There is a depressed father at home.

Looking at the comments, many people think that depression is caused by mental problems, and I used to think so.

As time went on, I went to see a doctor, read books on this subject, and carefully observed my father's daily changes. Finally, I understand that depression is a disease and is out of people's control. Whether it is the brain, the nerve secretion in the body, or the imbalance of intestinal flora, in short, there is something wrong with the body for no reason.

People with depression are gloomy in the morning. If they can't control their negativity, they will want to die very much. At night, their symptoms will be relieved and they will want to live again.

It happens every day.

I miss my cheerful, reasonable and happy father.

Accompany my seriously ill father every day.

Life is really bitter, enjoy it.

Anxiety disorder? Depression? Just say something about their majors in some fields. What a fart! If you can't find the root cause, it's called depression. How can there be so much depression and anxiety? Modern people live an irregular life, eat raw meat seriously and eat a lot of fried meat at night. Lying still after eating is not a normal way to supplement energy and consume energy to maintain good health! People with typhoid fever are black when they draw blood, and their red blood cells will be higher! Urine protein 1+ or something. At first, this disease was mainly caused by heart knot. After a cold, the damp and cold qi in the body stagnated and led to endocrine disorders, which was actually called typhoid fever. You are too superstitious about western medicine in modern times. Chinese medicine died of Chinese medicine again! ! ! Deception, fake medicine, medicine with bad effect! Western medicine doesn't know typhoid fever, but only knows specialties and is opinionated. Many doctors may not be able to make an empty cup to accept various medical theories and clinics for the benefit of commission. Look it up and say depression, neurosis, nonsense! Then all I know is to give people some nerve medicine, alas! Sleep is enough. The fundamental problem has not been solved. There are four kinds of diseases: physical, psychological and karmic diseases, and the disease of hating creditors! Are mutually causal. First, patients with depression should have spiritual beliefs, learn Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, and then live a regular life. In addition, they should go to Chinese medicine to see cold-dampness typhoid fever! Focus on the stomach. Generally, knocking on the right abdomen of the stomach will inhibit the feeling of abdominal distension, and typhoid fever involves a wide range. At first, it was just deficiency, such as prostate, adnexa, gastroenteritis, qi deficiency and blood deficiency, obvious tongue coating, sunken upper eye socket and facial depression. It doesn't matter if it's insufficient at first, and it's okay to check and test. After a long time, it will lead to cholecystitis, endocrine, brains, paranoia and bad spleen and stomach. Hot and cold, afraid of cold, and so on, and so on too much! It's all wet and cold Typhoid fever has dragged on for a long time! No depression! Treatment first! Be sure to have faith, do more good deeds, study Buddhism and be open-minded! First, all the reasons for the adjustment of the heart and the knot of the heart, first, because the heart is dead, and second, to change the law of life, work and rest normally, and release the pressure. Eat, drink and sleep according to the rules! Third, the disease has formed bacteria in the stomach, attacking endocrine. If you have inflammatory nodules, you should take traditional Chinese medicine and western medicine by infusion and cure them within 10 days! Transfusion is quick to diminish inflammation and sterilize, and Chinese medicine is needed to adjust the root of the disease! Western medicine surgery is to treat a cell imbalance, so western medicine comes quickly, but Chinese medicine has to adjust the natural balance of the five elements to solve its own internal qi and blood veins! Qi and blood constipation is naturally disease-free! After passing, naturally activate people's internal immunity, repair and regenerate! Mood is the first dose of medicine! So people have faith! The poor man was killed by those western doctors for several years, and there was no cure!

Say yes, but families with poor family conditions have a relatively shallow understanding of this disease, so you should be prepared to get no support.

People with depression are generally kind. When they can't support, they would rather hurt themselves than others. They are often in deep remorse, depressed, unwilling to seek medical treatment, and have a strong sense of shame about treatment, thus delaying the best treatment opportunity.

It's good that you can still ask questions, but family conditions prevent you from getting first-class treatment. This is a reality, and you need to summon your inner strength to face this difficulty. Whether you can survive is the key to solving the problem.

To be patient, the first thing is to be prepared for long-term persistence. Don't spend money if you can spend less, don't take the bus if you can walk, and don't quit if you can stick to your job. When you are really bored, you can learn Buddhism. But the minimum medicine is necessary, at least to ensure a certain amount of sleep. You don't have to sleep at night, you can sleep during the day. Sleeping is like charging, the mobile phone can't be turned on without power, and so can people. This is the basis of long-term persistence.

Depression is characterized by self-remission. If you can persist for half a year, you will relieve yourself. In the process of boiling, you will experience the mystery of Buddhism, which is the root of your ultimate liberation. Some people gain new strength in this process.

I have been engaged in psychological counseling for many years. Personally, I suggest not telling my family, because if I can receive simple and quick psychological guidance to deal with depression, I can get out faster and don't have to worry my family.

But I don't recommend you to go to the hospital, because depression in the hospital is just taking medicine, which will delay the illness and increase the cost and trouble without solving the fundamental problem.

