[2005-08-1915: 00: 28] Author: People's Daily Editor: Fu Yingdong
After the influence of family education on his son, Jia began to try to help parents and children around him. He told reporters that since 2000, he has devoted a lot of energy to studying family education to help children quit "Internet addiction". In practice, he found that introverted children are more likely to fall into the network quagmire than extroverted children. Because introverted children are not good at expressing themselves and communicating with others, they often can't get the understanding and respect of others in real life, so they look for spiritual support in the virtual world. In addition, when children encounter difficulties, pressures or unexpected setbacks in their studies, they are also easy to indulge in online games.
Jia pointed out that the root of children's problems often lies in their parents. Because children's self-control is generally weak, once they are infected with "Internet addiction", it is difficult to extricate themselves. Good family education is particularly important. Good family education is first manifested in family harmony; Second, parents should be role models for their children; Third, it is not enough for parents to care and satisfy their children only in life and material things. To truly love children, we must go deep into their hearts, have an equal dialogue, understand their joys and sorrows and help them solve practical difficulties and problems.
Parents change first, and children are expected to change.
When children are infected with "Internet addiction", parents should first calm down, reflect and change inappropriate educational methods. Parents' problems can only be solved when children's problems are solved.
Ms. Dai's son used to be excellent, with good academic performance, envied by classmates, liked by teachers and proud by parents. But in the second year of high school, I fell in love with online games and my grades dropped. Ms. Dai and her husband are very anxious. Seeing that persuasion failed, the father hit the child, which caused the child to resist even more. One day, the child suddenly decided not to go to school. How to treat children in this situation? The couple disagreed and the relationship became tense ... Ms. Dai was deeply distressed. In order to find a solution to the problem, Ms. Dai went to the library to check the information about family education and adolescent children's psychology, which was very rewarding. She reflected on herself. After her son entered adolescence, she had less communication with her parents. She pays little attention to her son's academic performance and ensures that he has enough to eat and wear. Moreover, there are 6 people in the family and 5 adults pay attention to a child and give him too much love, which is unbearable for the child. Ms. Dai realized that she had done many things wrong before, and now the child has encountered a problem. He didn't dare to face it, so he chose to escape. Parents should not be too impatient.
Ms. Dai first appeased her husband. The relaxation of the relationship between husband and wife made her son feel safe and had a good attitude towards his parents. Then, on the one hand, Ms. Dai communicates with her son more, so that the mother and son have a common language; On the other hand, keep in touch with children's teachers and classmates and ask them to help and persuade children. She told reporters: "I am especially grateful to the principal of the children's school! He took time out to have a long talk with his children twice, criticizing, encouraging and persuading them, and promised to reread the second year of high school. When school started last autumn, my son suddenly said to me,' Mom, I'm going to school tomorrow.' I am very happy to know that he has been at home for 10 months! The next morning, I took my child to school, and the principal immediately arranged for him to enter the class. Over the past year, children's academic performance has been stable and normal in all aspects. Although they still play computer, they have not delayed their business. During the summer vacation, grandma was ill. He went to take care of her for a week without touching the computer. Grandma praised him for taking care of people. "
Ms. Dai contacted more than 40 parents to study how to save children with "Internet addiction". She said: "Children are infected with Internet addiction, so parents should reflect on themselves and change inappropriate education methods. Parents' problems are solved, and children's problems can be solved! " ■