The principle of establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship is that relationship is greater than education, educational methods are greater than educational content, and children are treated with the vision of growth and development.

First, relationship is greater than education.

The good parent-child relationship I'm talking about is not the entanglement of excessive intimacy and attachment, but the relationship of relative freedom, harmony and mutual respect.

When you establish such a relationship with your child, you will find that your child will change as you wish. If you want him to be admitted to a famous university, he will always strive to achieve this goal, because he regards this goal as his own.

Second, the way of education is greater than the content of education.

It doesn't matter whether education is right or wrong, what matters is effectiveness. Many parents read a lot of books to educate their children. As a result, the more books they read, the worse they get, and their relationship with their children is like enemies. Parents can't play the role of experts in front of their children because many children despise authority. The more authoritative you are, the less they want to obey.

Society is not as rational and simple as educators think. Many people write books to educate their children, not really for the sake of every child and parent, but to promote an educational concept and a view they like. In order to maintain this view, he will deliberately make things very simple and clear.

Third, we should look at children from the perspective of growth and development.

If the child tells a lie, parents will be very nervous when they know it, and they will be full of anxiety if they think that the child's conduct is not good. When a person is full of anxiety, his thinking will become narrow, and the methods to deal with problems will be simple or even bad, such as scolding children and punishing them.

If you look at your child from a growing perspective, you will encourage him to make mistakes, and of course he should make mistakes at his age.

Boys are aggressive, so you should guide him instead of suppressing him. He broke the window of other people's house. Don't scold him, don't call him a bad boy, but say that smart children don't make such mistakes.