First of all, make full preparations for the conversation.
Talk with students, both individually and collectively. No matter what kind of conversation you have, you should know and study the students in advance.
Understanding and research on individual students. 10 For many years, every time I took over a new class, I asked the students to write a resume, communicate in the class, have a preliminary impression on the students, and then learn more through observation, investigation and interview. On this basis, students' head files are established, including: date of birth, family situation, personal interests, hobbies, specialties, ideals, learning attitudes, interpersonal relationships, views on society, hopes for teachers, etc. This makes it easier to get close to students' psychology, find the starting point of the conversation, narrow the distance between them and greatly strengthen the pertinence of the conversation.
Understanding and research on students' collective. After a period of contact, guidance and education, I initially formed an overall understanding of the class I attended, and then set out to seriously study this class group. Mainly: (1) students' current thinking and learning state; (2) the relationship between classmates; (3) the working attitude and method ability of class cadres; (4) correcting class collective public opinion; (5) Students' collectivism concept; (6) The current development level, characteristics and trends of the class collective in morality, intelligence, beauty and labor. With a comprehensive understanding and research on these, when talking with the whole class, we can seal our throats and hit the nail on the head, so that praise, criticism and education can be implemented.
In addition, the understanding and research of students' individual and collective should also consider the stage of their development. The first, second and third grades have their own characteristics, so it is not necessary to measure them with a ruler, but should be based on? Which mountain sings which song? Only in this way can we get twice the result with half the effort, improve the quality of conversation and achieve? Know yourself and know yourself, and fight every battle? .
Second, the art of personal conversation.
When the dialogue is well prepared, the class teacher can have a dialogue with individual students according to their situation. It should be pointed out that our class teacher should talk to students in a wider range, not just with problem students; Also, the head teacher should have foresight, and don't wait for the problem to appear before looking for it.
I often talk to individual students in two ways:
One is a motherly dialogue. This kind of dialogue is like a trickle, flowing into students' hearts; For example, the spring breeze blowing into students' hearts. There was once a student, the youngest in the whole grade, who was in the first grade, but in the third grade, puppy love appeared, which caused an uproar between teachers and students. Teachers in all subjects sympathize with him and do his ideological work one after another. As a class teacher, I didn't talk to him in time, and I didn't stab others in the back in class. This is not conducive to the change of his understanding. We wait for teachers, parents and teachers of other subjects. Home? Later, I found a book about puppy love, asked him to go back and read it, and sent him a message? A man should have a clear conscience and live up to his own conscience? Two days later, he returned the book to me with a note in it. Teacher, your short words are worth a thousand words. I knew that I had made a mistake. Watch my moves! ? Later, the student was admitted to a key middle school with excellent results and entered a higher education institution. There are two other students who are timid, have poor learning foundation and have strong self-esteem. They ranked the last two in a monthly school exam, but their scores had to be posted, which made me really embarrassed. Finally, I decided to talk to them before publishing the results. First, I asked them how they felt about the exam, and they all cried. I asked them to estimate their ranking. The last two? ; Then I asked them to talk about their feelings; On this basis, I analyzed the reasons with them, found the gap with others and said a lot of encouraging words; Without any complaints, they feel more concerned and warmer than their parents. Speaking relative to maternal love is talking about maternal love. Our class teacher should be careful when using it, and advocate the use of mother-like speech, which will make the prodigal son turn back and let the students pull back from the cliff, thus changing their lives and promoting their healthy physical and mental development.
The second is to talk like friends. This kind of dialogue is suitable for students who are particularly interested in friendship. One student, as far as I know, is the bully in the class. He often beats people, plays truant, steals things, doesn't do his homework, and doesn't listen to his mother at home. His mother can't help him. She never talks about studying and often gambles, but this student is very loyal. To tell the truth, any class teacher doesn't want to have such a student, and neither do I, but there is no choice but to? Decree by destiny? Go masturbate and try to change him; At first, I thought I would scare him with a three-axe when he didn't know how to do it. As a result, he was not afraid, but let me down. To this end, I changed my strategy. I chat with him, tell him about the world, tell him about the Three Kingdoms, tell him the truth of being a man, get along with him as a friend, and care about him from life and study. After repeated conversations, he changed many bad habits. Once, I heard that he was smoking. One Sunday afternoon, I took him and rode to Jiuxian Mountain with several other students. On the way to visit this mountain, we sat down in a quiet place and chatted while eating fruit. Then we talked about smoking. He told the truth, vowed never to smoke again in front of several other students, and smoked with the teacher. I think as a student, he is a person with flesh and blood and feelings. As long as we treat them equally and talk to them like friends, they will be deeply infected and repented. Of course, this requires our class teacher to have profound psychological knowledge and always have an insight into students' psychology.
Third, the art of collective conversation.
Group talk, here mainly refers to the conversation with the whole class, including thinking, study and life.
