Children who grow up under the threat of "corporal punishment" may never get rid of this shadow.

According to the definition of sociologist Strauss, corporal punishment is to make children suffer (but not hurt) with physical strength, so as to correct or control their behavior.

Spanking, slapping, whipping with tools (feather duster, ruler, clothes rack, etc. ) are common forms of corporal punishment.

A survey of 25 14 parents by Professor Wang Meifang of Shandong Normal University shows that 70% parents used corporal punishment on their children in the year before being interviewed, with an average of 7 times a year.

In the report of 20 14, UNICEF pointed out that 80% children in the world were beaten by their parents or physically punished in other ways.

For children who suffer corporal punishment, the first thing to do is physical injury:

Compared with children who have not been baptized by violence, they are more likely to suffer from obesity, cardiovascular disease and asthma. And the hospitalization frequency is high. Even this injury will last into adulthood, and they are more likely to suffer from metabolic diseases, such as hypertension, diabetes, liver disease and high cholesterol.

Children tortured by corporal punishment are in a state of "panic" for a long time, and the uncertainty of beating and cursing keeps them vigilant at all times. Therefore, poor sleep quality and low immune system have become the normal state of frightened children. As time goes by, gynecological problems, irritable bowel syndrome, migraine and heart problems also follow.

However, the harm to the body is only superficial, and the harm of corporal punishment to the child's mind is even more shocking:

The child's mind is very fragile. When they can't get rid of corporal punishment and other aggressive behaviors, there is only one way to get rid of themselves, that is, they think that the abuser is right, and their brain consciousness allows them to accept this view to avoid long-term anxiety and anxiety, so they learn to hate themselves. "It's all my fault" became their heartfelt cry, and inferiority became a common anesthetic.

Loneliness, indifference and insecurity are a series of subsequent chain reactions. When the injury accumulates over time and is difficult to resolve, the children who suffer corporal punishment will have a "bottoming out" and they will gradually increase their aggressive behavior. Children with antisocial behavior will become more antisocial because of corporal punishment.

Sociologist Strauss's research shows people the "invisible bomb" behind corporal punishment: parents spanking their children or other physical punishments are more likely to lead to violent behavior when children grow up. He divided the intensity of corporal punishment into four grades, and each grade of corporal punishment would increase male violence by 33% and female violence by 27%.

They are more likely to commit rape, are reluctant to use condoms, and try to "wake up" each other with dangerous behaviors such as corporal punishment and abuse during sexual relations.

Once the victim finally becomes the perpetrator, violence fails to suppress violence, but makes it spread like a virus.

The harm of corporal punishment to children's mental health is far from over, and brain development is also affected:

According to Strauss' survey of more than 6.5438+0.7 million college students in 32 countries, the higher the proportion of parents beating their children, the lower the average IQ of the people in this country.

Children who grow up under the threat of violence have relatively low brain capacity and often have a "fight or flight" response mechanism. This kind of aggression or escape attacks children's imagination and creativity, thus affecting IQ.

According to the experimental research of psychology professor at Harvard University, compared with normal children, children who have been subjected to corporal punishment have more intense activities in many areas of the prefrontal cortex when facing the fearful face.

The brain activity of children who have been subjected to corporal punishment is basically the same as that of abused children when they face each other with an expressionless face and a fearful face.

This means that corporal punishment, which parents think is a mild punishment, causes the same harm as violent abuse.

This "self-righteousness" is precisely the origin of the tragedy of corporal punishment. "I'm doing it for you" is self-consolation when my parents hurt their hands. In order to make children abide by moral or code of conduct better, they think that corporal punishment is the only way, and parents also think that corporal punishment is a means to make children stronger and braver.

"Obedience" is the biggest requirement of many parents for their children, and disciplinary corporal punishment is a powerful means to tame children's obedience, which has been tried and tested.

Over time, when parents encounter adversity, corporal punishment of children has even become their first choice to vent their pressure and anger.

However, the deterrent effect of corporal punishment is only temporary, but the anger, revenge and self-hatred caused by it are extremely strong. The psychological, emotional and physical harm caused by physical abuse far exceeds its short-term restraint effect.

Corporal punishment will leave a mark on children's hearts, and the seeds of violence will even take root. Childhood scars may be difficult to heal in this life.