According to the instinctive psychology I have studied, depression is a series of adverse reactions such as emotion, behavior and physiology caused by individuals encountering great difficulties and being unable to get out. The hospital only pays attention to these adverse reactions and controls them through medication, but does not pay attention to and deal with the difficulties encountered, and the problem cannot be fundamentally solved. Only by analyzing and guiding the situation that the difficulties cannot be solved can we relieve the difficulties and eliminate the adverse reactions, and can we fundamentally solve the depression.

Therefore, I suggest that you don't have to talk to your family, come to me as soon as possible, accept simple and quick psychological analysis guidance, and get out of depression as soon as possible. Even if you don't accept help, then you should pay attention to the difficulties that cause adverse reactions, not to these adverse reactions. That would be a waste of time.

If you have something to say to your family, it is the meaning of love that the whole family faces it together. The happiest time is the moment when Qi Xin, a family, worked together to tide over the disaster and meet the victory.

Depression is not terrible.

It's just a manifestation of an extremely empty mind. I'm not interested in doing anything, I don't want to do anything, I feel boring when I look at anything, and I feel nothing. When people have no feelings, they will be very anxious, scared and helpless.

If this situation continues, it will only get worse. So you must get the support of your family, because it is difficult for you to overcome depression alone.

Let your family help you find something and stick to it. When you get used to this kind of life, or achieve a goal and a wish through this matter, your depression will disappear.

Interview with Jia and Zi Gui: How to Cure Depression

Moderator: Hello, parents, teachers and friends on the Internet! Today, we are fortunate to invite the expensive teacher Li Xingfu to explain the relevant knowledge of depression treatment.

Hello, Miss Li. Judging from the current situation, the incidence of depression in China is very serious. What do you think of this?

Teacher Li Xingfu: Yes, according to the statistics of relevant departments, the incidence of depression among adolescents in China has reached more than 8%. According to statistics, adult depression is said to have reached more than 200 million. Therefore, depression is a common problem in today's society, which has affected people's daily life and study.

Moderator: Teacher Li, what do you think is the reason why China people suffer from depression in a large area?

Teacher Li Xingfu: I think so. I think the emergence of depression has something to do with our culture. In other words, our nation is a nation with excellent traditional culture, which is hidden in the genes of everyone in our Chinese nation. However, over the past 100 years, we have learned a lot of western culture and accepted the indoctrination of western culture, so we have not learned excellent traditional culture. Therefore, the cultural conflict between western culture and our blood genes is actually a conflict of values. For example, the training and scenes in big cities are full of excitement, which have been completely changed by American psychology and behavioral science, but have not actually solved people's ideological problems. Psychological counseling can't solve the problem of depression. However, with the rapid development of the real society, old problems have not been eliminated, and new problems are constantly emerging, so she has contradictions in her heart. In this way, the interpersonal relationship, career development, marriage, education and other problems of people with psychological problems are becoming more and more serious. After a long time, they continue to be depressed, which is basically the case. This is an adult situation.

Then, the child's part also shows that traditional culture is not popular, and he is not well educated, so he is depressed. This is my understanding. This is the same as the adults mentioned just now. When we observe, we will find a phenomenon: if a child is depressed or depressed, you will see that the parents of this family, especially the mother, have said some wrong and absurd words to the child since childhood, in other words, the child has not heard a few correct words. Because the child's cognitive ability is weak, if the parents say something wrong, he can't tell it in time. He used his own value judgment to define what his parents said, so after defining such a language sentence, he stored it in his brain. The brain has a mechanism that is generally not easy to delete after storage. If there are 200 false messages like this stored in children's brains, we assume that our children will break into adult society with these unhealthy beliefs and communicate with others, classmates and teachers, which will lead to fierce conflicts. Some children will show this conflict in the form of violence, while others will not say it, and then they will keep this conflict in their hearts for a long time. Then, they will be depressed.

In other words, it is reasonable to say that most of them are older children, but sometimes he knows what is right and wrong, because these wrong beliefs defined by him as a child will always interfere with him, making him unable to accept correct information or new things, and he can't adjust these beliefs in his heart, so he can't integrate with the people around him, which will lead to conflicts. Once that kind of natural behavior can't keep up, it will fall behind greatly. Then, he will be marginalized in the class. When he comes home, his parents don't understand him, and he will still be depressed when he gets home. He will be depressed at school and at home. After a long time, he dropped out of school. This is a basic cognitive view of my research on adolescent depression.

Moderator: So, Miss Li, in today's society, the problem of depression has become a headache for social families. High incidence, involving a wide range of people. In today's society, we are all more or less depressed because of the great pressure of people's survival. So for the treatment of depression, it can be said that there are many means and methods, and even drugs will be used in severe cases. So, do you think these depression therapies in society can really work?

Teacher Li Xingfu: Well, if a child has depression, especially mania, he must use drugs. Elderly patients hurt people by smashing furniture. You can't control it without medication. But with drugs, it can only play a role in alleviating. That is to say, after taking this medicine, it has a soothing effect and temporarily eliminates its manic mood and unhappy feeling, but its fundamental problem has not been solved. In addition, when the manufacturers studied these drugs, they did not promise you that they could cure depression. Therefore, we will find that many patients with depression have stayed in the hospital for a long time, but they have to take medicine for a long time when they come back, but they can't be cured, and this medicine is harmful to the human body. This is one aspect. There is also psychological counseling, and there is no hope of cure. As I said before, psychological counselors have the same things in Europe and the United States. We China people are ostracized at heart, but they don't know that he is ostracized, because he, you see, has finished consulting. He hasn't changed and he can't. In fact, his heart is rejecting these things and not accepting his cultural system. In this way, psychological counseling still can't help patients with depression. I know it used to be like this.

