they are strong will they not be bullied.
Physical abuse "I don't like being touched: what should I do if I encounter physical abuse?" 》:
What is the correct way to express love? How to protect your body? This is the self-protection knowledge that every child needs to learn from an early age.
Property bullying I don't like being bullied: what should I do if I encounter property bullying? 》:
As we all know, children have a sense of property rights since they were two years old, but not every child knows how to protect his property, and not every child can cope with property bullying well.
Social bullying "I don't like being excluded: what if I encounter social bullying?" 》:
Children should face social interaction independently from kindergarten. We need children to learn how to get along with others, but we should also let them know what kind of friendship is worth cherishing and what kind of socialization belongs to social bullying.
Relationship bullying "I don't like being discriminated against: what should I do if I encounter relationship bullying?" 》:
Children are eager to communicate with others, but they can't develop a pleasing character. What should they do if they encounter discrimination? Only by making children strong can we really solve the problem.
Verbal bullying "I don't like being insulted: what should I do if I encounter verbal bullying?" 》:
Children's minds are very fragile, and others' casual language may be remembered by children and abused. What should I do? We can't protect our children forever, but we can teach them how to deal with verbal bullying.
Physical bullying I don't like being pushed: what should I do if I encounter physical bullying? 》:
The best way for children to be pushed is not to escape. Many bullied people are more afraid of being bullied. Only by teaching children the correct methods of self-protection can they stay away from bullying forever.
This set of books tells children under what circumstances they will be bullied and how to deal with different forms of bullying in the form of stories in an easy-to-understand way.
L it is more important to cultivate children's awareness of self-protection than their ability to protect themselves.
Contradictions encountered in children's growth do not have clear answers and steps like calculation questions. As parents, it is more important to cultivate children's self-protection consciousness than to cultivate children's self-protection ability.
Children's anti-bullying education picture books let children gradually cultivate self-protection awareness in the process of reading stories, so that children can understand that they can't be bullies, but they can't be doormats.
I have recommended this picture book to many children's parents. Compared with hundreds of picture books, the price is also very affordable. Friends in need can click on the link below to find out.
School bullying is a very serious behavior, which needs more intervention from adults. Self-protection awareness and certain methods can only make children out of danger temporarily, but they should also be taught to ask their parents or teachers for help when they are bullied.
Being a conscious parent and cultivating children's strong sense of self-protection can really protect children from danger.