1, more decentralization, respect for children. When children have their own ideas, this is a good thing. It means that children have grown up and can be independent. Parents must regard their children as their own accessories. You gave them life, but their thoughts were independent. You should respect your children. If what he said is right, you might as well listen to it.

2. Don't compare children with others. Don't compare your own children with other people's homes: the most important thing in educating rebellious children is not to compare yourself with other people's children. This is very damaging to self-esteem. Every child has his own bright spot. Similarly, every child has his own shortcomings. You should praise your children more to make them more confident.

3. Don't invade children's privacy. Many parents don't know what their rebellious children are thinking, so it's a good idea to peek at their children's mobile phones and diaries. Maybe you will soon find out whether your child is puppy love or secretly going to the internet cafe, but your child will hate such parents more and more and become more and more alienated from you.

4. Observe communication. Is to observe the way children communicate with themselves. Many times, parents must go beyond their own roles and observe the problem of children's rebellion from the perspective of a third party. And treat children from different angles and make limited accommodation.

5. Ask for advice. When disciplining children, you should sometimes ask others for advice to broaden your mind. It is best to strengthen communication with children's teachers and understand children's usual performance in school.

6. Communicate with children equally and become their friends. What adolescent children hate most is that their parents nag and criticize education, so parents really need to put a low profile and don't always limit the status of children and elders. Interacting with children and exhorting them like friends can guide them to develop in the right direction more easily.

7. keep trying. Parents should always change the way they discipline their children. When children are young, they usually just talk and listen. After entering middle school, you should try two-way communication and listen to your children's suggestions. Once a method is found to be unworkable, it is necessary to change the method at any time and keep experimenting until an effective method is found.