There was a time when "happy education" was popular, but then it quietly disappeared. If someone advocates "happy education" now, it will certainly attract a scolding voice. Why? Because the "happy education" advocated by some people in the past completely misled parents, making them think that as long as their children can be happy, they can do anything, even if they don't want to study, they must follow their wishes. What's more, blindly obey children and let them develop a special sense of self. As a result, adolescent education is out of control.

Do you want "happy education" or not? I think it is necessary, but we must give a correct interpretation of "happy education", instead of blindly entertaining children or completely letting them play happily. Let me talk about this so-called "happy education" in detail.

The core of "happy education" is to build on the basis of rules, not to indulge children at will. Nowadays, too many parents ignore the rules because they spoil their children. There are no family rules at home, and it is simply not allowed to cultivate children's awareness of obeying the rules. Just indulge the children and let them enjoy the superficial freedom. However, when this freedom reaches a certain age and a certain stage, the negative effects will suddenly break out.

Example: MengMeng's mother has always advocated "happy education" for her children. When the child was in infancy, her mother saw that there were so many rules in kindergarten every day, and the child often cried and didn't want to go to kindergarten. So MengMeng went to the children's teacher and made it clear that he was not so strict with the children and tried to let them relax. Isn't it safe to send them to kindergarten? As long as safety is guaranteed, it is best to give children more freedom.

After listening to MengMeng's mother's firm attitude, the teacher couldn't say anything. In class, other children must sit down honestly and do as required, but MengMeng can stand up without discipline. If he doesn't want to stay in the classroom, he can go outside and slide. From then on, the child is really like a happy swallow, and can no longer see the phenomenon of crying and unwilling to go to kindergarten.

However, when children enter the first grade, MengMeng's mother receives complaints from teachers every day. They either run around in class, tear up books in class, deliberately talk to classmates around them, deliberately harass classmates in class, and sometimes deliberately attack classmates during recess. MengMeng's mother is like a fireman every day. She goes to kindergarten from time to time to solve problems. Finally, MengMeng's mother couldn't run around like this any more, so she had to quit her job and become a chaperone.

Analysis: This case is a microcosm of some parents who advocate "happy education" at present. They only want their children to be happy, but they neglect to cultivate their awareness of obeying order, rules and discipline from childhood. When children's behavior lacks the constraints of rules, there will be cognitive and discrimination bias in behavior. Such children often have no awareness of obeying discipline rules, so they will destroy discipline and rules everywhere, followed by hitting a wall everywhere.