Why the better the family education, the better the children?
Wen | Ten o'clock Jun
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I read an article many years ago by Liu Xuan, the son of a famous writer Liu Yong.
The reason why this article attracted me and was clearly printed in my mind after many years was that it had an unexpected title called "Liu Yong: Son, Give me a Zero".
Get zero points? !
Liuyong, is this an angry remark in a hurry? Or a slip of the tongue? Why did you let your son get a zero? Why can this unreasonable education cultivate Harvard high flyers like Liu Xuan? I'm really confused.
After reading the article slowly, I can't help but admire this professional writer who is called communicating the hearts of teenagers. Cities can play.
Ever since I entered middle school? Other people's children? Liu Xuan began to become rebellious, his grades plummeted and he became a firm C. At that time, he was extremely tired of studying and dreamed of becoming a racing driver like Schumacher one day.
Liu Yong can't help talking to his son. Unexpectedly, my son's mouth shut: Schumacher is my idol. When he was my age, his grades were poor. He even got a zero. Now he is still the top racing driver in the world.
Liu Yong listened to a bad smile:? He got a zero and became a racing driver, but the problem is that you always have to get a C, and you can get a zero if you are capable. ?
Hearing this, Liu Xuan found it hard to get a zero! I'll give you zero!
Then he made a bet with his father that if he got a zero, his father would not interfere with his studies in the future. But the premise is that every exam, the paper must be full and not vague.
Finally, Liu Xuan found it as difficult to get a zero as to get a perfect score. Because only by knowing which option is the correct answer can you ensure that you get zero points.
After working hard for a whole year, he finally got the first zero. On that day, Liu Yong personally cooked to congratulate his son on getting a zero, saying? Only students who have the ability to get an A can get zero points. You should know this truth by now, but I have already planned it. I played you, hahaha.
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I believe that people engaged in the education industry have a deep understanding of this sentence: every excellent child has the shadow of his parents; Similarly, behind every problem student is the lack of family education.
After sending their children to school, many parents don't care about anything, thinking that education is a school matter. As we all know, the role of family education is far greater than that of school education.
In order to cultivate excellent children, they crammed their children's weekends with various training classes and cram schools. However, as the saying goes, fish farming focuses on raising water, and planting trees focuses on raising roots? Family education is very important for the cultivation of children's temperament and accomplishment. Therefore, parents also need to grow up. Only when parents and children work together and study together can the education problem of children be fundamentally solved.
For a small example, there is a little girl in the neighbor's house who is in the fourth grade this year. She has poor grades and is tired of studying. Her parents' biggest headache is that their children can't concentrate on their homework. He will run to the living room for 20 minutes, and then go back to his room to continue writing. Because of inattention, exams often lose a lot of points because of carelessness. Her mother often says: This child in our family is praised for his cleverness, but he doesn't like learning. He is probably not born to learn, and there is really nothing he can do. It is said that her classmate Mix spends an hour finishing all her homework every night, and she doesn't have to worry at all. Alas. ?
Later, I found out that when the girl did her homework every night, her parents played cards and watched TV in the living room. Children can't stand the big temptation and feel unfair. Everyone is playing. Why should I bury myself in my homework? It's too bitter. In addition, parents always scold, over time, girls are more and more tired of learning.
On the other hand, Mix's parents read and write in the living room and study with their children every time they do their homework. When children see that their parents are also studying hard, they think learning is a natural thing.
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In fact, many parents in life, like the mother of a little girl, want their children to be good, but they have not found their own problems, or they don't know how to educate and guide them.
Ten o'clock Jun also received many messages from readers in the background. Let me introduce some books related to parenting education. I will share Liu Yong's book with you every time.
Recently, Liu Yong published the trilogy of inspirational parent-child series "Growth is More Important than Success". After reading it for two days, I decided to recommend it to you!
Why did you choose Mr. Liu Yong's book?
First of all, in Liu Yong's writing career of more than 30 years, he recorded many experiences of his interaction with his son and daughter. He taught students in accordance with their aptitude and summed up many effective parenting ideas and methods. Whether you have a boy, a girl or two children, you can read his books.
Secondly, as we all know, Mr. Liu Yong has a pair of excellent children, which shows that his educational method is effective.
