Children in single-parent families should keep emotional contact with their parents: "When a husband and wife divorce, no matter who is right or wrong, the children are innocent, and it is their responsibility to reduce the psychological impact of divorce on their children." Xu Hui said that children in single-parent families usually lack long-term communication and care from one partner. Parents should try to adjust the influence of family changes on children's emotions, pay attention to children's emotional changes, and continue to provide warm, consistent and authoritative ways to treat children so that children can relieve stress and depression. When conditions permit, adoptive parents should always create conditions for each other to have contact with their children. Of course, the other party should also take the initiative to let the children feel that the love of both parents is constant, so that both children and parents can maintain close and deep emotional ties. "The education of children in single-parent families is often the mother. Mothers usually have higher expectations for their children. If children make a little mistake, they will be blamed or punished. In the long run, children may learn this way of solving problems and apply it to others outside the family. " Xu Hui warned. Aggressive children should not be treated in an aggressive way: society should give more care and guidance to children from single-parent families and solve some practical difficulties. Creating a non-aggressive growth environment and providing a playground that can reduce the possibility of conflict are simple and effective ways to reduce children's aggressive behavior. For example, take away (or not buy) aggressive toys such as machine guns and rubber knives; Providing enough space for strenuous activities will help to reduce the occurrence of accidents such as collisions and crowding, and prevent incidents from escalating into hostile conflicts. Many children in single-parent families will have some aggressive behaviors. At this time, it is not difficult for us to solve the problem by attacking. We should let the children know the harm of the attack and let the children of single-parent families know the best way to solve the problem. When a child's emotions are out of control, parents should be cautious and calm. In addition, we should create a healthy and harmonious growth environment for children. Eight laws of single-parent family education 1. Always express praise and encouragement. Pay attention to praise each other in life and don't criticize each other. 2. Have fun with your children. Let the children say three things they like best and want most from their parents. Children usually want their parents to say "I love you", "You can stay up late", "Let's go to McDonald's" and so on. 3. Seize every opportunity to stimulate children's self-esteem. 4. Cultivate children's diversified values, hobbies and so on. Reduce disputes within the family and don't force the consistency of family members. 5. Teach everyone the skills of listening. When communicating with your child, let him speak 10 minutes, no matter right or wrong, don't criticize him, and cultivate your child to be sure that you are listening. Then, you close your eyes and think about all this, and then communicate with your child. 6 children will inevitably disagree with you on issues such as feelings and employment. Let the children tell their reasons. If communication doesn't work, put it on hold for a few days and try again. Don't avoid outside help. Your friends and counselors can provide you with ways to overcome family obstacles. 6. Quietly tell children the fact that their parents are divorced and encourage them to face the reality bravely. To do this, first of all, the party who lives with the children needs to accept the reality of divorce calmly. So you can face your child calmly and tell him that you are going to start a new life. 7. Give children a sense of security and don't use children as a weapon to retaliate against each other. The biggest blow to children from parents' divorce is a sense of insecurity. Therefore, it is very important for children to know that although their parents are divorced, they will never lose their love for their parents. Let him feel that although he only lives with his parents, his life is as safe and stable as before, and there is nothing to worry about. To do this, it needs the cooperation of both parents, which is very difficult for most divorced couples. You may not want to cooperate with someone who may cause you a lot of pain, but you can't transfer your gratitude and resentment to your children. 8. In a single-parent family, mother and son (father and son) should be independent in dependence. Two generations in a single-parent family are often too close emotionally, which is a natural emotional alliance, but excessive emotional dependence is easy to produce negative effects. Therefore, it is the wisest choice for single-parent families to let their children and themselves have the psychological awareness and ability to live independently.