? Do children need education or not? Chinese civilization has lasted for thousands of years. In terms of cultural and educational input and participation of the whole people, the present is the most important, at least unprecedented. However, the education of children is a major problem that puzzles Chinese people at present. For this reason, the whole family went into battle together, and the weekend holidays were all full. Finally, it was found that a "four unlike" was created. In the words of parents now, it is "parents lose money and children lose money." Education should increase our human skills, but now it has become a burden. How ridiculous is it?
? Whatever? This is the idea that parents have been entangled in. If they do, the chicken will fly and the dog will jump, no matter how they think their children will slide into the abyss. In fact, children will grow up regardless of whether they are in charge or not, but whether the result is what you want?
? "Move into Yin and Yang", as long as you take one, you will go astray. Just like the example given by Teacher Wang Gang, in the fields of education, medical care and sports. As long as the state is in charge, it will go astray and even go to the opposite side; It's always unpleasant to look after children anyway. Therefore, our parents always lament that when we were young, there were many children at home and adults could not take care of them. Children are engaged in their own work and grow up well. Why are children so troublesome nowadays? Now the times are different and the social environment is different. At that time, there was a natural hardship education, but now there is no such education. If parents do not create a difficult environment, the existing society (hedonism prevails) will naturally affect children, fearing that the results will not be ideal, so children need education and carry out hard education.
? Shankui said, if you learn from me, you will live. Just like me, you will die. Many times, we learn how to educate easily, and only learn behaviors superficially without understanding the principles behind these behaviors, which will lead to many problems. We see that the mountain field sometimes tortures and even beats children, creating setbacks and frustrations for his children to experience, and we will follow suit. However, the children love him more when the mountain leader does this. Sometimes we just copy it, but it backfires.
? In fact, it is very important for the leaders of the mountain to grasp the goal and motivation of education. Other specific behaviors can be seen by different people. Is the motivation of education to help children grow up? There are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand people, and everyone is an independent individual. Therefore, Confucius said that we should "teach students in accordance with their aptitude", the weak should be brave, and the brave should be cautious. Education is just a supplement. The goal of education is to know what kind of person you want your children to be. When the goal is set, there is a direction. Be an elite or something? "Excellence is not easy, and mediocrity costs more." Parents should understand their identity and status and be a trainer. Children are the main body of training to help children grow up. Understand the motivation and goals, means and methods can be handy, just like the martial arts novels say, martial arts practice to the realm, flying flowers and picking leaves can hurt people Then, the growth of parents is more important. Parents should be smarter than their children in order to guide their children to grow up. Rules should be made to better stimulate children's internal drive.
? If parents don't want to study, or are too shallow, they can only turn to schools and choose their own recognized schools. One yin and one yang is the way, how to connect and cooperate between home and school? Parents should carefully choose teachers and educational environment suitable for their children's growth. Once determined, we must work hard to cooperate, trust the teacher, and leave no room for the children. We should learn from the "cruelty" led by Shan. When children are young, it is more "bitter" at home than at school. Children naturally run to school, and don't let the home be too comfortable and become the rear area for children to escape. Parents should be rational and not resonate with their children's emotions. Parents teach themselves to grow up at home and give their children the necessary answers and guidance in the process of growing up.
? Human nature is downward. Most people in this world are willing to be mediocre, because most people don't want to get out of their comfort zone, and only a few people can get out of their comfort zone, make constant efforts and pursue Excellence. Let those mediocre people who indulge in desire sigh and look up.
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