It requires us to find the right time, use long and short sentences, rhetorical questions, parallelism sentences, imperative sentences, exclamatory sentences and other rhetoric, and use the cadence and urgency of pronunciation to enhance the momentum of language and make students' hearts tremble. This kind of conversation requires the class teacher to have rich knowledge, be able to draw inferences from the past and talk about the present, and appropriately use some proverbs, idioms and famous sayings to enlighten students, enhance their persuasiveness and improve their understanding level. Once, I was inspired by all the teachers for many times in a class, and the students' enthusiasm for learning was obviously improved, and the time spent on learning was much more than that of the previous semester; However, after a test, the students' test scores have not improved much. At this time, I estimate that students' thoughts will fluctuate; To this end, I took a special class to list the success stories of great men in ancient and modern times, such as Nobel inventing explosives and Edison inventing light bulbs. There is no one who has not succeeded through countless failures and great efforts, especially in learning. In the example, I asked many questions (such as? What do you think? ,? How do you feel? ) and ask (for example? No? Why worry? Wait. ) arouse students' attention and deep thought; In addition, I also increase the loudness of the voice in time to increase the intensity of the language, which greatly stimulates the students' enthusiasm for diligent study and the depth and breadth of understanding the problem. In view of students' fear of difficulties, I often quote some common sayings and famous sayings in group talks, such as? No matter whether it is bitter or not, think about the 25,000-mile long March; Tired? Think about Lei Feng and Dong Cunrui? ,? Eat a little bitter, and you will become a master? ,? Knowing that there are tigers in the mountains, you are biased towards the tiger mountain? ,? Learning is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat? ,? There is a road in the mountain of books, but there is no limit to learning the sea. ,? If you can't get cold, you can't get plum blossom fragrance. Wait, tell the students like an avalanche, and let them realize the truth of diligent study. In the group conversation of the students in the second class, I try my best to treat what I said as an eloquent speech, so that they seem to be listening to a prose poem, as if they are enjoying a "Flowing Mountains" and "Moonlit Night on a Spring River", from which they are influenced and infected by beauty, and then ripple in their hearts, leaving a deep impression on their minds and becoming catalysts and nutrients on their way to study.
Fourth, individual conversation and collective conversation complement each other.
In the conversation with students, we should combine public criticism with individual comfort and persuasion, so that they can realize the strictness and love of teachers; In particular, we should not only enjoy public criticism, but also do patient and meticulous persuasion. After our class teacher approved it, we should coax them, so that the criticized people will have no ideological burden, take it orally and eliminate the gap.
Once, a boy in my class fought with other students and skipped class for one day. I was very angry. When I got to school, I severely reprimanded him in front of the whole class and fined him to sweep the floor for a week. In class, I found him in a trance and dull expression after being criticized; After class, I invited him to the office and kindly encouraged him to fully express his views. At first, he refused to cooperate with me. After repeated persuasion, he showed his sincerity. After listening, I first affirmed that he did the right thing, and then patiently and meticulously told him the danger of fighting and the rules of being a man. Finally, he said? If you hadn't told me this, I wouldn't have come to study tomorrow? . Therefore, as class teachers, what should we pay attention to? Batch? After that? Coax? This can save an out-of-school teenager.
There is a student in my class. He got good grades in all subjects, but the only fly in the ointment was that he was careless. I got 79 points in the first physics exam, and many other students were above 90 points. When I know, let him talk to me alone. From the conversation, I found that he was absent-minded and careless, and didn't seem to realize the consequences of carelessness. So, I decided to use him? Saving face? The characteristics of? Hurt? He did it once, so at the class meeting, I first praised him for his calculation in front of the whole class? Ok, the whole class is the first, and then the conversation turned and pointed out that only half of the ten multiple-choice questions were chosen correctly because of carelessness, and compared with another classmate in the class who was all right. From then on, this classmate got rid of his carelessness and his grades didn't fluctuate greatly.
Countless examples tell us that to transform a student and promote the leap of students' thinking, it is far from solving the problem by individual conversation or collective conversation alone, and the best effect can be achieved by combining the two.
No matter what kind of conversation, the class teacher should choose the right time and find the breakthrough point, for example, when the students make progress, when the students are abnormal, when the students are injured, when the students encounter difficulties, that is, when the students need to talk most, talk in time; ? It's now or never, okay? Missing the opportunity will greatly reduce the quality of the conversation, reduce the effect of the conversation, and it is difficult to leave a deep impression on students.
The specific methods can be summarized as the following six points:
First, treat life equally, don't you? Condescending? . When teachers talk to students, they shouldn't put on airs, they shouldn't give preference to one another, but they should treat them equally. Put yourself in the students' shoes, so you will often find that different angles, different situations, different methods and starting points to understand the problem will lead to completely different conclusions. Therefore, only by treating students equally and making friends with them can we truly understand their inner world and educate and guide them in time and accurately.
Second, we should talk in secret, shouldn't we? Empty preaching? . When talking with students, you should tell the truth and the truth. Every student has his own study and life circle, with joy, anger, sadness and joy. Therefore, it is necessary to understand and care about every real little thing in study and life, and to integrate with students in good faith, so that students can accept it easily and willingly.
Third, be patient, right? Care about complaining? . In order to solve a thorny problem, you must be patient when talking with students. Even if the talk is not smooth, there are some misunderstandings, and even if you hit a nail, don't lose heart. Let nature take its course, let nature take its course, and don't care about and complain about the students. Everything has a process of change, and so does students' understanding.
Fourth, choose the timing, isn't it? Eager for success? . For some students who are stubborn or have extreme understanding problems, they often need to talk with them. Fire head? If you can't talk it over, you don't have to rush in, but you have to take it? Cold treatment? We'll talk when the time is right. If it is inconvenient at school, you can also choose home visits to talk about it. The place has changed and the atmosphere has changed, which is conducive to heart-to-heart exchange of feelings, guiding the situation and solving problems.
Fifth, be good at listening, aren't you? Prejudice? . There are many advantages to doing so. When students encounter problems or unsatisfactory things in their study or life, they always want to find someone they trust, especially a respected teacher in their hearts. Even after listening to the story quietly, he/she will feel much more comfortable. If the teacher doesn't know the situation and doesn't listen to the students, he will be preconceived, self-righteous, make irresponsible remarks and even accuse them for no reason, which will definitely do more harm than good to the students.