First of all, I don't agree that children should not help themselves to provide for the elderly. Because I have worked hard to raise her, I need her to take care of her later life. If she dies young, she may be exempted from taking care of her old age.
Second, if a child doesn't need to support the elderly, he is irresponsible and selfish, and then no one will help him support the elderly in the future. Because education comes down in one continuous line, if he doesn't have such an idea, then his children certainly won't have such an idea.
Third, we should instill such an idea of providing for the elderly in him from an early age. Because although everyone is independent, her parents have worked hard to raise her and paid a lot of time, energy and even some money, so they definitely need to pay back together.
Finally, filial piety is actually a traditional virtue. As a child, we should cultivate filial kindness from an early age. If she has developed a selfish behavior since she was a child and is unwilling to take care of her family and pay, then in the future, she will just take care of herself.
Therefore, I think that if you have children, you need to support the elderly and take care of your elderly parents, because it is not so safe to live in a nursing home or hire a nanny, and there is no happiness in your later years. So children should understand this truth.