I was curious and opened it. I shuddered after reading it.

I won't put the original video of the speech here, so I will simply relay this gentleman's point of view.

His core view is that a child must experience setbacks, suffering, humiliation and oppression, and your child is a defective product without a hammer.

He gave such an example. He said that in the process of steelmaking in Jinan Iron and Steel Plant, he saw the workers constantly squeezing the iron bumps around him and asked the workers curiously, what is the purpose of doing so?

The worker told him that every time the iron pimple was squeezed, some impurities would go out. After repeated extrusion, the rest is pure steel. And a few less squeezes are defective and unqualified.

He also quoted the original text of Mencius: Heaven is going to demote to a great post, and people must first suffer their minds, work their bones and muscles, starve their bodies, and mess with their actions. Therefore, patience has benefited them a lot.

Finally, he came to such a conclusion: your child, you must let him experience setbacks, suffering, humiliation and oppression. Only through tempering can your child become a talent!

Having said that, the audience applauded.

I have to admit that the charm of a speech lies in the fact that the audience is easily aroused by the speaker and unconsciously agrees with the speaker's ideas.

Indeed, at first glance, what Mr. Wang said makes sense! However, can this passage really be pursued as a criterion for cultivating children? Is it really a necessary condition for children to become talents? Can parents really practice properly?

I don't think so.

I have a classmate who started doing business with his parents in the first grade of primary school.

When I came out of school, my parents took us back to a warm home, and the family ate around a warm table. My classmates threw their schoolbags on the stall and put their hands into cold water to kill fish. He is really a contemporary version of "Brother Fish Killer".

The fisherman's grades are very poor, and he is often invited by his parents and teachers, and his classmates look down on him. Senior classmates fought with him, directly carried him out of our classroom like a chicken, and then let him come back with two nosebleeds.

In terms of setbacks, sufferings and humiliation, we have never experienced as much as this fisherman's brother, but this tempered child has not become a talent, but has reached the age when he should have gone to school. Because he lost in a fight, he stayed in 14 forever.

My sister is a scholar. Because her family is poor, she was put in foster care at her aunt's house. She suffered a cold shoulder. She was "hungry, hungry and naked, so she endured", but in the end, the girl "endured" and became a thief.

A friend of mine, a reader, tried many times to persuade my sister to turn over a new leaf, but the girl never looked back and finally did not escape from prison.

In the process of tracing back to childhood, many visitors I have received will find such a point-in a certain time and space, as weak children, they are bullied, suppressed and abused by their relatives and even their parents with unspeakable words, and are constantly excluded and ridiculed by the outside world because of their own shortcomings.

Did these negative experiences make them later? number

On the contrary, these unbearable experiences are deeply engraved in their subconscious and become inferiority and humiliation that they can't wash away all their lives.

Frustration and suffering are not sufficient conditions for a child to succeed. Many children who have grown up in suffering have gone to the abyss of fate. Frustration and suffering are not necessary conditions for a child to succeed. There are many well-educated and famous families, who grew up well-fed and well-fed, and later became the pillars of the country.

Humiliation and depression are not excuses for abusing children, especially when they come from their own biological parents, which often leave children with unspeakable pain for life.

Educating people is different from steelmaking. Using steelmaking to educate people can only cultivate a puppet, not a living person with a unique personality.

Education is not industry, but agriculture.

Every child is a seed, and some seeds like to be warm and cold, so they should always be exposed to the sun; Some seeds are resistant to shade and like water, so it is necessary to avoid sun exposure.

Some seeds need hydroponics, while others must be local. Some seeds like acidic soil, while others need alkaline soil.

Seeds are different from seeds, so we should teach students in accordance with their aptitude.

You can't freeze all the flowers in severe winter just because plum blossoms can stand the biting cold, let alone point to plum blossoms and say to lotus flowers, "Look at plum blossoms, it's forbidden to freeze them too much. Look at you, I can't stand the cold at all!"

There is no comparability between children.

Educating a child is like raising. We must first find out what kind of plant he is, what characteristics and needs he has, and then provide him with suitable sunshine, air and water according to his needs.

If you don't understand the characteristics of the seed itself, do it according to your own imagination. Those who like the shade must let it bask in the sun, and those who are afraid of water must give it fierce water. They also call it frustration suppression. That's not breeding, that's killing.

What is talent?

The talents we understand now are actually very narrow, which is nothing more than giving children great skills, making big money and having a place in society in the future.

This is not a gift, it is just a social citizen of different classes.

Talent is a person who can play his own nature.

On the premise of giving full play to one's own nature, become a person who is useful to society and even to mankind.

This is not based on the parents' will, but also determined by the children's own characteristics.

If it is a towering tree, it can be the pillar of building a house;

It is wheat and rice, which can provide source energy for life;

It's exotic flowers and herbs, so that you can spread your unique fragrance among people.

And the key point is that the talent itself is happy, and he will not let himself live a depressed life for some external financial honor.

How are talents formed?

It grows naturally in a simple, pure and unconditional environment of care and love.

Therefore, parents should never listen to those remarks that want to suppress, humiliate and bruise their children. Don't spoil children, doesn't mean don't encourage children, not sure. Parents give their children enough love, appreciation and encouragement to accompany them, so that they are more motivated to grow sturdily and dare to become the person they want to be the most.

Parents don't have to work too hard or too hard to raise their children.

Follow the trend, follow the trend, follow the trend, and the child will naturally grow into his ideal appearance.

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