So, how to cultivate a child who is mentally healthy and away from darkness?
First of all, cultivate children's ability to be alone.
Psychologists say that security is not a sense of dependence. If a child needs a warm and stable emotional bond, he needs to learn to be alone, such as locking himself in a safe room. Children's sense of security does not necessarily require their parents to be around all the time. Even if he can't see you, he will know where you are.
Secondly, let the children get a certain degree of satisfaction.
Adults need it? Response? Children's needs, aren't they? Satisfied everything.
Some boundaries have to be set artificially, and children's demands cannot be met unconditionally. "Another prerequisite for happiness is that children can withstand the inevitable setbacks and disappointments in life."
Only when children understand a truth can they get something that depends not on desire but on ability, and can they get inner enrichment and happiness. First of all, we can't always satisfy our children's wishes. Don't give in to all the children's demands. Rejecting some requests will be more conducive to children's psychological peace.
Third, face up to his shortcomings
If the child is different from other children, such as the child is too fat, has ear problems, or has extreme personality and behavior, parents must not deny these facts, but actively discuss with him, find a solution, or face the reality. In this regard, the best way is to find an expert, because children usually take what experts say seriously.
Fourth, let him do it.
Let the child do what he can as soon as possible, and he will be more active in the future. Don't do too many things for children, speak for them and make decisions for them. You can think about it before you get involved. Maybe the children can do it by themselves. If it's not dangerous, let the children try it themselves.