Moderator: So, Miss Li, what do you think can really solve the problem of depression?

Teacher Li Xingfu: I think this question is like this. If a family has a depressed person, such as a child who is depressed in middle school, first of all, our parents must understand how the child is depressed and ask about our family environment or husband-wife relationship, and whether we have correctly educated him on values. You should analyze this thoroughly. You know, he is caused by too much wrong information. If you can do this, I think this problem has been solved by more than half. Nowadays, many adolescent depression can't be cured unless it is solved from the family roots. So how did it get sick? I don't know, so we blame him, and we blame him for not studying. Blame him for not going to school; Blame him for smashing furniture; Blame him for playing with his mobile phone. This can only stay at the level of complaining, and will never solve the problem. What is serious is to send children or adults to the hospital. The same is true of hospitals. The hospital doesn't solve your faith problem. He just solves your depression and makes you stop having attacks.

In my opinion, the reason why children suffer from depression and adults suffer from depression is that there is something wrong with the belief system of his brain, that is, the beliefs it contains are incompatible with society, and he can't communicate with it, so he is depressed. Of course, there are also some emergencies, such as the sexual assault of girls, which is also a malignant emergency, but most of them are that children's brains store too many unhealthy beliefs, and these beliefs have been defined in their brains, in other words, they have been stored in the memory of cells. Our parents must first come down and send their children to class. Of course, some children don't want to, and two or three out of ten people with depression may need to be mobilized. As long as he can study and eliminate harmful memories in cells, I think it can be completely cured.

Teacher Li Xingfu: Thank you!

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Tell your family that everyone in the family will get depression. Depression is not terrible. People suffering from this disease are caused by underdeveloped cerebellum and lack of exercise. They stop studying and go to work, run outside every day, rest when they are tired, and then run again. They will recover in three months without taking any medicine [heart].

The reason why you are worried is the premise of your question, "The family conditions are very poor." This reality makes people feel that your family's cultural level is not very high. Otherwise, generally speaking, family conditions will not be very bad.

Depression is a topic that has been mentioned constantly in recent years, and not many people really understand it.

This reality has also led many family elders not to recognize depression, and some even think it is a kind of "melodramatic" performance.

If you want to talk to your family now, you should consider the following aspects:

We often have a certain generation gap with our parents, especially in the face of our own study, work, feelings, new family and so on. Parents' views are likely to run counter to our own.

If you are estranged from your parents now, or even incompatible with each other, then many of your words may have gone bad in their eyes.

If you have a good relationship with your parents on weekdays, then your parents may listen to the concept of "depression" and take the trouble to inquire about and understand this disease.

The reason for this consideration is that depression is not a fracture or rupture, which can be witnessed. Your family may not understand your pain.

As a patient with depression, in fact, the people who should be understood and cared for most are your family. Because, they have a high position in your heart.

And the people who spend the longest time with you every day are your family. If they don't understand or reject your illness, it will be more painful.

Then communicate your depression with your family, not just saying, "I have depression, I need to be quiet, I need you to care about me." . . "

You have to find someone in your home who may know about this disease, or let this person accompany you to the hospital for reexamination and tell your depression from the doctor.

Only in this way can that person pay attention to your illness, thus attracting the attention of the whole family.

Since you have learned from the hospital that you are suffering from depression, I think the doctor should give you different prescriptions or suggestions according to the situation.

Besides drugs, you must do the following things to get rid of yourself:

First, depression is not a terminal illness, but a psychological abnormality. There may be many reasons for depression, but it doesn't mean that you will never forget it. This should be recognized psychologically.

Second, reposition the requirements of life. The past, even if it is not satisfactory, has passed. We should live in the future, not always recall the past.

Thirdly, exercise is a good way to treat depression. You must discover the fun of sports and fall in love with her. You don't have to run a marathon, but you can make yourself like playing badminton.

Don't say that. You're gonna be okay. As long as you work more, don't watch your mobile phone, don't play games, don't fantasize, don't daydream, and live a full life, you will be fine. My son always says that. I don't believe it. I lead a hard life. I live a normal and ordinary life, not depressed. Cry so hard that you can't even beat your chest. Be grateful and feel sorry for your parents. Work hard and you won't get this disease!

Are you putting too much pressure on yourself? Poor conditions are not terrible or sad at all, because we were born in the countryside, and the conditions of every household can only be said to be average. We can only see how the situation in a certain city in China is developing on the news. In fact, there are many provinces, cities and towns with poor conditions. As long as you try to do what you can every day and have a warm home, let the rest be natural! You can talk to your parents and tell them your inner world. Maybe you will heal yourself without seeing a doctor! Good luck. Come on! [Smiles]