The child grows up gradually. In the process of learning and upbringing, parents' attitude is the key, so how to teach them in life?
Many people begin to learn how to be parents after they have become parents themselves. There are many different stages of children's growth, and the needs of babies at each stage of growth are of course different. Therefore, parents should listen carefully to their children's needs and have the same attitude. If parents' attitudes are inconsistent, children will feel that the principles and attitudes of adults are always changing, which will make them feel at a loss.
Adults all know that what children do is to be taught, not born. Nowadays, parents often think too carefully about their children, and contradictory emotions often appear in different things. Once the baby's needs can't be delayed smoothly, there will be impatient tough attitude or passive surrender. In fact, good habits are developed bit by bit in life, and many children will not adapt at first. It will be better for children to get used to it again and again. For example, reward points, verbal praise and so on. It can guide children to finish it automatically and spontaneously, so that children do not have unpleasant emotions in the process of waiting, and prevent waiting from turning into a war for children to see.
Delaying satisfaction is not to limit children's needs. Therefore, when children have needs, parents should face them with a positive attitude. If the request is appropriate, but it can be met later, let the child wait for a while. If he does, give them encouragement and praise to strengthen their motivation to learn.
The baby is crying, do you want to coax it right away?
For newborns, the most direct way to express their demands is to cry, but parents often don't know why the baby is crying, so when the baby starts to cry, they will rush to pick up the child and coax him. Is it the best solution to coax children when they cry?
Most of the demands of newborns are straightforward, that is, crying to tell their parents that they need care. Of course, there are many reasons why children cry, so parents should treat them differently. If the diaper is wet, uncomfortable and dropped, parents should of course solve it immediately, otherwise it will make the child feel uncomfortable and affect his physical and mental development.
However, in some cases, you can let the baby wait for a while. For example, sometimes your baby is just hungry. There is no need to give children a chance to learn to wait while giving them milk powder. You can give your child some boiled water, talk to him and let the baby know that there will be milk to drink soon. This will not only let the baby learn to wait, but also allow adults more time to prepare, so as not to be in a hurry. In addition, parents' attitude is also very important in delaying satisfaction. In the local area, parents must be gentle and firm, and they can tell their baby without delay: "Wait a minute, mom will come right away." "Baby lovely, you see mom put this toy away, come and hug you. Wait a minute! " "Look, the milk is ready. Mom can bring a small towel and you can drink it. " It is the most ideal way to train your baby without affecting his normal life.
What if the child can't eat well?
Sometimes children don't eat well, they run around and let adults chase them, or they just watch wonderful cartoons and don't want to eat without TV. At this time, you can tell your child, "Shall we sit down and eat first?" Because I have to go out to play for a while after dinner, and I can't go out until after dinner. "Or:" You can watch cartoons after dinner, but if you don't eat well now, your mother won't let you watch cartoons. "Let the child know that even if he waits for a while, he can achieve his goal and get the satisfaction he wants.
If the child doesn't want to sit down and eat, don't chase the child. Replacing punishment with reward and intimidation with inducement are good ways to help parents make their babies obedient. Never force a child by coercion or condemnation. It's not that children don't want to eat. Only compared with comics, the latter is more attractive. Parents should let their children finish things one by one, such as eating first and then watching TV, instead of throwing away what they should do at once. Such bad habits are formed, and they will inevitably "pick up sesame seeds and lose watermelon" in the future.
Do you want to buy this toy for your child right away?
The child took a fancy to a toy and clamored to buy it, but this age is not suitable for him to play with. Do you want to buy it for him right away to make him happy, or keep him waiting?
This time is also one of the best training opportunities to delay satisfaction. Parents can tell their children why they don't buy it for him now, or they can promise to buy it for him some time later. For example, they can say to him, "Baby, you can't play this scooter yet. It's dangerous. When you are older, we will buy it on your birthday, ok? " Come on, we'll hook up and buy. "At this time, most children will agree and wait for their birthdays with longing; However, some children insist on buying immediately. Parents can "threaten" their children: "Mom said to buy it on their birthday. If you don't listen now, mom won't buy it for her birthday. "Let children understand that sometimes patience will bring better results, while impulsiveness will make things worse.
In the face of children's learning, parents always think a lot about their children, but often ignore the delay of satisfaction, leaving children with no chance to think independently. In the cultivation of life ability, we should also use counseling to give children a chance to think about what they can do before getting help from their parents. Parents can let their children develop good observation ability and a calm attitude to deal with things while waiting through stories or games. Let the child wait for a while and let him learn and think while waiting.