Most of the time, it's not that we don't like each other, but the cruel reality beats us and makes our feelings for each other weaker and weaker. But we don't want to give up our family and children, so we have those seemingly harmonious days, but we are helpless inside.
Let's listen to the experiences of three people who have experienced it. I hope you can get some inspiration.
0 1, Yan Jie, 202 1 40 years old, married in 16 years old, and has a daughter 15 years old.
Why do men lie to their wives? Sister Yan and her husband Li Gang met and fell in love at first sight. After meeting for a while, they confirmed their contact. At that time, Li Zhen was relatively poor. Because he was abroad, he was very diligent and hardworking.
Because of this, Yan Jie saw it in his eyes and enjoyed it in his heart. She secretly made up her mind that Li would never marry in this life. It wasn't long before Yan Jie realized that she was pregnant, which worried her to death. Because at that time, it was a shameful thing to get pregnant before marriage.
Fortunately, however, Li learned that during her pregnancy, she persuaded her parents to go home and give a kiss according to the custom. Besides, because Yan Jie is pregnant, both parents know that when they discuss their marriage in the back seat, they don't create difficulties for each other.
It was not long before they got married. Many months later, Sister Yan gave birth to a daughter. Although my wife didn't say anything, she secretly said that they liked her little grandson. My grandmother really wanted Yan Jie to have a second child, but the system at that time did not allow her to have a second child.
Perhaps because she gave birth to a daughter, Li's attitude towards her is even worse. Besides, because there was no one to help take care of the children, Yan Jie quit her job and started to stay at home as a housewife. From then on, all the family affairs, including taking care of the baby, were undertaken by her alone.
With the change of time, Li got a promotion and a raise, and he didn't take it seriously. Home is like a hotel to her. She doesn't go home several times a month. At first, Yan Jie felt very sad. She cried and was sad, but it didn't help. Gradually, she also wanted to let go.
Since her children had nothing to do after school, she learned to surf the Internet. A few years ago, she met a divorced boy on Momo Live. That man is younger than her 10 years old. Yan Jie knew that they had no result, so they got together quietly.
The man seems to have a crush on her, and several times he explicitly offered to marry her, but Yan Jie refused. Everyone was puzzled and asked why he didn't accept the man's romantic proposal, because Li had no feelings for her. Sister Yan said that because she wanted to give her children a complete home, Li was very kind to her daughter, even if she was not very kind to her.
At least Li will give him living expenses, and all the children's education expenses will be paid by Li. Most importantly, Yan Jie has been working since she gave birth to a child. She said that she was afraid that after the divorce, it would be difficult to find a job because she was old, so she broke the pickle jar. Day by day, Yan Jie's experience was deplorable.
02. Sister Xia, 202 1 38 years old, married in 13 years, and has a child 10 years old.
Xia Jie and faker can be said to be two people without speculation. Because their mothers work together in a company and both live in the company's house, they have known each other since childhood. From primary school students to middle school students. Later, because faker's academic performance was better than Xia Jie's, faker was admitted to a key middle school, while Xia Jie attended an ordinary high school.
Two people secretly fell in love behind their parents' backs in an ordinary high school. The last two people were admitted to colleges and universities. Although they don't live in the same city, it doesn't affect their feelings. Since both families know each other very well, both parents hope that they can get together.
The year after graduation, they got married. After marriage, they are very sweet. They want to be alone first, so they are going to have a baby. In the third year of marriage, Xia Jie got pregnant unexpectedly, and having a baby was put on the agenda.
10 months later, Xia Jie gave birth to a child, and both families were very happy. Almost all nannies work with their young couples, but Xia Jie doesn't seem to have grown up yet. She seldom takes care of the children's affairs, and gives them to the other parents, and the old man doesn't care.
This is how children grow up and go to school under our care. At this time, faker was sent by the company to dock their newly opened subsidiary in another city, so the couple only met once a month. I don't know if it's because faker isn't around or because she's lonely. Somehow, Xia Jie met his son's classmate's father, and they became friends on the mobile phone WeChat. Two people chatted enthusiastically on WeChat.
