Towering buildings start from the foundation, and the starting point for the formation of a person's values is family style, which is the "foundation" for the growth of a person and a family.
What is "family style"?
Family style includes: family morality, family rules, family precepts and genealogy.
Family morality is a moral principle and ethical norm advocated by the family. Such as respecting the old and loving the young, being tolerant and friendly, being kind to others, respecting ceremony and humility.
Family rules are the rules that families follow. Such as standing posture, mutual respect and love, diligence and housekeeping, etc.
Family precepts are the creed that families respect and abide by. Like a porridge and a meal, thinking is hard to come by; Half a silk and half a wisp, constantly thinking about material difficulties;
Genealogy is a record of the continuation of family lineage. The predecessors set an example, and the power of the example can be passed down.
Family style is essentially the inner spiritual strength of a family, and it is also the code of conduct for everyone who grows up in it to stand on the world.
Good family style is the luck of the family; Bad family style is a disaster for the family. A good family style will have a good influence on family members, especially children's world outlook, outlook on life, moral cultivation, behavior habits and living habits. It can be said that a good family style is priceless to a family.
Some children have just exposed many problems in the first grade of primary school, such as willful indulgence, selfishness, profanity and extravagance. In fact, children's problems of one kind or another are mostly the shadow of their parents. In other words, it is the result of the lack and dislocation of family education and unhealthy family style.
The formation of family style has nothing to do with family wealth and parents' educational level, but with parents' moral cultivation. An intellectual may be unsatisfactory in educating children; A pair of illiterate parents may raise a child with good moral character.
When I was a child, my parents often reminded us not to knock on the bowl with chopsticks, talk as little as possible when eating, turn our backs to the table when coughing, move chopsticks first when entertaining guests, and don't be picky when being a guest ... This is actually a etiquette education about words and deeds, and it is the accumulation and inheritance of family style.
As the educator Makusha said, children's eyes are always watching you like a never-ending radar. Their young hearts are like a wilderness, if they don't sow goodwill, they will be drowned by weeds; If you don't cultivate noble people, you will spread vulgarity.
Children are always imitating adults, parents read books and newspapers at home every day, and children will also turn over books or let you tell him stories in books; On the contrary, parents play mahjong and games every day, or litter and swear in public places, and children will follow suit.