There are two points to note in this regard:
First, don't forget that it is difficult for children to concentrate on one thing for a long time. Therefore, to design a quiet conversation, it is necessary to control the conversation in a relatively short time, especially in the initial stage when children are required to do so. And what parents should pay attention to is that all guidance and arrangements for children should not be motivated? Prove that children can't do it? As a result, it is out? Prove that the child can do it? Result.
Second, parents need to teach their children speaking skills in quiet conversation. Many children are reluctant to whisper because they don't know how to speak, so they won't whisper.
How to educate an excellent child Education starts from 0 1 year. The first month (28 days) of a fetus is called the neonatal period. Neonatal period is the occurrence period of psychological phenomena and the beginning of independent psychological activities.
There is no psychological phenomenon when the baby is born. The occurrence of children's psychology is inseparable from the development of children's nervous system, especially the development of brain structure under social life and educational conditions, which is inseparable from the development of children's brain's response function to external stimuli. Psychology is just the product of brain activity under the influence of environment.
3. When the child is born, only? Unconditional reflex? The function of unconditional reflex is hereditary and instinctive. Its adaptability is low, but it is formed. The natural premise of conditioned reflex.
4. The conditioned reflex began to appear two weeks after the baby was born. The initial conditioned reflex is very low and the adaptability is poor. Conditioned reflex is a signal function controlled by the brain, which can reflect and reveal the meaning of stimulus and make people adjust their behavior according to the signal and meaning of things. The appearance of conditioned reflex is a sign of infant psychology, which marks the formation of the most primitive form of psychology and consciousness as an independent individual.
In the year or so after birth, the baby will have a significant development in all aspects of body and mind. Under the influence of adults, babies constantly master the ability to move at will and have a preliminary understanding of simple things. This year has really changed a lot: as a human characteristic, the ability to walk upright, move with both hands and communicate with each other in words has finally begun to emerge after gradual development.
6. Babies don't passively accept external stimuli from a very young age, but reflect reality in active activities. For example: cry when you are hungry, sleep when you are full; Welcome the sweet and reject the bitter.
7. Children develop their sensory ability first, but their motor ability lags behind. Shortly after birth, the average animal develops well in motor ability and can move freely. In the first half of life, human beings first developed some sensory abilities, such as taste, smell, hearing and vision. As for movements, especially hand movements, crawling and walking, they were all developed later. The following are some basic rules for the development of infant sensory perception:
Touch: From about the third month after birth, an involuntary hand touch action begins. He accidentally touched bedding, relatives or toys. By the fifth month or so, due to repeated touching actions, children began to use their hands as cognitive organs to perceive some attributes of external things.
Feeling: the feeling of the skin begins very early, especially on the lips, palms, soles of feet, front neck and eyelids. Skin feeling is very important for young children, and it is very helpful for premature infants to do more skin touch to improve their survival rate.
Taste and smell: About 30 days after birth, after more than 20 repeated experiences, children can respond to fragrant food. A 4-month-old baby can distinguish good smell from bad smell more stably.
Vision: In the first two to three weeks after the baby is born, his eyes often move incongruously, because the muscle control ability needed for his eye movement has not yet formed. After two or three weeks, the disharmony between your eyes disappears, and you can start to react to light or objects, but you still can't concentrate on an object for a long time. The ability of visual concentration can only be mastered by the baby around the fifth week, and it can only be completely concentrated and flexible by the third month. The baby's reaction to color is different from the fourth month, especially red, which is the most exciting. From about the fifth month, he was able to see distant objects, such as airplanes and the moon. From then on, the development of vision is not to concentrate, but to actively observe things.
Hearing: The baby's hearing begins to develop in the mother. Babies are often not very sensitive to hearing at birth because the amniotic fluid in their ears has not been cleaned up. Within three months, the baby can clearly notice the source of the sound. In the third and fourth months, babies can show happy mood for music, but they will be unhappy with harsh sounds.
Perception: it is a comprehensive reflection of the overall analysis of things, and it develops gradually from birth. Babies born two days ago can distinguish their faces from other models. Compared with other pictures, he will show the phenomenon of staring at face pictures for a longer time, and he will begin to have depth perception and spatial perception in about two to three months.
