I came across this book in a bookstore one day, so I bought it back without hesitation and read it eagerly. Really touched my father's love for life and philosophical understanding, and recommended it to many parents and friends during the period. However, a few years later, the book was shelved and no one read it again.
Recently, Word Light wanted to share good books, carefully selected them in the bookcase, and finally chose Niu Niu: a father's note with a pink cover.
Choose to share Niu Niu: A father's notes, on the one hand, contribute to family education, on the other hand, have a deeper understanding of life and companionship.
This book describes that when Zhou was in his forties and fifties, he had a baby-his precious daughter Niu Niu. Just as the whole family was quiet in the happy atmosphere of giving birth to their daughter, they accidentally found that the child's eyes were wrong. After examination, a bad news came that Niu Niu had an eye disease and could not be treated.
Niu Niu, a little girl with only 562 days to live, was diagnosed as terminally ill less than a month after birth because her mother received a lot of X-rays when she was pregnant for 5 months. Because parents don't want their children to become disabled, they have been reluctant to let him have surgery. But when parents made up their minds to operate on Niu Niu, the reality was too late. Because no treatment can save Niu Niu's weak life.
However, Niu Niu's parents did not abandon her because of this, but passively waited for the life of their own flesh and blood to gradually pass away under the torture of the disease. Instead, I chose the companionship of love, cared for her carefully, accompanied her attentively, and recorded the unforgettable moment when her short life stopped breathing, just like raising a healthy child.
Therefore, some people say that Niu Niu is Zhou's memorial to her dead daughter. Although Niu Niu has passed away, Zhou Guoping used this book to keep her alive forever and stay in the hearts of readers forever, so that she can "live in the hearts of the world forever!"
Between the lines of this passage is a father's full love for his daughter. Some people say that "a daughter is her father's little lover in the afterlife". In the book, the author expressed his love for his daughter in philosophical language. Sometimes as small as a word, sometimes as big as a paragraph, until the whole book is full of his love for Niu Niu, that is, as the author wrote, "You are my father's most proud work, and your reading fascinates me."
He put his daughter's little gesture, a string of laughter, or a vague babble, which can cause a series of surprises and write a long philosophical sentiment. This is undoubtedly the best sacrifice for a father to give his daughter.
In the world, parents love their children in different forms, but they are so similar. In this book, more is to write a father's helplessness. He is so great and reliable in front of his daughter. But facing death, he was so helpless. In the days of love and sadness, parents can only wander between the cradle and the grave. ...
Zhou, on the other hand, is like a greedy collector, always standing by her daughter's side, eager to pick up every word that her daughter spits out and cherish the traces of her short life. ...
In Zhou's philosophical works, I read that Niu Niu is a clever child. I will call my father in eight months, my mother in nine months, and I will call myself Niu Niu at the age of one. One year and four months old, she can use personal pronouns accurately and can express almost all the meanings she wants to express.
It is such a lovely child, but God is unfair and will not give her more time in the world. Mr. and Mrs. Zhou sought medical advice everywhere ... but everything was in vain, and Niu Niu's condition deteriorated day by day, and no one could do anything about it.
When she was ill, Niu Niu was in pain everywhere. She didn't know that her pain was caused by a tumor. She thinks she was hit by something. She shouted over and over again, "Knock! Hey! "
Niu Niu suffers from eye diseases. First, she was blind in her left eye, and then in her right eye. With the gradual decline of vision, she likes to look in the direction of the window. As long as there is light in front of her eyes, she is very happy. She smiled and held out her little hand to entertain the clever guest.
But the guest finally left her. Niu Niu lay on the bed, sideways, facing the window, her eyes wide open, staring for a long time, a little hard.
On this day, she waved more eagerly than ever before. There is an anxious expression on her face, and she often makes some complicated sounds, such as eager to say something.
"There is no bright light in the world. Bright is dead ... "
Poor Niu Niu, the child knocked down by the world, lived in the world for 562 days. After experiencing some unbearable pain for adults, she left.
Niu Niu is gone, and the thinking caused by her short life will never stop. Even the author wrote, "Your cradle is in Dad's study, and you have become the owner of this big house. From then on, dad didn't study, only read you. "
Fatherly love is great. Zhou was not proud of giving Niu Niu life, but grateful for Niu Niu's existence, Niu Niu's happiness to him and his wife, and Niu Niu's existence to let him know the taste of his father and the meaning of love. At the same time, Niu Niu's illness and experience made him a stronger father.
As the author said, "the end point of life is death and emptiness, and the end point has no meaning." So we have to say: the meaning lies in the process. However, when the process betrayed us, we turned our attention to the ending and comforted ourselves: since the ending is the same, why care about the process? "
"There are unexpected events in the sky"-there are unexpected events in the sky, and people are doomed to misfortune-"misfortune is the proper meaning of all-inclusive life, and no one should take chances and take himself as an exception. I still can't read the map of fate, but even if my Geneva sinks to the bottom of the sea and my Vienna is destroyed by a volcano tomorrow, I won't be scared to death.
Even if suffering is imminent, I am already in a tragedy, and I have no intention of talking about purification and sublimity. The consciousness of life comes from wisdom. If you have to wait until after the disaster to realize, then wisdom is too shallow. What I really need to pay attention to is to defend myself in suffering and protect my mental health. I know I can be detached, but I want to prevent being seen too deeply, so I can't be persistent from now on.
In fact, as long as a person truly realizes the despair in ordinary suffering, he will understand how grandiose all the words that beautify suffering are and how artificial all the gestures that show off suffering are.
Therefore, the most basic expectation of parents in the world is that he can be healthy and happy! Every day when children are safe is a holiday for parents! "
Perhaps suffering purifies the soul and tragedy makes people more noble!
There is really no absolute luck in life, so do it and cherish it!
Cherish what we have in front of us, cherish our lovely children, cherish their liveliness, innocence and even naughty, even if their grades are not good, as long as they are healthy and safe, it is the greatest happiness in life!