I don't know if "Golden Powder Family" reminds you of Jin Yanxi as bright as sunflower, Leng Qingqiu as elegant as lily, or the rise and fall of a big family. Sometimes when I look back on this play, I often wonder why Jin Yanxi lost Leng Qingqiu.

Many people are curious: why did these two people drift away in the end?

In fact, the saddest thing about this story is that Yan Jing and Leng Qingqiu didn't alienate each other, but they never really approached each other.

At the beginning of acquaintance, clear autumn said: different people will not come together, just like the vines in my yard, how can they bear lilies? On his wedding night, he did prepare lilies all over the floor.

Qing Qiu asked: Will you like me forever? Yan Xi didn't answer.

You see, in fact, there were clues from the beginning, but at that glorious moment, reason lost to emotion. Did Yan Xi really love Qing Qiu? At least he thinks so himself.

Leng Qingqiu, the name always reminds people of that sentence: Affectionate has been sad since ancient times, and it deserves to be left out. Love at first sight leads to dark feelings.

Whether Wan Ku is stubborn or stubborn, he likes her. There is no vulgarity of makeup, eyes like a clear spring, and a smile full of aura.

People, as the name suggests, are as light as water, cold and proud and independent. She is a woman half new and half old. The new is rebellious, the old is too honest and contradictory.

One is to pay attention, the other is to chase, and the third is to talk. People always remember that if life is just like the first time, they forget: what is a sad autumn wind painting fan?

Rich kids naturally have a variety of ways to chase girls. Of course, these methods are equally applicable now, and sometimes they are tried and tested. Use identity money to please the woman's parents and get a good impression.

Don't hesitate to rent the house next door and have a chance to get close to it. High-profile banners on campus show love and satisfy each other's vanity. Romantic thoughts create a flower sea surprise and satisfy the girl's heart.

Yes, many people say that the tragedy of this marriage is caused by her vanity. But this is only part of it, and you can't blame clear autumn. After all, she is a junior high school student. Yan Xi once gave her nearly a thousand pearl necklaces. After gesturing on her body, she could not bear to part with them, so Mrs. Leng had to let her keep them first and finally accepted them.

It can be seen from this aspect that even if she is full of poetry books, she will inevitably have a natural vanity of beauty. Not so money-hungry, not so pretentious, just an ordinary poor woman.

Because the elders and wet nurses at home are really poor, and they really like to take advantage of small things. She is still young and has never seen the world (16-year-old high school students), so she is easily moved by all kinds of sugar-coated shells in Jin Yanxi.

Under the huge class gap, she got unprecedented care and protection. He is like the sun in life, warm and hot, melting her cold.

Having lost her father since childhood, she lacks fatherly love and longs for a fatherly person to love her. However, she mistook romance for reality. Gorgeous love and peaceful love are different.

My uncle acts as a matchmaker, but my mother doesn't. The family gave the choice to a young girl, pushing it to a seemingly bright future.

However, Jin Yanxi lived in Vanity Fair since he was a child, and he lived comfortably in the infighting when he opened his mouth. I have met countless ladies, seen movies, got together for drinks, and have rich social experience. His love for clear autumn is that he has seen enough gorgeous peony and peony, and the first thing he sees is fresh lily. I took the trouble to get it. Although I wanted to treat each other sincerely, I was in my prime of life and didn't want to stop there and live a dull life with Lily.

After all, how can a serious gentleman suddenly have that kind of nature? That is, mature people have seen all the prosperity and experienced all the vicissitudes before they can be indifferent to the world.

In this way, he is selfish, and this feeling is not much love. Because love needs ability, security, appreciation and respect, and restraint on self-behavior. He didn't. He likes lilies, so there are flowers that can be folded, and he can live or die. This is not true love.

And his passion for clear autumn is also helped by Bai Xiuzhu. At first, he had a good relationship with Bai Xiuzhu, but after seeing Bai Xiuzhu's wayward temper, he became more determined to find a "docile" wife.

At that time, Leng Qingqiu began to enter Jin Yanxi's fiancee list. From the beginning, Jin Yanxi hoped that Leng Qingqiu would not be as jealous as Bai Xiuzhu.

Yan Xi's excellent life background, flexible social means and considerate romantic temperament are actually very easy to impress a girl's heart.