His son, Liu Xuan, is a doctor of psychology at Harvard University and high flyers of Juilliard School of Music. Prose columnist, host, master of speech, music, fashion and entertainment, well-known cross-border high-quality idol in Taiwan Province Province.
His daughter Liu Yifan is 17 years younger than her brother. She graduated with honors from elementary school to junior high school, and won the United States with honors at the age of 14? Presidential award? . In 2007, he was admitted to the journalism department of Columbia University, an ivy league school in the United States.
Moreover, Liu Yong's writing is gentle and friendly, and the content is easy to understand, lively and interesting, not as boring as educational theory books. Parents can effectively learn from Liu Yong's unique wisdom in educating children and improve their parenting ability as excellent parents, and teenagers can also draw positive energy from it.
Whether for parents or children, a happy life and growth are more important than success. So, what is the key point of growth?
For parents, growth is to know the characteristics of children's growth, understand the true meaning of love and education, master the correct communication methods, and show their life experiences and feelings to their children.
For children, growth is to learn to be a man, master the skills of becoming a man, and acquire a healthy psychology and mentality.
So the editors decided to love education, social life, life, parent-child relationship and communication as the theme of this book, and carefully screened Liu Yong's voluminous works. After three months of repeated polishing, deletion and supplement, the catalogue of three books, Liu Yong's Talk on Love, Education and Growth, Liu Yong's Talk on Life and Life, and Liu Yong's Talk on Parent-child Relationship and Communication, was formed. After Mr. Liu Yong's confirmation, these three books can officially enter the publishing process.
These three carefully edited books not only cover all aspects of parenting education in Liu Yong's writing career for more than 30 years, but also highlight the difficulties and characteristics of parenting education. They are the most comprehensive and refined works by Mr. Liu Yong so far.
Liu Yong talks about love, education and growth.
In this world, the most difficult thing to understand is love, which gives people the greatest pressure, causes the most problems and has the deepest influence.
Love is very important, but the wrong way to love will hurt children. In this book, Liu Yong will tell you how to use some tips to make children grow up in love. Parents should not only strengthen their children's good thinking and behavior habits, but also know how to let their children? Happy reading? . Because the education is? Happy? Ah!
The following is a passage written by Liu Yong to his son:
When you were young, I never let you play ball with you, because I wanted you to be stronger than me. When you are in high school, I want you to go to Stevenson in Manhattan, because I want you to be independent. When you enter Harvard, I hope you choose your own department, because I hope you decide your future; When you get your master's degree, I'll let you take a year off to go to Alaska, because I want you to be free. Now, I support everything you do, because I want you to be happy. You are happy, I am happy!
Liu Yong talks about life and society.
American psychologist Daniel? Gorman thinks eq is more important than IQ. Whether a person can succeed or not, IQ only plays a role of 20%, and the remaining 80% depends on EQ.
As the saying goes, man's cultivation is an article. ? Practice? Being skilled and mature means knowing what to ask and what not to ask; ? Da? Be reasonable and think for yourself and others.
In this book, Liu Yong will talk about how to cultivate a child with high emotional intelligence from four aspects: life, independence, self and life.
Liu Yong talks about parent-child relationship and communication.
In a harmonious parent-child relationship, children are willing to listen to their parents; Parents know how to listen to their children.
High-quality parent-child communication is very important for children to build trust and security with their parents. Only by knowing how to use appropriate communication methods can parents have the opportunity to understand the needs, advantages and disadvantages of their children's growth, as well as their real intentions and thoughts.
In this book, liuyong will share with parents how to establish a harmonious parent-child relationship, how to communicate with children, and teach children communication skills from his unique family education combining Chinese and Western, so as to help children grow up.
There is a saying that a child's Excellence is soaked with the sweat of his parents. Indeed, family education is the foundation and key of the whole education chain. If parenting education is neglected, children's growth and changes are obvious. Once the best educational opportunity is missed, it is difficult to correct their wrong thoughts and behaviors.
No matter how busy you are at work, you should take time to spend with your children, learn how to get along with them and how to raise them. After all, no matter how successful a person's career is, it cannot make up for the failure of children's education.