Only by choosing the right education method can we educate children more effectively. But in the end, parents need to know which methods are suitable for their children.
Mr. Zhang's family has a 6-year-old son who is particularly naughty, and what makes Mr. Zhang feel particularly helpless is that he and his wife always fail to achieve good results when educating their children. Generally speaking, children are more willing to listen to their grandparents, but the elderly have the concept of generation separation, so every time they educate their children, they are always blocked by the elderly at home. This situation has also led to frequent contradictions at home.
In fact, the root cause of this situation is that children and parents have no emotional foundation, so they can't achieve good results in educating children. So how should we educate our children?
Parents should pay attention to these three time nodes.
1. Kindness of three years old
The first three years of life are very important for a child. This time is the adaptation period of children to the world, so they will be particularly dependent on the people around them. Generally speaking, if a child has the highest degree of intimacy with someone in the first three years of his life, then he is more willing to listen to this person's command and education, so the teaching effect will be better.
2. Li Wei, six years old.
When we educate our children, there are several key periods that need special attention. For example, 6 years old is very important. Before children reach this age, what they say to their parents is generally obedient. After this period, children will gradually have their own ideas, so they will not be fully recognized by their parents. This period is particularly important.
3. 12 years old to establish values
Generally speaking, when children reach the age of 12, their values have been established, so they will have their own considerations when doing things. Generally speaking, parents should start to give their children some rights to choose after their children reach this age. Only in this way can children develop an independent personality from an early age, otherwise it is easy to rely too much on others when they grow up.
How do parents establish intimate relationships with their children?
1. Pay attention to character cultivation
The first three years of a child's life are also very important for the child's character cultivation. Many families are relatively poor after having children because their parents just got married and their lives are not particularly affluent. However, if the quality of life provided by parents is not particularly high in the first three years of the child's birth, it will easily affect the formation of the child's personality. Therefore, in order to cultivate a more optimistic and cheerful child, parents must pay attention to providing better conditions for their children.
Build a close relationship
At this age, children are very fragile and most in need of care and love from their parents. Therefore, parents must seize this critical period to cultivate feelings with their children. Only by establishing good feelings between parents and children will children be willing to be disciplined and obey their parents' teachings.
3. Strengthen emotional communication
Because this time is so important for children's education, many parents are prone to overexert. If this happens, it will have a great impact on the feelings between parents and children. Therefore, during this period, parents and children should also pay attention to emotional communication. With a good emotional foundation, it is easier to make children obey, and at the same time, it can reduce the burden on parents to educate their children.