Modern education needs a new relationship between teachers and students. The premise of establishing a new teacher-student relationship is to abandon the teacher's authority, change the absolute and irreplaceable nature of the teacher's authority in the past, and form a truly harmonious teacher-student relationship, so that the teacher's "teaching" is no longer a teacher's profession, but comes from the teacher's inner emotional needs. Students no longer regard learning as a painful chore that must be completed, but turn "asking me to learn" into "I want to learn" and form autonomy. The author believes that among the three basic relationships between teachers and students-teaching relationship, interpersonal relationship and social relationship, teaching relationship is the most essential relationship. Without teaching relationship, it is impossible to form a teacher-student relationship and realize the educational task and training goal of the school. However, without the cooperation of good social relations and interpersonal relations, it is impossible to complete the educational task only by teaching relations. Social relations and interpersonal relations have the functions of encouragement and lubrication in the relationship between teachers and students, which can ensure the normal operation of educational relations. Building a harmonious teacher-student relationship means building a harmonious teacher-student teaching relationship, social relationship and interpersonal relationship, which complement each other and are indispensable.

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Education is essentially adult learning. According to the theoretical framework of humanism, the construction of teacher-student relationship must consider the humanity of teachers and students, and harmonious coexistence between teachers and students is the basis of their existence. Teachers and students are equal in personality and independent individuals, and should respect each other. The essence of two-way interaction between teachers and students is to let students develop, that is, the coordinated development of knowledge, skills, processes, methods and emotions, attitudes and values (three-dimensional goals). It requires that in classroom teaching, teachers and students exchange ideas with others "on the basis of mutual understanding, openness, mutual trust and mutual support" and "share their own experiences with others, thus linking their emotions with others", and finally form a dynamic interactive field with active participation, independent thinking and coordinated development. The realization of this goal depends on teachers using educational wisdom, adopting educational strategies, trying to avoid inefficient and ineffective interaction in form, and vigorously advocating and advocating effective and efficient interaction with students to seriously think and generate sparks of thinking. Teachers should trust their students and admit that they will achieve something in the future as long as they are properly educated. As Han Yu said, "Disciples don't have to be inferior to teachers, and teachers don't have to be superior to disciples. They are profound in Taoism and specialize in their skills, that is, the so-called waves behind the Yangtze River push forward the waves. "Little Phoenix knows better than old Phoenix." Students are both a grower and an explorer, so students should be allowed to play an active role in this process and raise their awareness. Therefore, classroom teaching interaction should try to treat students equally, give every class and every student an opportunity, let every student show his personality in the interaction, experience the pleasure brought by communication, communication and dialogue, and really develop and improve in the interaction.

002. Establish a harmonious social relationship between teachers and students through dialogue and communication.

The so-called dialogue refers to the way teachers and students communicate and exchange on the basis of equality. It is an equal exchange of love between teachers and students, seeking knowledge and spiritual opportunities. This kind of dialogue is not only oral communication, but also in-depth knowledge and various exchanges. From the perspective of knowledge, there is a teacher-student relationship, but there is no teacher-student relationship. From the emotional point of view, students and teachers are independent in personality. Both students and teachers have their own rich inner world and unique emotional expressions, which need mutual understanding and respect. The unity of knowing and doing constitutes the basic connotation of the relationship between teachers and students. For teachers, it explores the hidden meanings, educational ideas and concepts behind some teaching events, teaching life and daily life, thus improving teachers' educational practice and returning narrative to vivid educational reality. For students, it improves students' learning practice by telling some learning events, learning life and daily life, and also brings narrative back to vivid educational reality. Listening, attraction and tolerance are "open" thoughts, experiences and emotions of both teachers and students in the spiritual level. Through these dialogues, the subject of education also realizes life dialogue and life dialogue besides teaching dialogue, so education has become a real communicative activity. Education should be a dialogue between life and life, a true expression of the inner feelings of teachers and students, and a display of personal views and wisdom of both sides.

003. Build a harmonious interpersonal relationship between teachers and students with respect and care.

The dialogue and interaction between teachers and students is based on mutual respect and concern. On the one hand, dialogue is the premise of promoting direct understanding between the two sides, and mutual respect and concern can only be realized on the basis of mutual understanding. Through dialogue, different "boundaries" are merged to form a new consensus, which makes it possible for teachers and students to respect and care; On the other hand, dialogue is guided by respect and care, and respect and care are the purpose of dialogue. Without dialogue, it is difficult to reach a consensus and to understand and accept each other; Without respect and care, the dialogue will lose its direction. Only when the subjects respect each other can teachers and students confirm each other, grasp each other's uniqueness, meet and communicate spiritually and experience the same experience together. Only when there is love between subjects can teachers and students "open" and "accept" each other, truly enter each other's spiritual field, and realize spiritual understanding and equal dialogue. Similarly, teachers should bring smiles and encouragement into the classroom so that every student can enjoy the same happiness. Li Xigui, an educational reformer, famously said, "Squat down and talk to your children." As a teacher, we should voluntarily give up our sense of superiority as an authority, abandon the "podium complex" as much as possible, enter the students, "squat down" and have an equal and democratic dialogue with them, be good at understanding students, observe their emotional feelings from their perspective, be good at "empathy", put ourselves in their shoes to understand and think about problems, and give timely praise and appropriate encouragement, thus reducing or even eliminating students' fears.

We believe that in this harmonious relationship between teachers and students, both teachers and students will experience equality, democracy, freedom, respect, trust, friendliness, understanding and tolerance, affection and care, and at the same time, they will be encouraged and spurred, encouraged and influenced, guided and persuaded, and form a positive and rich attitude towards life and emotional experience.