Methods 1: Educate them consciously.
1, let your children become caring. Your child may be too young to understand the importance of "giving", and even smiling at people in need is of great significance. Don't let children feel that they should volunteer only when they want to make their resumes look better; It is important to educate them to give feedback to the society frequently. There are many voluntary services to choose from. You can go to nursing homes, hospitals, schools and communities. You should always volunteer and bring your own child so that he can help.
2. Let your children see people from all walks of life. If your child is surrounded by only upper-middle class people, or people who are all engaged in the same industry, he will not have the awareness of cultural diversity, socio-economic diversity and ethnic diversity. Make sure your child doesn't stay in his "greenhouse" all the time until he can talk to all kinds of people. Many people don't like being with people of different races and classes before college. Don't let children wait until college to meet people who are different from him.
3. Travel with children as much as possible. This doesn't mean that you have to take your children to France for a holiday every year. It just means that you should take your children to different cities, states and even countries, if the budget allows. Let your children see that there are many different kinds of people in the world; They look different, their languages are different, and from the inside, everyone is not much different. If your children realize that there are many different lifestyles and cultures in the world very early, they will not use "we" and "them" to separate different cultures when they grow up.
4. Make sure your children are grateful for what they have. Thanksgiving should not be the only time for children to be grateful. Your child should make a gratitude list at least once a week, perhaps before going to bed, so that he or she can always think about all the things to be grateful for-a loving family, delicious food on the table, roof overhead-which many people in the world don't have. If your child gets into the habit of reciting these lists, gratitude will become his second nature.
5. Make your child aware of what is happening now. Although it is not good for your child to be exposed to murder and genocide at the age of 3, he or she should get into the habit of reading news stories and newspapers, so that he or she will get into the habit of paying attention to current events at home and abroad. News should be easy to digest. Talk to your child about the news you read or saw, and discuss whether it is wrong and why.
Let your children know that the world is not black and white. Just like the American invasion of Syria, these current affairs news are always in a gray area.
6. Make your children feel national. Even if you don't have the budget to travel to other countries, your children should read books from other countries as soon as possible. At first, you can play games with your child to help him or her remember the capital and nationality of each country. When children grow up, you can talk about the relationship between different countries and the importance of mutual respect between countries. Helping a child to build up the consciousness of being in another country can let him know that his country is not the center of the universe. This will enable your children to make the right decisions in the future.
7. Read non-fiction literature and tell it to children. Although reading is of great help to children's reading, writing and critical thinking, when your children grow up to a certain age, you should not let them just read novels. Although there is a lot of knowledge in Babe Bear or myths and legends, you can also choose some non-fiction literary works to read for your child, whether it is to educate him about different animals or different countries. Instilling the child with the real side of the world helps to build his consciousness.
Method 2: Teach him a sense of responsibility.
1. Make sure your child is responsible for his or her bad behavior. If your child makes a mistake, no matter how minor the consequences are, he or she should learn to admit and apologize as soon as possible. Don't let children avoid making mistakes when they are four or five years old, because children are easy to listen to reason when they are young; Let the children know that they have made a mistake and feel ashamed of it. Don't let the child put the responsibility on other children or an imaginary friend-let the child develop the habit of admitting mistakes and let the child be responsible for his actions.
Holding the child responsible for the mistake will make him realize that he is wrong the next time he does something wrong.
When your child admits to making a mistake, remember to understand and accept an apology. Making your child feel responsible doesn't mean you have to make your child feel bad.
2. There is a correct reward and punishment mechanism. You don't need to hit the child to warn him; Actually, you shouldn't call either. Form a punishment mechanism for children's bad behavior, such as standing in the corner or taking away their favorite toys. It is also necessary to develop a reward mechanism to let children know that his good behavior can be recognized. Be consistent. The reward and punishment mechanism is implemented every time. You don't want your children to think that because their mother is tired, they can escape punishment; You don't want him to think that being a good boy is not important at all.
Tell the child that he is a good boy and don't underestimate this power; This will help him build up his self-worth and make him realize the value of others.
Letting your child know the consequences of bad behavior will reduce his possibility of committing crimes in a corrupt society in the future.
