Steps to enhance communication thinking:

1. Stop, understand yourself and accept your emotional feelings. In the face of some children's thoughts and behaviors, when we feel that we can't agree and accept them, the first reaction may be to speak out loudly and let the children change their minds immediately. At this time, stop, first understand their concerns about their children, and ask ourselves, do we really need to respond immediately? Do I need to deny the child's idea at once? Or I can stop for a while and listen to what the child has to say. Give children plenty of time to express themselves.

2. Observe the child without any evaluation, see how the child does it, ask the child questions, what he will do, what kind of plan he will have, how he will realize this plan, and what makes him happy in this plan?

3. Through our observation, by putting ourselves in the child's perspective to see the world in which he lives, we can understand the truth and consideration behind what the child does and find the bright spot of the child. We will see the core of this methodology: he must have his reasons for doing so.

Practice diary:

My daughter likes to move things to enclose the passage in the living room.

My judgment: It's disturbing to make a mess at home.

1. Let go of your judgment and understand that you need a clean and tidy environment, and your packed things are in a mess. I can understand when I am angry. Should I stop the child's behavior at once, or listen to her thoughts? Well, I can hear the reason why children do this.

I observed that the child lived in her own closed passage and put toys in it. I asked her what she was doing. Why do you want to move things here? She said I was building a house. This is my place . This is the door. I play with toys at home.

3. What's the significance behind children doing this? She feels a sense of accomplishment in playing in her own home, which makes her very satisfied and happy. My child is an imaginative, active and creative child.

We should trust our children. There are no bad children, only our parents don't know them well enough. There must be a reason for children to do so.