As the child grows up, the soft and lovely doll in her arms slowly begins to change. When he is self-conscious, he will compare everything he knows and ask you: Why doesn't it snow in summer? Why are flowers red instead of green? Why do children go to school and adults don't? Wait a minute.
As a parent, how do you view the change of children? Is it simple perfunctory, or patient and meticulous guidance? Different attitudes of parents will determine children's future cognition of society, and even affect their life-long value orientation.
1. Tell children to learn to respect people's differences. Respecting differences is kindness.
When a child comes into this world, when he begins to know the world, he will see all kinds of differences. Some people are beautiful, others are different in appearance, some have slightly lower IQ, and some have different living habits. When children show discomfort when facing differences, how should parents educate and guide their children?
There is such a description of the poor Cunningham family in To Kill a Mockingbird.
Scoot took little Cunningham home for lunch. At the dinner table, he accidentally poured a lot of syrup on vegetables and meat, making the pot and tray loud.
I couldn't help crying. "Look at you, you poured so much syrup ..."
Dad gave me a hard look. The nanny called me to the kitchen and told me seriously, "Some people have different eating habits from ours, but you can't mention this to others face to face at the dinner table." That boy is your guest, even if he wants to eat the tablecloth, you can do whatever you want. "
Cool Run had never seen such a behavior habit, and she cried in surprise. Father and nanny expressed their recognition and respect for little Cunningham's living habits in time. In due course, we should educate and guide Scoot. I believe that in the later life, the little girl will never do anything embarrassing to others because of differences. Invisible Cool Run learned to respect others' differences and differences. And this respect for differences is the embodiment of human kindness.
Respecting people's differences is not only a basic etiquette and virtue, but also a basic education and personality.
Parents are a mirror of their children, and their words and deeds directly affect their future behavior.
Parents are a mirror of children, and children will reflect their own images from their parents. Parents are the most intuitive role models for children to be human from primary school.
For three generations in a row, ewell's family were immoral people in Mecom Town. Living in a black wooden house behind the garbage dump in town, I gave birth to a large group of children, but I never let them go to school. Living on government relief for many years, but buying alcohol with relief money. Children often go through the garbage to supplement their living. Ewell is an alcoholic, lazy and shameless. He is a scoundrel. His eldest daughter, Mayella, failed to seduce a young black Tom, but raped Tom. Addicks, a lawyer, defended Tom and saw through their tricks, making ewell's father and daughter lose face and become the laughingstock of the town.
Addicks is an upright, kind and compassionate person. When children are found to disturb or even offend the eccentric Radley, they should be stopped in time. Mrs. Dubos insulted Addicks for suing the nigger in front of her brothers and sisters, and satirized the Finches for being uneducated. Jim was so angry that he broke all the camellia branches of Mrs. Dubos in a rage. When Eddie found out, he asked his son to apologize to Mrs. Dubos. Brothers and sisters are dissatisfied with their father's behavior. Adix said, "Tom? Robinson's case touched the deepest part of a person's conscience. " When Scoot said that most people think you are wrong and they are right, he said, "Of course they have the right to think that, and their views have the right to be fully respected. But before accepting others, I must accept myself first. There is one thing that cannot follow the principle of conformity, and that is people's conscience. "
Addicks has a broad mind and is listening to the voices of two children. In his words and deeds, the children gradually distinguish right from wrong and are open-minded. If Mayella hadn't been born in a family like ewell and had a correct outlook on life and conscience, she wouldn't have done such a thing and wouldn't have ended up like this.
As the saying goes, what you plant will bear. Parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on their children's growth. If children want to be decent and promising people in the future, parents should pay attention to their behaviors and habits from their childhood.
Courage is doing the right thing, even though you know you may not succeed.
Addicks, a lawyer, decided to defend Tom after learning that the black youth had been framed and raped. At that time, racial discrimination in the United States was still very serious. Addicks is willing to defend the "nigger". Everyone thinks he is deviant. Brother and sister were laughed at by classmates at school and insulted by neighbors ... Faced with all this, when the children were puzzled by his insistence on defense, Addicks told his younger brother and sister, "It is not brave for a man to have a gun in his hand. Courage is knowing that you will lose before you start, but you still have to do it and stick to it no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you win. "
He explained the meaning of courage to us well. Addicks knew that Black Tom could not win the lawsuit. But he will not give up fighting for Tom's rights just because he is black. Although everyone is prejudiced against Tom, Addicks sticks to what he thinks is right according to his conscience.
As a lawyer, he dares to accept black criminal cases and only defends the facts. After receiving this case, a series of relatives did not understand. Knowing that he might not be able to reverse the outcome, he still fought for the parties and the truth, even regardless of personal safety and gossip, and insisted on defending it to the end. This is a kind of courage.
China has a saying that "do your best to listen to destiny", that is, if you do your best, you have to let nature take its course. Go all out when something goes wrong, no matter what the result is.
Write it at the end
Parents all over the world want their children to be kind, upright and brave. When a person can put himself in others' shoes and accept differences with understanding and tolerance, that is kindness. Kind people make people feel warm. Don't sell your conscience for your own selfish interests in life, and always uphold fairness and justice, that is, integrity. Honesty is the foundation of life. It is courage to do what you think is right and persist in doing it even if everyone opposes it in the face of uncertain results. Courage makes life more meaningful and sublimates life.
If you want your child to be a kind, upright and brave person, you should do it yourself as a parent!