With the progress of the times, more and more young parents are busy with work and have little time to take care of their babies. Therefore, the burden of raising babies inevitably falls on the shoulders of grandparents. This phenomenon of grandparents raising and educating their grandchildren is called intergenerational education.
Disadvantages of age-segregated education
1. Overindulgence of the baby hinders the baby's self-growth.
When grandparents were young, they might not be able to take good care of their children because of the limitations of living and working conditions. They tend to produce a kind of psychological compensation, focusing their love for their children and grandchildren on their grandchildren and paying too much attention to their babies, so that they do everything for them and indulge their babies everywhere, resulting in problems such as willfulness, strong dependence and low self-care ability.
2. Causes family conflicts, leading to parent-child estrangement.
In the first few years of a baby's life, it is very important for parents to hinder him. After all, parents are the most important relatives of the baby. If his parents can't be with him, he will easily feel abandoned and leave a shadow in his heart. In addition, the baby has adapted to their protection and accommodation by living with grandparents or grandparents since childhood, and may also develop some behavioral adaptations that parents don't like. When parents take over the baby within a certain period of time, or completely take over the baby from grandparents, they may be eager to reverse these so-called problem behaviors of the baby, and it is very easy for parents and babies to show opposition. This kind of opposition will make the baby more alienated from his parents and retreat to his grandparents. Therefore, grandparents and fathers can easily cause family conflicts because of the baby's education problems. If grandparents come forward to stop parents from "teaching" their grandchildren, this contradiction will be further aroused.
3. Stick to old ideas and hinder the progress of baby's personality.
Many grandparents' educational concepts are relatively backward and lack a correct understanding of the characteristics of baby's psychological progress. They may limit the baby's various exploration activities and put forward some requirements that are not suitable for his age, which invisibly binds him and leads to his lack of pioneering spirit. In addition, many old people have aging knowledge, relatively rigid thoughts, rigid views on things, easy to get stuck in dust, and adopt an overly traditional way to educate their babies. Then, their backward education mode will hinder the baby's recognition speed of new knowledge, leading to the baby's lack of creative thinking and divergent thinking consciousness. So there are also many grandparents who are old-fashioned because of their low educational level. They may unconsciously inherit some feudal dross that cannot keep up with the trend of the times, which restricts the baby's thinking and hinders the baby's personality progress.