The wisdom story of parents educating their children 1 Educate children not to act subjectively.
At dusk, the rooster and the owl met and there was an argument between them.
The cock said, it's true. As soon as that shiny round thing in the sky came out, the weather suddenly warmed up. Everyone thinks it's okay to get hot. ?
Owl said, what you said makes no sense! I bet on my own experience that when that shiny round thing came out, I only felt cold and sad. It's not hot at all. ?
The rooster said, have a fever. I have been trying for dozens of mornings. ?
Owl insisted. No fever. When I started my activities every day, I never thought it would be hot once. ?
One of them is talking about the sun, the other is talking about the moon.
Godson wisdom
One-sidedness produces subjectivity, and fallacies often follow one-sidedness and subjectivity.
In medieval Europe and China's long feudal society, parents often regarded their children as clay figurines in their hands, and thought that children should be what they wanted to be. Many parents in modern China are consciously or unconsciously influenced by the feudal concept of educating their children. They also think that children are born by me and raised by me, so they should listen to me.
Some parents do not consider or rarely consider their children's hobbies when designing their children's development direction. Children obviously like to learn astronomical knowledge and exercise, but parents insist that their children play the piano and take pictures. To this end, they spend a lot of money to buy high-end products such as pianos and cameras, and then ask experts to tell their children? Chuanyi? . But the result is not satisfactory, that is, wasting money, wasting feelings and wronged children.
Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, from a psychological point of view, is to respect individuality. People's hearts are different, and everyone has their own personality. Even if born from the same egg, there are differences in personality. Parents should be like root carving artists, inject artistic ingenuity according to different materials, carve into various works of art, and put on different personalities.
Children are trained to be useful talents in all walks of life.
Godson motto
People who judge children rashly often make mistakes! Such people are more naive than children.
? Rousseau
The wisdom story of parents educating their children II. Education should convince people with reason.
Father and son came to the threshing floor together, and there was a dark rumble on the threshing floor. Dad said: that's black beans. ? The son said:? That's a black bug. ? There was an argument between father and son, and of course the father was justified. Truth will naturally be one-sided in his hands, which can be determined without proof. However, the son suddenly shouted happily:? Climb, climb! Dad, look, look! ? Dad flew into a rage impatiently: what are you looking at? Climb, climb! Climbing is also a black bean! ?
Godson wisdom
This unreasonable father is ridiculous!
Parents train their children mostly to make them understand the truth, be human and make a difference in society in the future. But some parents don't reason with their children, thinking that their children are still young and know what truth is. Only sticks and fists can make him remember what he should remember. Doing so is not conducive to the growth of children.
Educating children to use violent means often leads them to follow blindly. Sometimes children are in pain and I don't know why. Sometimes even if I know what my parents beat me for, I don't know where my behavior is wrong. In the long run, children will lose their normal personality and will use violence against others in the future.
In fact, although the child is young, he knows something. Okay？ 、? Not good? Points. Therefore, if parents persuade and educate their children to understand the truth of being a man, then the child will become a reasonable person. On the contrary, if they educate their children in an authoritarian way, they won't know what truth is.
Parents teach their children to be unreasonable, and children are easy to be unreasonable, even to their parents? Deal with a man as he deals with you? . There are many children who resist their parents, which cannot be said to be caused by parents' unreasonable education of their children.
Godson motto
Repression is a bad method, because it has never really succeeded, and both parents and children will be insane because of it.
? Russell
The wisdom story of parents educating their children 3. Parents should do what they are told.
A shepherd with a flock of sheep was grazing on the grass far away from the village.
Shepherds like pranks and often call for help from villagers. The wolf is coming! ? The villagers rushed in three times and two times, found that they had been cheated and returned to the village angrily.
One day, the real wolf came to eat the sheep, and the shepherd shouted for help, but the villagers thought he was as mischievous as before and ignored it. As a result, the shepherd's sheep were eaten by wolves.
Godson wisdom
This is the disadvantage of lying at will, and when educating children, if you scare them at will without real punishment, then the next words will not work.
The child made a mistake and showed his poor appearance. You can hear parents often say this to their children. Just this once, it won't happen again. ? Forgive you today. ? If parents are soft-hearted, punishment will give up halfway, or will children be allowed to refuse punishment, or will children pretend not to see it when they make mistakes? However, until the next time the child makes a mistake, the smart child will beg you to break the precepts in another way, so it will be very difficult to make concessions to the child and let him really abide by the rules in the future. This not only hinders the discipline that is not difficult, but also makes children more indulgent.
For a mother who talks too much but doesn't act, the child comes to a conclusion: you can listen to her words, because there will be no consequences if you don't listen. We should let our children know that no matter how good their parents are at ordinary times, they will adhere to discipline, have clear rewards and punishments, keep their words and be consistent. This is the true love for them.
Parents warned their children in a threatening tone: if you don't listen, I will never really carry out what I said, just like? The wolf is coming? This story, heard more fake news, will not be ignored. Children think that their parents will only scare people, but they don't believe that they will take action. This not only fails to teach children well, but also destroys the image of parents in children's minds.
Sometimes parents can't give orders because they don't want to argue with their children and want to get things done quickly so that they can continue to do their own things. However, the more you don't want to make trouble, the more trouble you will have in the future, because you didn't stick to your decision this time, and if you quarrel again next time, you will change your mind. Parents' behavior is actually cultivating children to disrespect their own decisions.
Parents must let their children know that parents are trustworthy. If you can't bear to see your child severely punished, you must consider whether this punishment is appropriate when warning him, because once you say it, you must take action. Not suitable for children under 6 years old? Culpable of punishment? Type of punishment, which is easy to make him feel deeply guilty, thus forming inferiority complex. After the child is 6 years old, the moral concept is gradually developed, and reasonable punishment can make him clear-headed. If an older child accidentally breaks something, you can punish him for buying a new one with his pocket money as compensation. Sometimes punishing children to sit in a special chair for punishment lasts for a few minutes, and the effect is good.
Godson motto
Parents should adopt the same attitude towards educating their children. We should know that children are weak in knowledge, take their parents' words as words and their parents' intentions as meaning; Now they disagree and quarrel with each other, which makes children? At a loss? Yes
? Chen Heqin