I finally lived up to my father's expectations and was admitted to the university. After graduation, I found a stable and well-paid job. I asked my mother again, and she said, "Study hard. Sitting in the office, you can't do anything without sunshine. "
Mother's view of education is always inferior to that of her father, which stems from the fact that her mother is "illiterate" and has never read a book since she was a child and has been to school. But now it's really hard for a mother to change her mind!
Although he has made some achievements in his studies, his personality is incomplete. I am not confident, passive and even a little cowardly. The reason for my temperament is the long-term difference in family education between my parents;
Therefore, in family education, there are differences in parents' educational ideas, mostly because parents' cognition is out of sync. I could have told my parents why I was tired of studying, but I was worried that my mother would be more determined not to let me continue studying.
Parents and children are an organic whole. Only when parents have the same concept of parenting can children show their nature and tell their parents their thoughts, future and plans. Parents can educate their children better.
What are the effects of different educational concepts on children?
So what should parents do in life? There will be no difference in educational concepts?
Parents need to study together.
There are differences in educational concepts between husband and wife, largely because of cognitive asynchronism.
On the issue of educating children, parents should study and communicate together. Never put the problem of educating children on the other side, share the good parenting concept with the other half, and let the husband and wife learn together.
02. Talk to your partner about your childhood education.
Parents' education for their children will largely repeat the educational model they received as children.
Husband and wife should sit down sincerely and talk about how they were educated when they were young. What do you think is wrong? Only in this way can we understand each other's educational style.
03. Listen patiently to why the other half adopts such an education method.
If you don't agree with the other half's way of education, please listen to him patiently to explain why.
Be patient, respect the other half's ideas, and don't interrupt his explanation halfway. Ask yourself why you object. What are you worried about?
04. Put aside differences on the same issue.
If the educational ideas of husband and wife have a lot in common, then when discussing a certain issue, we should throw out the differences in an enlightening way.
Since the two sides have a solid educational common ground, it will be easier to understand each other when discussing a certain difference together. Exercise each other's attitude towards educational differences in a hypothetical way, so that it will be easier to reach an agreement when encountering educational differences.
05, the other half is educating the children, please don't disturb.
If one of the husband and wife does not agree when educating the children, they cannot immediately intervene in front of the children.
You should calmly talk to your partner about the reasons for your disagreement without the child present.
06. Encourage the other half to get rid of right and wrong thinking.
Even if you are not satisfied with the other half's education method, you should respect each other's contribution to your children. Different voices should be allowed in family education. Tell your partner what you disagree with, but still respect him.
Don't blame the other half for the child's poor education, blame him for his improper education.
07. Tell your child that you need to inform your parents before you do anything.
If you find the child playing tricks, you can ask the other half before answering him.
If the child says, "Dad, let me play a game?"
A mother can say to her child, "I'll ask my father first."
08. United front
Even if couples have different educational concepts, they should be consistent in front of their children. Try to find a set of educational models that are satisfactory to both sides and put them into practice.
If children see that their parents are very consistent in education, they will not use their parents' differences to "lie".
In family education, the influence of educational differences is very far-reaching. Living in a family where parents are at odds for a long time will affect the establishment of children's view of right and wrong.
Because the child doesn't know what to do. What should I tell my parents? Parents will blame each other for not educating themselves well, and they have caused family problems! I was wrong, so I shouldn't make my parents angry. The child has such an idea, which will gradually make him weak, timid and inferior in the long run.
Some children will become "slick" and take advantage of their parents' disapproval for a long time. Parents gradually lose their dignity in front of their children. Such children are not practical and glib when they grow up.