3. Let your children do housework. Children should not be rewarded for washing dishes, cleaning toys or cleaning spilled milk. Your children should understand that as family members, it is an obligation to do these housework. Tell him that you are proud of his contribution, but let him feel that the housework he does is a kind of contribution, not just helping you. This will help him to establish an inner sense of responsibility, which will be transformed into his sense of serving the society, whether he is rewarded or not.
Let the children know that you have done a lot of housework. Everyone should help with housework; So should social contributions.
4. Let your children have a sense of responsibility to their brothers or friends. If your child is the boss of the family or neighborhood, let him have a sense of responsibility to his young friends or brothers, protect them, teach them right from wrong and help them stay away from trouble. Tell him that he is the eldest brother, he should be more intelligent and capable, and he should use his ability wisely to guide children's behavior correctly, instead of bullying children and taking advantage of their shortcomings. Making your child responsible for young children will make him a serious and responsible adult and help the weak in society.
5. Make your child a responsible citizen. Good citizens are the key to social prosperity. If you want your child to change a corrupt society, you must let him know that he should not only be responsible for the people around him; He should surpass himself and make positive contributions to society. Teach your children not to litter, clean up rubbish in public, smile at people in the street and respect the needs of others. Teach your children to volunteer to clean the community. Asking a child to help other citizens clean the park can make him feel good about his hometown.
Method 3: Cultivate children's conscience
1, to help children distinguish right from wrong. Tell your children that this is good and that is not good; Also explain to the children why this thing is good and that thing is not good. Your child should not only know what to do and what not to do, but also know the moral rules and logic behind it. Don't warn children: don't steal other children's toys; Tell him it's wrong, because he violated other people's property, which is a sign of disrespect.
Don't just tell children to say good morning to their neighbors in the morning; Tell him it's important to be polite to others.
It is wrong to teach children to cheat. Let your children know that any form of deception, from bribery to tax evasion, is unforgivable under any circumstances. Tell your children that cheating in the exam is a bad behavior, and one should be confident that he can finish the exam; Honesty is the only way to succeed in life. Tell your children that any liar feels outside the framework; But the most important thing is to make changes within the framework, not outside it.
3. Make sure that your child develops inner moral consciousness. Don't make children obey family rules and school rules in order to avoid trouble. Although this is a good reason, your child should realize that these rules are fair and controversial, and he should be himself first. Then if you don't follow these steps, you will do harm to people around you. When your child violates or abides by the rules, ask him why. He shouldn't think that obeying the rules is just to please his mother and father or teacher. He abides by the rules because he understands the influence of good and bad behavior.
Not all rules are fair to your children. If his school, or church, or friends' housework is unfair to your children, ask them for your children's sake.
4. Teach your children to respect others. Your children don't need to feel sorry for everyone. Very tired, even too humble. But your children should pay attention to others, have the ability to understand others' feelings, and look at the problem from others' perspective. This will help your child see the world from other angles and make him treat others better. For example, your child is upset when he comes home because the teacher scolded him. Don't say that the teacher is a bad person, talk about why the teacher is angry; Maybe your child has repeatedly violated the teacher's rules, or everyone has violated the teacher's rules. Tell him how much trouble this will cause the teacher.
It is wrong to teach your children to steal. A six-year-old child may not understand that embezzlement is illegal, but he can understand that it is wrong to steal cookies from school cafes or friends' toys. Teaching children to take away things that don't belong to you is wrong from the beginning, and in many cases it is illegal. Teaching children these things as soon as possible will make him understand the truth, and as long as he is not caught stealing, he will not feel okay. If your child steals something, order him to return it and let him explain why. Although it will make him feel ashamed, it will make him understand a lot.
It is wrong to teach your children to lie. Lying is another disease in a corrupt society. Your child should understand the correctness of telling the truth as soon as possible and tell him that a small mistake can turn into a big lie, which will hurt many people. For example, telling the truth and admitting the consequences is much more important than living a lie and fooling others. Your children should know that lying is not something a sober person should do. Telling the truth is much more important than protecting yourself. When your child grows up, you can teach him the difference between telling the truth and being too honest.
If your child understands the harmful effects of lying very early, he will seldom lie in his later professional life, and he will not stop others from lying maliciously.
Tips to achieve and let children achieve.
Have a sense of responsibility for raising children.
Warning not to be angry with the child.