Two years ago, after being introduced, I learned "appreciation education". Mainly look at the children with appreciation and always give a thumbs up. In praise, it is easy to stimulate children's unlimited potential.

First of all, I want to be sure that the concept of appreciation education needs to be studied. For myself, it is a good thing to praise each other and let beautiful words surround my ears. Beautiful language, positive language and encouraging language can enhance people's creativity, ease emotional waves and fill their hearts with love and strength.

? However, everything is not absolute, and appreciation education cannot be the whole dependence of education. Here, I must point out its shortcomings rudely. Just as not all people can have a good language, they will treat you the way you want. They should appreciate others, but be stronger.

China people are very face-saving, and many people are actively maintaining their image in society. The emergence of many new media has given many people the opportunity to reconstruct their image on the virtual network. This is a platform for self-presentation. What is listed on the platform is not necessarily the real self, but more what each individual wants to show in front of everyone.

No one doesn't like being praised. Maybe you don't admit it, but when you hear everyone say you are good, capable, capable and kind, you will be elated.

But people are not perfect. Normal people always have weaknesses and defects, and people around them are not always people who can make you feel happy. Someone accuses you to your face, or taunts you, or is full of firepower, or aggressive and ugly, and may directly scold you and cry. There is a worse way, saying your mistakes behind your back and saying your opinions without your knowledge. They will never tell you these words directly. In front of you, they smile and are kind and friendly to you. If you hadn't overheard them occasionally, you would never have known that your original image would be so bad in the eyes of others.

Of course, I think this second blow will be far better than the first one.

In appreciation education, children listen to praise and encouragement most from childhood, and they will be full of confidence. However, if placed in the above two environments, I'm afraid they will be at a loss because of their lack of immunity in this area since childhood, and it is difficult to bear the black and blue injuries caused by "bad" language.

This is what I want to point out that "appreciation education" cannot escape. Unlike those children with rough skin, children who are deeply influenced by this kind of thumbs-up are used to criticism from their parents and teachers since childhood, but they have a heart that is not afraid of destruction and will not have extreme ideas under setbacks.

? How to avoid these disadvantages, while accepting and giving others appreciation, and handle the "bad" language problems in real life well, I would like to make the following suggestions:

? The first thing is to have a strong heart, be broad-minded and forgive others.

Second, we must see the status quo clearly. This kind of blow is a normal phenomenon in society. Not only will he hit you. He will also habitually hit more people. Everyone has the freedom to comment. A thousand people have a thousand hamlets. Naturally, some people will say good things about you, and others will speak ill of you. Those who say nice things about you don't really think you are good, maybe they are just compliments to your face, but behind them are vicious curses; The person who speaks ill of you may not think that you are really that bad, but he said your shortcomings to your face, and he affirmed you in other ways.

? Third, we should know ourselves correctly and put down our face. Know yourself, don't overestimate yourself and don't underestimate yourself. When you have an objective and sober judgment of yourself, you will know what your shortcomings are and what your strengths are. It is very important to have a correct understanding and evaluation of yourself. If others accuse you for no reason, treat it as gossip and laugh it off. When the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds, so why care; If someone happens to say something about your shortcomings, you can admit it generously and face it calmly because you are prepared.

Finally, control your own language and let your own language become a positive force first. Language is a reflection of thought to some extent. We should look at the phenomenon of "evil" positively, not to repay evil with good, but to repay evil with good. Every day you walk, every word you leave behind has energy. Try to make this energy positive and let beautiful and positive words emerge from your mouth.

Really mature people, I believe, are those who know all kinds of real situations, but are still gentle with the world. We hope that the world is beautiful, and everyone knows how to respect, appreciate and treat kindly, but we must be clear in our hearts that the world is not that simple, and only when you are mentally prepared in advance can you accept the real storm.

? Put away our illusions and wake up. I hope we can all bear the burden of humiliation and get along with the world gently.