Some time ago, the hit drama "Top Floor" reflected the influence of family environment on people's personality. The rich second generation in the play all have their own psychological problems. For example, some people are jealous, eager for love and overbearing, and it is their family education that causes these psychological problems.

Starring Shane. Why is she so jealous? That's because her mother has been strict with her since she was a child. In her mother's mind, no one is allowed to lag behind, so she should be the best. If someone is better than her, her mother will severely criticize her and ask her to work harder to be a good person.

In this view of education, Shane can't stand others being better than himself for fear of his mother's criticism. Because the Excellence of others will bring misfortune to herself, she is very jealous and will do harm to others.

There is an example in Adler's Psychology of Children's Education: a boy is very rebellious and refuses to obey, which has caused great trouble to his parents. The reason is that his father always whips the children when they do something wrong. Because his father thought, "If we don't destroy his will, he will be unscrupulous in the future." And this way to eliminate the will is to whip the child. This wrong way of education leads to children's bad character. It can be seen that family education has a great influence on people's character.

2. Family education affects people's values.

I had a classmate before, and he did everything with a purpose. Every time he does something, he must carefully consider the gains and losses. If the loss outweighs the gain, he will quit. How did this value of the supremacy of interests come into being? I didn't understand until I met his father one day. At that time, his father was chatting with him and talked about the topic of interpersonal communication.

I didn't catch the details clearly, but the general idea is this: making friends should not be based on whether you like it or not, but on whether that friend is helpful to you. For example, your current friend, whose family conditions are so poor, will it help you after graduation? Maybe I'll bother you again. You should find some friends with good family conditions, so that they can help you in case you have a bad life after graduation. You may not understand what dad said now, but later you will know that dad is good to you!

Of course, this statement has its inherent truth, so I won't comment here. But obviously, with family education, children naturally have values that focus on interests.

Family education has a great influence on a person. I hope parents will think twice before educating their children.