Jin Yanxi sent the following gifts to Lengjia:

Move into Luohua Hutong, first send snacks+wine; (Song Runqing pays a return visit)

Send a shark fin banquet in the name of the teacher; (Mrs. Leng also embroidered with her own hands in clear autumn)

Six satin dresses; (Song Runqing returns two books)

A pair of shoes; (no return)

Box tickets for the theater+banquets coming back from the theater; (no return)

A painting; (Qing Qiu wrote a reply)

Pearl necklace worth about 2000 yuan; (I made a cake in clear autumn)

Engagement gold ring; (no return)

I recommended a job to Song Runqing and offered to borrow 300 yuan. (no return)

However, chasing her is different after all. This time, he not only spent money, time and thought, but also lost his soul.

He thinks this is love, because he has never spent so much time on anyone, full of love, even a dude.

In the process of pursuing, it is better to enjoy the vanity of being watched by others than to fall in love.

Women like to be envied, and men like to catch prey that is recognized as difficult to catch. They performed a vigorous play, which was appreciated and watched by others, so they entered the play and felt that they were unique golden couple.

The support from the family further promoted their development process. The two met for half a year, got married and got pregnant for life.

Marriage is different from love.

Love is full of love and water, but marriage is not good. After marriage, you are faced with tea, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, living habits, consumer class, circle of friends ... these are things between two people.

None of them has adapted to this great change.

At first, he stayed at home with her all day, chatting, walking and visiting the park. Later, they gradually lived the most comfortable life.

Leng Qingqiu before marriage and Leng Qingqiu after marriage are completely different images. Before marriage, she was an ignorant girl seduced by material things. After marriage, she is an independent woman with rebellious spirit.

She is introverted and unsociable. After marriage, I don't integrate into other rich people's cards and gossip, and I study at home all day to raise my gender.

Yan Xi is active by nature, indulging in debauchery all day, playing cards, going to the theatre, partying and drinking, and doing nothing in his career. ? At the beginning of Qingqiu, I couldn't understand his spending money like water, and I couldn't stand his rich boy style.

They went through the process from negotiation and quarrel to cold war and reconciliation again and again, and also got a way to get along with each other: non-interference.

Seeing this, you will want to ask, has Jin Yanxi changed since she got married?

In fact, when they first met, this book wrote Yan Xi's psychology like this:

As soon as he got back to his room, he remembered the girl in Fallen Flower Lane and thought to himself, what the boss said is really good. If you have a girlfriend, you are naturally a new type of woman in the field of communication.

But it's better to be a partner for a hundred years and take charge of family affairs. If I marry that girl back, I think her love must be pure and gentle. Never like a woman in a communication field. Not only can she not interfere with her own actions, but she will also interfere with yours.

As far as beauty is concerned, that kind of natural beauty is better than people who jump out of the powder pile in the communication field. All right, that's it.

So it is not hard to see that Jin Yanxi thought clearly from the beginning: a girlfriend is different from a wife who goes home.

He thinks that a wife should be simple, single-minded and gentle, regardless of him. The appearance can't be rouge powder in the powder pile.

And Leng Qingqiu is perfect.

In this way, it can't be said that Jin Yanxi changed his mind after getting married. He is always selfish, playboy, rebellious and playful.

In the clear autumn heart, he is really different from before marriage. Because clear autumn doesn't know what Jin Yanxi really wants, she is still thinking about the beauty of her first acquaintance.

Can you tell me what happened to Jin Yan Xi?

In fact, he represents the contradiction of most men at present, and can be affectionate or ungrateful.

More unfortunately, if Qing Qiu before marriage is just an ignorant and simple student, she will gradually become more independent and thoughtful after marriage, so she will be even more unhappy when she sees Yan Xi's bad habits.

However, in order to live in harmony with them, Qing Qiu took a step back and stopped being arrogant. She chose to ignore and let go.

A man out of control is like a wild horse out of control. He was busy socializing and drinking all day and came home late. A gentleman without any life skills depends on his family for all his living expenses, but he is still generous. He never thought of sharing his worries for his father and doing his part for his family.

In that clear autumn, she entered a circle of aristocratic young women, who were fighting in the dark, didn't know how to get what they wanted, and didn't like to mingle with them.

