Helping children cultivate rational quality is not a one-off event, just like planting trees, it needs careful cultivation, suitable soil for growth, and sometimes even binding to limit it. German children can have more freedom and enough space to develop their interests and specialties at school, but on the other hand, there are rules that must be strictly observed. If students don't go to school unless you don't want to live! If you get up too late, you will face the choice of giving up breakfast or being late; Forgetting to put dirty clothes in the laundry bag means continuing to wear dirty clothes; Everyone has a notebook.
First, "students don't go to school? Unless you don't want to live! "
Someone once asked German students to play truant, and the children's answer was: "Students don't go to school? Unless you don't want to live! " At this point, the Germans have the same view: as long as one child has no education, there will be another curse in the future society. Therefore, if a child does play truant, adults will severely reprimand him when they see him, and the police will detain him. Society, schools and families are very strict about this, which will make children go back to school immediately and parents will be fined or taxed. All these make children realize that there is no room for discussion whether to go to school or not.
German education also pays special attention to children's civilized accomplishment. They believe that children's compliance with norms in behavior can not only promote their elegant taste and noble character, lay a solid foundation for their future success, but also create a beautiful interpersonal relationship of unity and cooperation for the whole society. This has attracted the attention of the whole people in Germany, and it has become a common practice to sign up for special etiquette lectures and etiquette workshops.
Parents cultivate their children's good living habits from the nuances. Every German child will receive a strict education at the dinner table, and the food on his plate must be eaten up, so that the child will establish the concept of thrift, which is also a kind of training. For example, Germans have the habit of eating some ice cream, chocolate and fruit after lunch, which is very tempting for children, but parents will not be flexible at this time, provided that they have finished eating first.
With parents' repeated training on correct behavior and ideological education based on emotion and rationality, children will take it as their responsibility to abide by these rules after a long time. Therefore, both adults and children regard maintaining public discipline, caring for the public environment and paying attention to civilization and order in various occasions as unquestionable things. In Germany, people can often be seen waiting in line patiently, or thinking for others and the public, and the whole society has formed a highly conscious and orderly civilization and morality.
Second, "Give up breakfast or be late?"
For children's rewards and punishments, Teacher Selich's suggestion is, "Although rewards and punishments should not be too frequent, they do play an important role. I know some parents often use material rewards to motivate their children to get good grades or let them do some housework. But this will make the motivation of children's progress only stay on external rewards, and they will not experience the real struggle and creative happiness; At the same time, they also have an illusion that no matter what they take the initiative to do, they can get money in return. Children must know that going to school and getting good grades is for themselves, and housework itself is also a duty that every family member must perform. Of course, if a child performs quite well, or makes extraordinary contributions such as cleaning the garden and painting the house, he should also enjoy the pleasure of reward. You can give them bonuses, or take the children to a place he yearns for.
The punishment of children should also pay attention to principles, otherwise the punishment will not convince the children, and it will lose its educational role. Children should be warned before punishment, thus losing the role of education. After a child makes a mistake, he must keep his word and make clear the parents' requirements and the reasons for punishment. The beginning and end of punishment should be clear, and don't let your family be full of resentment all day. "
Their child Phoenix got up too late several times, but later Mrs Selich corrected his mistake with clever punishment. She told Phoenix that she couldn't drive him to school. "I'm sorry, it's your own fault. You can choose to give up breakfast or be late. " Defining the appropriate principles and methods of rewards and punishments is to let the concepts of integrity, honesty and due diligence penetrate into children's hearts and make them truly become their code of conduct.
It's a pity that you have to continue to wear dirty clothes.
Under the education of family and school, under the influence of the whole social environment, whether it is the father's love and dedication, the mother's meticulous work attitude, or the high professional ethics consciousness of teachers and other social classes, these have made children's sense of responsibility constantly enhanced, and they regard it as an honor to abide by the creed and do their duty wholeheartedly. German law also stipulates that children 14 years old should undertake some obligations at home, such as shoeshine for the whole family. This is not only to cultivate children's working ability, but also to cultivate children's sense of social responsibility.
Mrs. Zgraff's way of educating children is very typical. "Children must be educated to understand that their different behaviors can have different consequences, so over time, children will definitely learn a sense of responsibility." Once her son came home from school half an hour late, and the mother fully understood this, but she also clearly told the child, "You will naturally lose half an hour while playing, so we must abide by this time." Mrs. Zgraff believes that children's sense of responsibility can be cultivated, especially in the details of life. For this reason, family education has taken many measures, such as letting children keep their savings passbook, which not only exercises their self-control ability, but also lets them know how to be diligent and thrifty.
Mrs. Zgraff admits, "Sometimes parents will waver between love and fairness, but they can't blindly accommodate their children's preferences because of their excuses and let them escape their responsibilities. Therefore, if a child forgets to put dirty clothes in the laundry bag, it can only show that he will continue to wear dirty clothes; And if he doesn't organize the bookcases according to the regulations, then we can only make a very' regrettable' decision in the face of his favorite TV programs. "
Everyone has his own notebook.
At the same time, this phenomenon can also be seen in Germany. Everyone has his own notebook, even housewives and primary and secondary school students are no exception. Germans will record their recent and long-term appointments, plans, business and private affairs in advance, so some people call Germany a notebook society. Most people refer to their notebooks before making a decision. Some people may think that the step-by-step life is too dull, and others may think that it is unnecessary to have one, but Germans believe that this can not only improve the efficiency of work and study, but also be related to a serious attitude towards life.
Germans believe that the chaotic relationship with time reflects their chaotic state, so they will exercise their children to live a planned life very early, and the children will learn to allocate his pocket money, control his time, complete his study tasks and give play to his hobbies, thus forming an orderly relationship. They believe that notebooks can help children become more punctual, orderly, neat and accurate, and at the same time, they can adopt a discriminating attitude towards things in daily life.
Children are carefully designing their own time, and at the same time they are also carefully designing themselves. It can be seen that Germans help children to establish a rational concept of facing life, not to confine them to rules and regulations, but to let them give full play to their talents and achieve a higher level of self-realization.