There are three main ways to cultivate aristocrats: family, school and social interaction. In fact, the education or edification of responsibility and freedom actually runs through it.

"Education" first comes from family education.

China people also attach great importance to family education, but modern people have a narrow understanding of family education. They send their children to play the piano on weekends, or let them recite the Analects of Confucius, and understand family education as knowledge, as if the more knowledge, the better. Actually, it's only half right Tutoring is not necessarily knowledge, it is a natural thing, it is kindness and nature formed invisibly in daily life, and it is elegance and nobility between gestures. This is an atmosphere, nurtured, not taught.

Emphasize humanistic education

British aristocratic children want to go to Eton College most, and they are also the most famous aristocratic schools. When a boy is born into a noble family, the first thing to do is to register at Eton College as soon as possible, otherwise it will be too late to register when you are six or seven years old. What does Eton College teach? Don't think it is playing golf, there is no golf course, and there is no practical knowledge such as business administration and finance. Going to an aristocratic school is not to learn useful knowledge, but to learn knowledge that seems useless today, such as Latin, and to be familiar with various religious and humanistic classics from ancient Greece, the Middle Ages to modern times, which is still the case today. What noble schools learn is not useful knowledge, but liberal arts. In ancient China, Confucianism, Confucius set up private schools, and Zhu and Wang Yangming set up academies, which taught similar liberal arts knowledge, that is, the so-called scholar-officials' learning.

Humanistic education is not general education. Like family education, it is not to instill some knowledge, but to make students become liberal arts through edification and various moral and social practices. To be exact, the core of humanistic education is not general education, but personality education.

The third step is socializing

Boys and girls will have a rite of passage when they reach the age of 16. First, they will become gentlemen and learn to get along with different people in a civilized way, which requires socialization. Parents bring adult children into the social circle. These social activities, such as dances, salons, dinners and hunting, have created public communication spaces. Habermas's modern public sphere was formerly the aristocratic public sphere, which was born in such a social circle. The ancient "coronation ceremony" and "sword (jρ) ceremony" in China have long died out with the times, and the 18-year-old adult ceremony in the new era is just an empty form that can only be glimpsed occasionally in big cities. The narrow social circle of young students is not much wider than that of captive pigsty.

True aristocratic spirit

The true aristocratic spirit should have three important pillars:

One is the cultivation of culture, resisting the temptation of material desires, not taking pleasure as the purpose of life, and cultivating noble moral sentiments and cultural spirit.

Second, the social responsibility as a social elite, strict self-discipline, cherish honor, help the disadvantaged groups, and assume the responsibilities of the community and the country.

Third, a free soul has an independent will and dares to say no in front of power and money. Moreover, it has intellectual and moral autonomy and can transcend fashion and trends.