First of all, Li Jian and her neighbor Wang Yong are good friends. They are both sophomores.
One day, they punched cards in the community, quarreled and got into a fight.
Li Jian ran home crying. When his parents saw their children being bullied, they went to Wang Yong's parents to start their theory. As a result, both parents accused each other of having bad children.
Parents will feel distressed and uncomfortable when their children are bullied by others, but they should handle things with a degree and not spoil their children too much.
It is normal for children to be naughty when they are young and avoid quarreling and fighting when playing.
Children quarrel today and make up tomorrow. But the adults quarreled, and since then they have ignored each other and become enemies. This is an undesirable method.
Neighbors look up and don't bow their heads. If you have something to say, who doesn't apologize to each other and let the children know where they are wrong?
In front of children, parents should pay attention to their tone of voice and behave like their parents. They always appear like dragons, seeing who is strong, children learn bad things the fastest. It is wise to calm down and solve the problem calmly;
First, Li Jian's parents should ask their children about the incident and find out what happened during their time together and why Li Jian was beaten.
Second, judging right and wrong can't just listen to the children's words. In order to prevent children from lying, Li Jian's parents called Wang Yong, and even Wang Yong's parents invited him to ask what was going on, and then both parents educated their children together.
Third, the parents of both sides stand on the same level to analyze the problem and avoid sticking to their own words. If both sides feel that their children have been bullied, they should ask the other side to give a statement, and neither parent will give in to the other side. There is a problem between adults' thoughts, which will also bring harm to children's young minds.
Second, in the face of children, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, as well as the way of education, and be an excellent parent.
1, a realistic attitude
When children complain, they usually exaggerate other people's mistakes, make others useless, and then cover up their own shortcomings.
If parents don't know the truth and blindly listen to their children, they don't guide them to judge right and wrong; Did not help children establish a correct outlook on life and values. When children grow up, they will also have personality defects.
2. Don't spoil children too much.
As the saying goes, charming children are unfilial, and charming dogs are on the stove.
In life, many parents love their children too much, fearing that their children will be bullied by others outside, suffer losses, spoil their children, and do not point out their mistakes.
Some people raise their children as little emperors and give them whatever they want. When the child grows up, his parents can't satisfy his desire and embark on the road of crime.
Step 3 reflect on yourself
Ceng Zi said: "I save three times a day: are you unfaithful to others?" Don't believe in making friends? Can't you learn? "
As parents, help children establish a correct outlook on life and values. Educate children positively, talk realistically, don't lie, don't cheat, be honest and trustworthy.
Educate children to reflect on whether they have done anything wrong every day, correct them if they have, and encourage them if they have not.
In ancient times, when a Jiang Yang thief was about to be beheaded, the prison officer asked him what else he wanted. He said that he finally wanted to meet his mother and have a bite of her milk.
Mother untied her clothes, and he bit her breast and said, I hate you because my mother didn't teach you well. You didn't correct me in time when I had bad habits such as petty theft. Pampering me has brought me to this point.
This story warns us that relying too much on children, obeying children and being partial to children will eventually harm children.
Some people say that true family education is parents' self-cultivation, and self-cultivation is to correct their behavior. Not until it's fixed. Children have problems, and parents look for answers.
Behind an excellent child, there must be an excellent parent.
Family education reflects the problems in children's growth: excellent parents teach excellent children. Excessive doting on children will limit their thinking when they grow up, which is not conducive to their growth. I hope such parents will take a warning.