What is the essence of education?
Many people have misunderstandings about educating children. They believe that educating children is to let them study the knowledge in textbooks well, and finally get into a good school and find a good job through good academic performance. This is a good education. However, such an idea just ignores the essence of education.
I think the essence of education should be divided into two parts: one is about children and the other is about parents.
Socrates said: "The essence of education is to awaken and develop your heart". My understanding of this sentence is to awaken the child's inner potential abilities, let him play a better value on the basis of these abilities and help him become a better individual. But remember, cramming education. If parents impose consciousness on their children, what is the difference between them and marionettes?
So I think the essence of another kind of education is self-education. It refers to parents' self-cognition, emotional adjustment, educational methods, etc. When educating children, it is also a parent education that can "be competent" to educate children. No one is born a parent. Parents need to learn.
After having children, if we have a good sense of introspection, the process of raising children is actually a process of self-healing for adults. In this process, we will encounter all kinds of problems given by children. When solving these problems, we experienced another childhood.
You can recall what you were happy or unhappy about, and you can also put yourself in others' shoes. From the child's point of view, what kind of education is he more willing to receive? Therefore, the essence of educating children, on the other hand, is the self-education of parents. Why do you feel that children are getting less and less educated?
After solving the first problem, let's think about why children are becoming more and more difficult to teach. It is said that the child is a blank sheet of paper. What do we paint him like? However, it ignores that in the process of children's growth, he and his surroundings will change at any time, so he will find it more and more difficult to educate children.
1, the child is growing up.
If we want to understand the question "why children are getting harder and harder to educate", I think there is a good answer: children are growing. Not because they are difficult to educate, but because they are growing and changing. They will come into contact with all kinds of things, and in the process, their horizons and thoughts have changed. As parents, our children were educated by dealing with him since childhood, which is why they find it more and more difficult to educate their children.
Solution:
As parents, we should accept the growth of our children and keep up with their pace. Think of a particularly interesting thing some time ago. The president of a university asked the teachers, "Do you know who Jackson Yi is?" ? Seeing that the teachers didn't answer, the headmaster said seriously, "You don't even know who Jackson Yi is. How do you educate your children now? " ?
The same question applies to parents and friends. When you don't realize what children like and pay attention to, you can't keep up with their growth and educate them in a way suitable for them.
2. The child does not meet the parents' preset.
Mrs. Du, a neighbor, is a strong mother. She made all kinds of rules and regulations for her children. For example, the results of interest classes should be excellent, and children should be allowed to perform programs during holidays; Academic performance should be kept in the top three of the class and so on. Various requirements, as long as the child does not meet the preset, she will give the child a face-to-face "class."
There are many such parents. Is it difficult to educate children?
No, it's because it didn't meet the requirements set by parents. In this way, parents will continue to put pressure on their children, and perhaps children with good stress resistance will get better and better, otherwise the children will be completely dissatisfied. By that time, it may be too late to educate children.
Solution secret:
The biggest problem for parents in China in educating their children is that they are unwilling to wait. Setting goals for children too early is not motivation for many children, but a kind of pressure. In a good education, parents are guides, companions and puzzle solvers, not leaders.
As david wallace, an American novelist, said in a speech, the purpose of education is not to learn knowledge, but to learn a logical way of thinking-to keep a clear sense of self at all times in a monotonous life, instead of being dragged away by a chaotic and unconscious life, and life is under my control. This is the education we should give our children as parents!
3. I usually lack care for my children.
Some parents are too busy at work to pay attention to their children. They often miss their children's parent-teacher conferences and group activities. When children need company, they choose to work because of the inevitable factors such as earning money to support their families. As a result, I gradually found that there was a thick wall between me and my children. I couldn't walk into them, and my children didn't want to communicate with their parents. This kind of trouble makes parents find it more and more difficult to educate their children.
Solution:
This problem should be a common problem in many families, some from fathers and some from mothers. Therefore, in order to avoid the difficulty of educating children, parents try to reach a consensus and spend more time with their children. Play with your child and listen to his heart. From the child's point of view, his requirements are not high. I hope to spend more time with my parents. Therefore, if you want to educate your children well, companionship is essential.