But since childhood, parents have taught them to "let go" of everything, as well as their favorite toys. If it is not allowed, it is petty, disobedient and unreasonable. No one will like a petty baby. Therefore, children who grow up under the guidance of this idea are completely scared when they grow up, and they can't say clearly how to refuse some effective and unscientific requirements or even regulations explicitly put forward by others. I can only humble myself blindly and obey others.

Whether it is an only child or a brother with brothers and sisters at home, we don't have to teach our children to "let go". But to shape their love and make them sincerely want to let go and cherish other children or brothers and sisters. Not teaching children to "let go" does not mean that babies are unsympathetic and resist love for young children. If brothers can take the initiative to let their younger brothers and sisters go under certain circumstances, everyone should encourage and apply them. But we can't force, for whatever reason, to teach and stipulate that our brothers must make compromises. They have no right to decide to know their brothers. If they do, I firmly believe that they don't want to be the big brother who needs to make way for their younger brothers and sisters.

Now everyone in the country encourages having a second child, and there are even many opinions. If we expect to let go of the third child as soon as possible, then in such a big environment, many families already have or are preparing to have a second child, so how to balance the relationship between the two children has become an urgent task for parents to learn.

Let children master the standards of pecking order; From ancient times to the present, everyone has always been "the eldest brother is like a father" and "the eldest brother in the family needs to shoulder family responsibilities". This old idea is harmful. Generally, the eldest brother is required to give way to his younger brother (sister). Soon after birth, you will tell the eldest brother that you are the eldest brother, and then let the younger brother (sister) know. Under such circumstances, there will be the idea that "my parents don't love me because my brother (sister) was born", which may even lead to the imbalance of children's hearts, and then quietly bully my brother (sister). Therefore, at this time, even before Bauer was born, wise parents should let Big Brother know that you are Big Brother (Sister). You came to this world first, but you and your brother (sister) are equal, and your parents love you equally. This kind of opinion is not only mentioned, but also needs to be reflected in all aspects of daily life so that the baby can feel it. For example, when parents come home from work, they don't have to look at the two treasures in their sleep first. Instead, we should hug the boss first, pay attention to Children's Day, and then go to find our younger brother (sister) with the boss.

Shaping the boss's sense of pride and mission at home; Naturally, although the boss and Bauer are equal, and parents love them equally, the baby will still involve a lot of time and energy from parents, so the parents of the baby should purposefully say to the boss: Although you came to this world first, you won the love of your parents first, but because Bauer is not big, he (she) must be maintained by us. So let's take care of this baby together. Bao's parents purposefully shaped the boss's sense of mission. Every time the boss makes a personal behavior of maintaining and cherishing his younger brother (sister), as a father and mother, he should immediately give recognition and praise. Actively encouraging children's sense of mission is very different from parents forcing their younger brothers (sisters) to have everything.