"Should children be paid for housework?" It is a question that we often hear from parents in financial and business education. The reasons for supporters and opponents are clear, which makes many parents particularly embarrassed.

Those who support giving children housework pay think that doing so can just let children understand from an early age that money is hard to come by and really is not blown by strong winds. There are indeed many chicken soup stories that tell us that when children buy their favorite toys with the hard-earned money of washing dishes, washing dishes and cleaning for several weeks, they change their past attitude of not cherishing them and take good care of them, and the whole person becomes practical.

But opponents also want to hear what they have to say. Because some people say that doing housework is the obligation of every family member. Mom and dad won't get any reward for doing housework. Why do children have to be paid for housework? Once this mentality is developed, children in the future will always feel that doing housework is an extra thing.

We often say, "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?" Those children who feel that "sweeping the floor" is a burden will only be more powerless in the face of the future. And experience also tells us that some children will be picky about housework according to their remuneration, and if they feel that they have earned enough pocket money during this period, they will refuse to do housework.

In fact, many arguments that sound reasonable to both sides have not won or lost. Finding a compromise or not doing this problem is the best policy. However, we have to do housework. It is a common understanding that children need to do housework. After all, doing housework can cultivate children's self-care ability, communication ability and time management ability, and can also reduce the burden on parents and enhance the feelings of family members.

Second, the compromise method.

1, housework is unpaid

So, since I have to do it, the advice I can give you is to compromise. How to fold it?

Quite simply, we can establish some real "things we should do" and "things we must do". These things should be compulsory and should be borne by every family member. In addition, some housework can give children some rewards, because those jobs can make our family better.

So now, the key to solving the problem is to look at what children of different ages should do:

Children aged 4-5 should learn to tidy their rooms and beds, wash their underwear and tidy up their toys. These should be "mandatory"

Children aged 6-7 should also help clean and set tables and chairs at home.

Children aged 8-9 should learn to wash dishes, vacuum, take out the garbage, store the washed clothes and help clean the bathroom.

For children above 10, they should be able to help their families clean up together.

All kinds of housework mentioned above, on the one hand, are daily and repetitive, on the other hand, are directly related to our most basic living standards, that is, health, hygiene and safety, so they should all be mandatory. Moreover, under the correct guidance, children will be proud of their contribution to the family.

Give a small example. I can't remember what grade I was in primary school. One afternoon, before dawn, my father went home from work. After working in the kitchen for a while, he came out and said to me, "son, you have grown up." Starting today, I will see if you dare to help us take out the garbage. "

Dad likes to use the word "dare", but I am excited to ask "What is the difficulty of taking out the garbage?"

Dad went on to say, "Taking out the garbage requires you to go downstairs and cross the road." Do you dare to cross the road alone? "

I said, "I dare."

So dad said, "well, then you take this garbage and I'll watch you from the balcony to see if you can handle things smoothly." But be careful when crossing the road. "

So I rushed downstairs with a garbage bag, crossed the road, threw the garbage bag into the trash can, turned around, and when I was about to cross the road, I saw my father staring at me on the balcony on the second floor with a smug smile on his face. I still remember this photo.

After I went upstairs, my father happily said to me, "Yes, yes, I can work." I'll leave the garbage to you in the future. The most important thing is to be careful when crossing the road. "

I think most children are eager to "grow up", eager to be recognized by their parents and eager for their parents to say that they can "work" and "do things". This kind of recognition, as well as the kind of support and concern that my father looked at me from the balcony, is warm enough. But if dad suddenly gives me a dollar at this time, saying it's a reward for taking out the garbage, I think it's ruining this beauty.

Therefore, parents should guide, encourage and undertake the housework that needs to be done repeatedly every day, or just now. If children can't even undertake these tasks, they will lack perseverance and sense of responsibility in the future, which is a huge hidden danger for their future career development.

2. housework that should be paid

Then, there is some work. No matter how old the child is, as long as it can be done well, parents can consider working for the child. However, I have to remind you first that the reward here is not the weekly allowance we mentioned before, but some "extra money". However, parents can not interfere with the final destination of these extra money, but they must have the right to know.

These jobs include: cleaning windows, cooking, walking dogs, watering flowers, taking care of other pets and shopping.

Why this job? You see, in fact, from the perspective of time cost, it is often very uneconomical for parents to do it themselves. Get a housekeeper to clean it, 15 yuan per square meter, or 150 yuan if a family only has 10 square meter. It takes an hour or two to clean the 10 square window.

Therefore, if the work of cleaning windows is given to children, children can exercise their hands-on ability and parents can make time to do other things. So you can arrange such jobs for children and pay them. As for how much, you can also decide according to your actual economic level. If the average price in the market is 150 yuan, then I think it's no problem to at least give the child 15-30 yuan.

By the same token, if a child can cook a meal or even a dish for his family under the care of his parents, it is far better than eating out, which not only exercises the child's ability, saves money, but also enhances the feelings of his family. Then you can also refer to the price of a dish for this reward.

Walk the dog, water the flowers, take care of other pets and so on. There may not be much technical content, but children do these things and win time for you. You can consider how much the time saved is worth and then "trade" with your children.

Another typical housework is to ask children to help go shopping. You can also refer to take-away errands such as "Hungry", find a reasonable reward, and talk to your child.

Of course, if you want to take your children out shopping together, you can also give them an opportunity to earn extra money, which is bookkeeping. This is a method that many parents abroad will use.

Something like this. Before you leave, tell your child what you want to go out and buy this time, and let your child make this list.

Here, I suggest that parents let their children write on paper instead of on their mobile phones. It is better for children to use mobile phones less, but this is beside the point. What if you write it down on paper? When children write and write, they will deepen their impressions.

When you arrive at the supermarket, check the list when you find a commodity and write down the price of the commodity. When all the necessary things are found, parents can ask their children to calculate the price quickly while they are standing in the checkout aisle waiting for payment.

At this time, on the one hand, you can exercise your computing ability; Second, help parents audit accounts in case the cashier miscalculates; Third, it just lets children know the price of each commodity again, and also knows what the consumption situation at home is like.

This is a way to kill two birds with one stone. Of course, if the child does well in this shopping, we can give the child a "review fee", such as 5% of the total shopping price, or reward the child with an ice cream or something, so that we can discuss it with the child.

In addition to these common methods, parents can also encourage their children to come up with their own ways to make money according to the actual situation. As we said at the beginning, it's a good thing not to be afraid of children falling into money, and to let children contact money generously and consider making money. Encouraging them to look for business opportunities will make them more thoughtful, and in such exchanges, they can see their judgment on the value of each job.

For example, the child volunteered to help his father reinstall the computer because his computer card was stuck. He said that he wanted 20 yuan. Because he searched on Taobao, there is such a service, worth 20-30 yuan. At this time, you should be very happy.

For another example, now more and more people in China are beginning to accept buying and selling second-hand goods, which is also a very good phenomenon. The more developed countries and communities, the more people accept this kind of "old recycling". So many of us like to sell things we don't need on "idle fish". For children with extra energy, it is not bad to let them help sell things and earn a small commission from them.

Remember the basic principles of financial and business education that we first learned? Let children spend their own money and do their own things. Today, on the topic of housework, we gave the above suggestions, all in the hope that children can get extra income through extra work besides voluntary work.

Ok, that's all for today. See you next time!