You may suddenly find that the child's head has grown mushrooms, the fairy tale book at the child's bedside has been replaced by a martial arts romance book, and the child has begun to pout. Children who used to be very good have become grumpy, making more trouble outside, and the probability of playing games online is also great. They stay in front of the mirror for a long time, demanding their own clothes and paying more attention to the opposite sex ... at this time, I tell you.

With the continuous improvement of living standards, it is an indisputable fact that children's puberty is gradually advanced. At present, most girls 1 1 years old begin to enter puberty, while boys 13 years old. Children's bodies, thoughts and concepts are changing, and parents' educational methods are also changing. If children tell you interesting stories about boys and girls for the first time, you yell at them: "Don't study hard, care about those things all day, and see what future you have when you grow up!" It's over, the child will never tell you the truth again. If you are persuasive, "Really? So what does he like about her? What do you think of this matter? " It will be much better to draw out the children's true thoughts and then guide and educate them. In short, being a child's friend is the key to opening a child's heart. Parents should not rush to express their sermons, but listen patiently and put themselves in their children's shoes, which will bring them closer.

Adolescent physical health, adolescent mental health, adolescent sex education, etc. It is a necessary lesson for parents to give their children. It is best to pave the way before puberty. It is more convenient for boys to be guided by their fathers and girls by their mothers. Parents lend their children a chance to take a bath, explaining their physiological structure, changes after puberty and how to protect their health, so as to eliminate fear and mystery. In daily life, consciously look for opportunities to guide their healthy adolescent psychology. My daughter in the second day of junior high school actually asked me what clothes to wear, what hairstyle to comb and what scarf to wear at the parent-teacher conference. I wish my mother is the most beautiful among my classmates and mothers, and I have guided my children's values and aesthetics in time. When parents see their children looking at themselves intently in the mirror, they take the opportunity to praise their children for being handsome and beautiful. Girls get praise from their fathers, which will increase their confidence and courage. Boys will become elegant and strong when they are praised by their mothers. The family goes out for a walk, the intimacy of mom and dad holding hands, and the warmth of parents taking care of each other at home all give children a safe, warm and peaceful message. Sexual education in adolescence is very important, from understanding sexual organs and health care to the consequences, responsibilities and obligations of sexual behavior. If it is awkward to talk face to face, it is also a desirable way to find some related items and put them on the child's bedside.

Adolescent children's puppy love is getting younger and younger. The fifth-grade children have been publicly called "husband" and "wife" among their classmates. Of course, most of them are "playing house" and parents don't care. If parents don't guide them in time, they are likely to play with fire. My daughter met a boy on a date in the third grade. After I found out, I called her to my cabin and said with a smile, "I find that you are getting more and more beautiful now and your academic performance is good." The class cadre did a good job, and your character is good. If I were a boy, I would like you too. " My daughter understood my subtext and immediately defended: "He asked me. We only talk about learning. " I immediately said, "It's normal to talk about things other than study. If at your age, I don't have any feelings for the excellent opposite sex, I am worried that my daughter is not normal? " Seeing that I am so kind, my daughter has the patience to continue listening to my sermon: "There are three choices before us. First, if you plan to develop in Dongying in the future, you can stop studying now, then sweep the floor and watch the door, and wait for a few years to find a suitable person to get married; Second, if you want to develop in Jinan, the provincial capital, you have to have a skill, learn to eat, and then find a suitable person to marry; Third, if you want to go to Beijing, the capital, or even study abroad, you must go to a good university, get a degree or two, and then find a suitable person to marry. " My daughter smiled and said, "Of course I want to marry the last' considerable person'". In a relaxed and happy atmosphere, we both agreed to stop dating that boy and try to get into a "good university". I pursued the victory: "Now you think he is excellent. When you get to a key high school, a key university, or even a job, you will find how short-sighted you used to be, how naive your past ideas were, and there are plenty of fish in the sea! " After my advice, my daughter didn't establish a normal friendship with her male classmates until high school.

For the sensitive issue of puppy love, parents' ways and means are very important. Don't talk about color change, don't let go. Like a flood, it can only be sparse but not blocked.

Another problem of adolescence is addiction and fighting. Such children are mostly due to the lack of love in the family. If children are not warm, they will vent their grievances, so they will bully the weak and fear the hard, and they will be satisfied if they defeat their opponents. Children can't get the appreciation of their parents and teachers and can't find self-confidence, so they go to virtual online games to find excitement, pass the test and become heroes. Our parents only saw the result and didn't find the reason. As a result, they interfered rudely and had no effect. Give your child more love, and the lost child will come home. We have many parents, who usually use busy work as an excuse. They usually don't care enough about their children's growth, and some even don't care, so that children can "grow freely." Once the exam results are not good and there are problems, it is too late to worry. In particular, some fathers, because of their work and social relations, have too much entertainment, have no time to take care of their children, and even rarely talk to their children all day, which is extremely unfavorable to their growth. I suggest that parents should put their children's growth first no matter how busy they are, spend at least one hour with their children and at least half an hour talking to them. Without the care of his father, a child will become weak and timid, unless the mother consciously cultivates the child's strong character.

It is the expectation of every parent to train their children into sunny teenagers. The classic education method of Chen Xinmin, a famous family education expert, is: let children and parents write an examination, and at the same time publish it, reflect on their own behavior, and then correct the measures and deadlines. Through the mutual supervision of parents and children, the effect is very good. When children speak out their grievances and write out their worries, their hearts will be relaxed, and they will go into battle with no baggage. Write out your own measures, and your efforts will have a direction. Parents are also re-learning and re-understanding and reaching a consensus with their children. I have a distant child who has a problem with his parents and seeks to solve it by writing to them. I spoke highly of this behavior when I wrote back. You know, it takes courage for a child to speak out. Parents need wisdom to deal with such information. Admit mistakes to children with an open mind, and hope that children can urge their parents to correct them. If parents do this, what else can children not communicate with?