In the end, the two broke the moral bottom line of professional ethics and met more and more times every once in a while. After a long time, both of them have unspeakable feelings for others. After a tryst, two people drank some wine, which should not have happened. From then on, two people meet every three days.
Xia Jie feels guilty, but she can't control herself. Until now, they are still secretly together. But she doesn't want a divorce. Because of her relationship with faker for so many years, she doesn't want to divorce, but she doesn't want to give up her relationship now. Deep down, she felt really sorry for faker and other people's wives, but she just couldn't help herself.
03. Sister Yang, 202 1 year old, married 18 years old, has a daughter 17 years old.
Sister Yang and Liu met by netizens. Because of getting along, we soon came together. Liu is considerate to Yang Jie every day, and she also takes a bus to pick her up and down from work, which makes Yang Jie very moved.
After a year together, they got married in a hurry because Yang Jie was unexpectedly pregnant. Many months later, Yang Jie gave birth to a lovely child. Because of different family values, Sister Yang and Liu's parents often quarrel.
The reason is actually that Liu Wen's parents are rather rigid. They think that after Sister Yang gave birth to her daughter, there will be no children in their family. Therefore, when Yang Jie was still in confinement, her grandmother always made it clear to her that she wanted to have a second child. It is obvious how troublesome her delivery is.
After the confinement, grandma found some unknown herbs from there and went home, saying that it was to replenish her body and make her recover faster. That's it. Yang Jie drinks herbs every day until she wants to vomit, but Liu turns a deaf ear, which makes Yang Jie very sad.
When her daughter was 8 months old, the housewife told her to stop breastfeeding her children as soon as possible, and then prepared to get pregnant and have a second child. She was very surprised. In private, she secretly told Li that she didn't want to have a second child right away, but Liu was afraid of being the master. Yang Jie is very angry because she usually listens to her mother's quotations.
In the end, Yang Jie had to give in due to the increased work pressure of her parents-in-law. She was pregnant again, but when she was pregnant for more than five months, her mother-in-law took her to a private hospital for B-ultrasound. The data shows that the child is a girl. The old woman made a decision for her and aborted the child.
Without children, Yang Jie cried her eyes out, but because Liu was afraid of silence, she had to cry or cry. After a period of nursed back to health, Sister Yang became pregnant for the third time. This time, she didn't want to listen to her parents-in-law. After learning that she was pregnant, she immediately took her daughter back to her parents' home and raised the baby safely there.
After the previous abortion, she hated Liu's guts, and Liu Qu's family took her home several times, but she refused. Many months later, Sister Yang gave birth to a daughter. Her parents-in-law must feel very dissatisfied. They wanted Sister Yang to have another child, but Sister Yang refused. What does it mean to dream that your wife is cheating?
That's it. Yang Jie and Liu have been living in two places. Although Liu visits Yang Jie's mother and daughter at her mother-in-law's house every month, their feelings are much colder. At this time, Yang Jie met a netizen online, and two people fell in love online. Yang Jie concealed the objective fact that she was married and quietly got along with that guy.
That man was very kind to her, often took care of her and bought her things, so she soon fell and couldn't extricate herself. Although she sympathized with Liu, she was infatuated with the man's kindness to her, and she was deeply divided.
She said that she got the attention and love she needed from him, but she was not easy to divorce. Because she has two children, if divorced and remarried, the other party will be influenced by the children, so she has been sneaking around with the other party like that. She said that one day is very important. What does it mean to dream that your wife is cheating?
Conclusion: The short stories of three women after marriage are regrettable. As women, they are also mothers of two children. I am very resistant to cheating after marriage. Both men and women need to be responsible for themselves and their families.
Such is married life. No matter who you are with, after a long time, your feelings may become shallow, your enthusiasm will gradually dissipate, and even your feelings will become true feelings, but this is also a direct complaint. We can't live as husband and wife, because we are responsible for our actions.
Why do men lie to their wives? On the internet, there are countless cases of accidents caused by cheating after marriage, and everyone should learn from them. Instead of knowing that it is irresponsible and making mistakes, you can let go if you don't like it.