Job responsibilities 1: communication responsibilities: talk less and listen more.
Listen to your child patiently, so that he will open his heart to you. Don't turn the conversation with your children into endless preaching, which is the most common mistake many parents make when communicating with their children. You should set aside a fixed time to communicate with them. This time belongs only to you and your children. Don't be disturbed by others. Then all you have to do is listen to them carefully and quietly. After listening, you can help them clear their minds and put forward some suggestions to solve the problem.
Job responsibilities 2: Pay attention to responsibilities: Learn as much as possible about children.
Is to know more about children, whether at home, in the community or at school. You should know where your children live and who they are with. You also need to keep in touch with the parents of your children's friends. As many families as possible sit together to eat, and encourage children to talk more about things they encounter in life. You should care about your child's life, but you don't have to interfere too much in his life. You should give your child enough space to explore for himself. If you make reasonable rules for your child from the beginning, you can make him feel more at ease.
Job responsibilities 3: Responsibility norms: Establish clear values for children.
You must make rules for children to understand which manners and qualities are very important. What values do you and your husband (or wife) want your children to establish? What qualities do you have? List the things you think are important, such as honesty, courtesy and kindness. . Make another list of qualities you don't want your child to have. After discussion between husband and wife, list the values that you agree with your children's needs. When children begin to understand, they can always instill these values into them. Of course, it is best to strengthen their impression in children's minds at regular family meetings.
Job responsibilities 4: description of binding responsibilities: strengthen the concept of discipline and put it into practice.
Discipline does not mean punching and kicking, and it is not necessarily related to punishment. As parents, we must pay close attention to the meaning of this word. A child who has no sense of discipline will inevitably hit a wall when he grows up in society, and he may pay the price for it all his life. Let children live in a family with rules to follow. Parents should be consistent, fair and reasonable in dealing with problems. Always tell your children the code of conduct you want them to follow and urge them to follow these standards. After you persist in this way for a period of time, you will find that your life will become more orderly and efficient, and your children will appreciate your efforts today in the future.
Job Duty 5: Intuitive Duty Description: Don't blindly imitate other people's rules.
Remember an old proverb: caution is better than regret-this is the truth. Let the child know which family rules she should abide by. Please ask her to call you when she has difficulty in implementing these rules. Moreover, get to know your children's friends and their parents as much as possible, so that you can know whether your values are consistent.
Job Responsibility 6: Praise Responsibility Description: Moderate praise
Praise children: children need your encouragement, which will give them a sense of accomplishment; But too much praise will make them feel that every little thing they do deserves praise. If they don't get it, they will be hit hard and may eventually blame you. Praise children moderately. Too much praise will weaken praise and not encourage children. If you don't want to lose your children's trust in you, you must remember: don't abuse praise.
Job responsibilities 7: Peacekeeping responsibilities Description: Solve disputes between children as soon as possible.
It's normal for brothers and sisters to make fun of each other, abuse each other and even fight, but you don't need to get involved. All you have to do is put an end to their meaningless quarrel at once and tell the children that their behavior is not desirable. Teach children to communicate in civilized language, and don't attack each other with fists and insults. I'm afraid it's of little significance to investigate who caused the quarrel after the children. Of course, the children pass the buck to each other. If you don't interfere too much, the child will solve the problem by himself. They may forget it soon. Children should be taught some interpersonal skills, so that they can learn to listen to others' opinions and know how to deal with their differences.
Job Responsibility 8: Prestige Responsibility: Be a democratic and "authoritative" parent.
Families need a democratic atmosphere, but parents and children can't talk about democracy in everything, because sometimes some children's ideas are inevitably immature, unreasonable and selfish. In this case, if you are led by your child and can't make a decisive decision, then your prestige in the child's heart will be lost for a long time. It is not difficult to establish one's leadership position. You just need to remember that the final decision is in your hands. Talk about democracy with children, but don't give up leadership. Every family member has the right to speak. You should listen carefully to your child's point of view, which shows that you respect him. However, if no one can reach an agreement, parents will make a decisive decision. If you do this from the beginning and stick to it, children will gradually understand and agree.
Job responsibilities 9: Let go Responsibilities: Ignore disputes that have nothing to do with children.
On important issues, it is natural to argue clearly. And let the children deal with those unimportant problems themselves. Trust your intuition, children can handle these things. Get to know your children better, so that you can know what you can let go. You need to take responsibility for something that you think your child may not be able to handle well. If you are sure that your child can make a wise decision, don't get involved. If you learn to "decentralize" moderately, children will often respect your opinions more on important matters. On the other hand, if you control them in details, you will not only arouse children's disgust, but also lose their respect for you.
In short, if you want to be a good parent, you must first know what your "post" responsibilities are and do your duty well. It is easier said than done, and it is even harder to stick to it.