Being a parent is simple. Whether anyone has taught you or not, whether you like it or not, if you are not qualified, as long as you have children, you will become the father or mother of the children and be physically qualified to be parents.
But being a parent is really not easy. From the perspective of children's healthy development and scientific education, parents with only physical qualifications are not naturally qualified for the education work that conforms to their parents' identity. In other words, you can give your child life, but it doesn't mean that you are qualified for the role of educating your child and fulfill the responsibility of educating your child. Every parent should be educated on how to be a parent, so as to know how to fulfill the responsibilities of parents. This is the parenting education that we advocate.
However, the reality is far from the ideal, and the absence of father in family education is a common phenomenon. In recent years, Hunan Satellite TV's star parent-child reality show "Where is Dad?". It has been widely broadcast, which once triggered a heated discussion among the whole society on "what responsibilities fathers should bear in family education" and "how fathers communicate effectively with their children".
China's father is so busy, what about abroad? In fact, the moon is the same everywhere. In terms of parent-child companionship, foreign fathers are not better than China fathers. According to foreign survey data, 34% American children don't live with their biological fathers. There are many things that adults can give their children, such as love, time, money and material things … but our father is very stingy and refuses to give time to his children.
Father is a kind of "program" and the earliest "program" of symbol recognition system. Generally speaking, the identity of "father" includes five "components": support, protection, discipline, preaching and victory. Father should do these five aspects:
1. I can earn a lot of money and spend a lot of time with my wife and children.
2. It can protect his wife and children from natural and man-made disasters.
3. Be able to make family rules and maintain family structure.
4. It can convey the meaning and value of life to children.
5, the father must be stronger than other men, at least better than the mother, that is to say, the father must be a very man (physiological function).
Parenting education is not only aimed at the main educators in the family, it should be the education that every elder member of the family needs to receive. In the complete sense that fathers have the ability to be parents, it is essential for fathers and mothers to participate in and invest in family education together.