I am very depressed that my elders pushed the habit that takes time to develop to the point of time, and I didn't know that the problems that happened at the point of time extended to the point of time.
Zheng said in his "Zheng Family Education Classroom" that giving birth to a child is equivalent to giving yourself a chance to start all over again and relive childhood.
When I read this sentence before, I thought it meant to relive childhood with children, play with toys that I have never played, and see scenery that I have never seen. Later, after listening to teacher Zhang Xi's parenting class, I had a deeper understanding of the sentence "Do it again".
Toys, scenery, etc. It's all sensory experience. The real meaning of doing it again is spiritual experience. Only by seeing your own growth process and yourself can you understand others.
We were children before we became parents, and our parents were children before we became parents. Every generation has its own concept of raising the next generation. Where does this concept come from? Most parents raise their children out of instinctive love and personal perception, commonly known as experience.
Parents' love for their children is essentially the same, but they will form different parenting concepts because of everyone's different perceptions and cognition. Everyone has his own perception and cognition of the world. We all look at the world from our own perspective, and there are controllable and uncontrollable factors.
Uncontrollable factors include: age, gender identity, gender, nationality, sexual orientation, mental/physical condition, race/ethnic group. Controllable factors include: education, political belief, family, organizational responsibility, language communication ability, income, belief, appearance and work experience.
After knowing this, my biggest gain is that I can understand that elders feed their children. There are too many differences between me and my elders. How can I expect them to think the same as me? I let my children eat independently. They feed their children to show their love. Why do I feel that my way is love and their way is doting?
The original cognition made me fall into a logical trap and expanded the problems that occurred at the time point to the time period. I think children who go to their elders' homes once or twice a week will lose the ability to eat independently, but there are many possibilities for their growth, but I have thought of the worst one. This kind of cognition will not help them except make me anxious.
The growth of children needs our company, encouragement and care, but we don't need our anxiety. The expansion of cognition can make us more peaceful.