The family rules of the Kim family never let his wife go out to work to make a living. Yan Xi has no income. She has always been very independent and wants to earn an income for her family.

I go out to be a private school teacher every day. When my family found out, my mother flew into a rage and accused her.

She cried and felt that she had done nothing wrong.

Husband doesn't live up to expectations and can work hard. What's the matter?

At this time, Yan Xi looked at her delicate and touching and comforted her.

But what is even more frustrating is that he still doesn't work hard to reassure his wife and is still in a daze.

He can't see her needs, and she can't hear his prayers.

After all, Zhang Henshui really knows women, and he knows women's obsession and pain. Leng Qingqiu, whether a school girl or a rich boy, or in the last period of her life, her clear autumn temperament, like her name, runs through, and she lives in "Never Fade".

Premier Jin died of illness, and the tree fell apart. In the past, old friends avoided suspicion one after another, and the Kim family suffered a financial crisis and eventually collapsed.

In the past, the four sons only knew extravagance and waste, and they completely ignored the big family. Three-room aunt has four sons and four daughters, each making a living and leaving the golden house.

Jin Yanxi has never worked, and fair-weather friends are unwilling to lend a helping hand. He is conceited and unwilling to do jobs that are considered low.

Fighting, fighting all the time.

There was no peace and harmony in the past.

She takes care of her newborn child at home, but he doesn't go home every night.

So she expressed her dissatisfaction and he yelled at her.

Then she was disappointed and he left.

The TV series really beautifies the role of Jin Yanxi, and there is a description in the book:

Yan Xi said: "It doesn't matter to chat with friends in the future."

"Which friend is it?" Clear autumn asked.

Yan Xi took off all her clothes and put them in the drawer of the drawer table, so she plopped the drawer shut and said, "I like coming back at this time. Maybe I won't come back all night. What is it to you? " It's okay to interfere like this! Let me give you a piece of advice, mind your own business! "

According to the writing in the book, there is no doubt that this is love rat.

It's not hard to understand.

Because they fell in love with each other.

Clear autumn in Yan Xi's eyes: youth, talent, out of touch.

Therefore, after marriage, even if it is to care about daily necessities, or to be jealous of her husband's time at home, it is against the woman's original love.

In the eyes of clear autumn, Yan Xi is a powerful gentleman, brilliant and charming, who loves himself to the extreme.

But after marriage, the prodigal son is a playboy, irresponsible and self-motivated, and does not tolerate her work or create romance infinitely like before marriage.

There is another reason why Jin Yanxi's attitude has changed greatly after marriage-the so-called Qi Fei Da is not that lovers will deliberately bully you with their family background, but that they will unconsciously adopt different standards to treat you.

Just like Jin Yanxi's attitude towards Bai Xiuzhu, even though he is disgusted in his heart, he still wants to maintain his superficial feelings. However, he can easily blurt out the words Leng Qingqiu and divorce.

In desperation, he got in touch with Miss Bai Xiuzhu again.

He knows that now she can take him out of poverty and save his lost position.

Qing Qiu heard that he and Bai Xiuzhu were going to Germany together.

She said: If I had known you and Miss Bai were a couple, I would have helped you.

He said: what I said has never changed, never.

But mixed with too many misunderstandings and quarrels, the original sweetness has long been exhausted. Two powerless people are like two rows of wheels in opposite directions heading for the world of mortals. Whether there is love or not can no longer be the reason to continue to walk together.

Some people say that it was a mistake for these two people to come together, and it was doomed to a tragic ending from the beginning.

If you marry, it will not only harm Leng Qingqiu's life, but also benefit the Kim family and myself. And with born to love's temper of dying for love, Bai wants to clean up Kim's family, but he must try his best to stop it.

And Leng Qingqiu, together with Ouyang, has his own small fortune and his own career, and he doesn't have to be tired of overthrowing the Kim family.

However, back in time, I want these two people to know each other again and choose again. I believe Jin Yanxi will still be passionate about Leng Qingqiu, and Leng Qingqiu will still marry him.

So, the real tragedy of the "Golden Powder Family" is:

People can't escape from this flat land, Master Yuan. Leng Qingqiu is, so is Jin Yanxi.