Writer San Mao said: Home is the destination of the soul. Life is a hundred generations, times have changed. Home is a place to continue feelings and store love and warmth. Home is very important to everyone. It is the simplest wish of most people to maintain family harmony and let the family pass on. As the saying goes, there are three leaks in the family, poor children and grandchildren, and three elephants in the family. Be wary of these three phenomena in a home, which may affect the future of a home.
-There are three leaks in the home -0 1, one leak: there is a leak in the home, and the disaster comes from the mouth. In Christine's Four Disciplines, it is said that it never rains but it pours. God will give us a sign before the disaster comes. The building will collapse, not overnight; The decline of a family is not sudden, but a long-term chronic disease. When a family begins to "leak virtue", disaster has come to the door.
The most important thing in life is virtue. Whether a person has virtue or not is reflected in his daily life. Greedy for petty gain is "leakage of virtue", haggling over every ounce is "leakage of virtue", and gossiping behind it is also "leakage of virtue". Anything that harms others' interests is against morality, regardless of size, only right and wrong. The ancients said: Don't do it because of evil, and don't do it because of good. Starting from every kind little thing is to accumulate happiness for the family and virtue for future generations.
-Three leaks at home -02, two leaks: the family leaks money and breaks the financial road. Bai Longwang, a Hong Kong geomantic master, once said that money goes up and water flows down. Money, like running water, flows downstream and gathers into rivers and seas; Money must be left to "high places", and many a mickle makes a mickle. The most taboo of a family is: leaking money. If the money leaks, it is equivalent to breaking the financial path. Old Tang Book: Rich people gather and disperse, while rich people gather and disperse. The best way to "gather money" without "leaking money" is to gather money in useful places. Now everyone knows how to invest in financial management, but the so-called "financial management" is not simply investing in financial products. There are many ways to manage money, and choosing the one that suits your family is the best way. After all, for ordinary families, unexpected wealth is bound to be a disaster, and peace and stability are blessings.
-There are three leaks at home. -03. Three leaks: things leak at home. As the old saying goes, everything is prosperous at home. However, after a long time, there will always be some stumbling and quarreling. Some things can be shared with friends as jokes; But sometimes you must keep your mouth shut, so as not to give people bad words and cause family relations. The harmony of family relations depends not only on the running-in between family members, but also on the external operation. Don't belittle your lover in front of outsiders, blame your lover for his mistakes, leave a bottom line for your lover and earn yourself some face.
Don't chew other people's tongue roots in front of relatives and friends. After all, the circle is so big that you can hear it in the bean curd brain and the alley. Besides, parents should not lecture their children in front of outsiders, condemn them and hurt their self-esteem. This is the wisest education. When your family is away, no matter what the family relationship is, it is the smartest way to save face and take a step.
The Book of Songs: Brothers are on the Great Wall, but they jointly resist foreign aggression. Always remember that in front of outsiders, a family is always a family. If the family is firm, family life will be more harmonious and prosperous.
-Three images at home -0 1 one image: the image of reading is very obvious. Confucius said, "Virtue has been handed down for more than ten generations, followed by farming and reading, and poetry and books have been handed down from generation to generation.
Second, wealth is a family heirloom, but it lasts for three generations. "The most precious wealth left by a family to future generations is not money and a house, but a wall of books and lofty moral cultivation. Money destroys people, but virtue nurtures them. Children should learn how to read more than how to make money. When talking about "Fan Chi asked about crops" in Family Instructions of Xiaoyaotang, Sun Qifeng, a philosopher, put forward the view that "no tiller, no way to help readers" for later generations. Zeng Guofan also stressed that the long-term solution is based on the word "farming and reading". It can be seen that hard work and study are the foundation for a family to continue. A family that can really maintain long-term stability must be a family with scholarly family and a good appetite for reading.
-Three images of the family -02, two images: the image of upward flow and downward flow. Educator Tao Xingzhi said: Parents are a mirror, and children are their shadows. Parents' behavior indirectly affects children, and children's future growth will also be affected by childhood. The first word a child learns from his parents is "filial piety". If children want to be filial to their parents, parents must first learn to be filial to their elders. If both parents are not filial to their dream mother, how can they expect their children to be filial to themselves in the future? Life is a cycle. Whether parents are happy in their later years is closely related to what they did when they were young. Parents are filial, then children are filial; Good parents make good children. Setting a correct example for children and future generations is something that parents should practice all their lives.
-Three images at home -03, three images: the image of the first wife and harmony "Book of Changes": two people are one, and their profits are broken; The difference between one thought and another. This means that as long as Qi Xin's people work together with one heart and one mind, they will be invincible. It also applies to family relationships. If husband and wife are United, a home will be better. Mr. Wang Zengqi said: There are only two blessings in the world. One day: someone is waiting; Second: porridge can be warm. The happiest thing in the world is to open the door and have a bright lamp to light for you at any time. Rain or shine, there is always someone waiting for you to go home. A harmonious family is the source of happiness. Learn to reconcile the relationship between husband and wife and improve the communication between husband and wife. Effective communication is the most effective mediator in the relationship between husband and wife.