How to educate an excellent child Education begins at the age of 0. First, the behavior of parents before pregnancy:
First of all, human health is weakly alkaline. Both parents should take good care of their bodies. It's best not to smoke or drink. The food should be as light as possible. The man should supplement vitamin E and the woman should supplement folic acid every day. Meat is an acidic food, so try to reduce it. After adjusting your body for 3 months, let nature take its course and have children. This is to ensure that your child has a healthy constitution, is less sick after birth, and is easy to raise.
Second, after pregnancy:
1, prenatal education is very important for mothers. Take some time to read books and listen to music quietly every day. You are in no hurry. In short, you should relax.
2, in terms of diet: do not eat sweets such as fat and biscuits, try not to let the fetus grow too big in the mother. During pregnancy (5 months later), you can encounter epiphyllum and steam eggs with epiphyllum. The more, the better. The rest of the dietary precautions are generally understood.
Try not to buy live animals to eat, but eat three clean meats: don't kill, don't kill for you, don't kill until you see it. For example, fish is easily absorbed by protein one hour after death. It's not that killing live fish is delicious, it's just a eating habit. Try to buy ready-made ones, and don't let the kitchen at home become a place where ghosts gather. This is also for the children to have a natural birth and a healthy diet.
Three, after giving birth to a child, the content of brain development:
1, breastfeeding is very important, and it is the best and safest food. Ensure the health of children and reduce the risk of breast cancer for mothers in their forties. Just after giving birth to a child, breast blockage may occur, so be sure to get through. You can't not breast-feed your child for your so-called figure.
I started early education more than 20 days after I was a child. When the child wakes up, I will let the child's little hand touch everything at hand. As we all know, children's brains develop rapidly from birth to 1 year; 1-3 years old, another stage. At this most important stage of life, it is the time when mothers need to work hard.
Skills of cultivating excellent children
Grasp the five golden periods of children's growth
Social psychologist Ali? Allison's research points out that a person's life can be divided into eight stages of development, and each stage has its own specific mental growth goals. If he cannot develop normally at this stage for some reason, there will be some problems in this person's life. When you grow up, you need to make up for this process, but it will cost you a lot of life. Allison's research results are respected by modern social psychologists, because it explains the reasons for various deviations of adult personality and behavior in different societies.
The first five of the eight stages are completed before a person is 2 1 year old:
The first stage: trust and distrust from 0 to 1 year.
The second stage: autonomy and shame of 2 ~ 3 years old
The third stage: 4-5 years old initiative and guilt
The fourth stage: from 6 years old to 1 1 years old, diligent and self-abased.
The fifth stage: from 12 to 2 1, the confusion of identity (and role).
Teaching according to the different characteristics of children's growth stages
Human instinct is far greater than what we show. Children have extremely rich learning ability. If we stimulate them in a planned way, countless great men such as Einstein, Picasso and Madame Curie may appear in the next generation.
(a) 0 to 6 years old, emotional first.
Scientific research in recent years has continuously proved that the younger a child is, the stronger his learning ability is. Traditionally, we often pay attention to children's learning after entering primary school, but ignore the period from birth to school, that is, the stage from 0 to 6 years old.
Early childhood from 0 to 3 years old is basically family-oriented preschool education; The early childhood of 3-6 years old is basically kindergarten-based preschool education. Pre-school education before the age of 6 is right brain learning (perceptual learning), which belongs to intuitive training, that is, the training of subconscious ability. After the age of 6, it is left brain learning (rational learning), which is the training of consciousness ability. Children before the age of 6 don't care about repetition and monotony. Their rich imagination can turn monotonous information into interesting things. He doesn't mind listening to the same story every day, although he knows the content like the back of his hand and even corrects it immediately when his parents say something wrong. When parents tell such stories, they can observe the children's facial expressions and the constant rotation of their eyes, which is the expression of children's imagination in their brains. Because the ability of human brain depends on the size of the connection network composed of neurons, the connection network is generated according to the stimulation of external factors, and the main network connection development work is completed before a person 12 years old, so early childhood learning is the foundation and the most important. Take learning a foreign language as an example. Anyone who learns a foreign language as an adult knows the difficulty. If there are children under the age of 10 in a foreign language class, their grades are always better than those of adults, their pronunciation is accurate, and they can master grammar and new words quickly. This is a fact. In terms of quantity, the child's brain neural network is the highest around 8 months after birth; In terms of quality (ability), the maximum is about 3 years old. Therefore, learning a foreign language at the age of 20 is less than 10, 10 is less than 3 years old, and 3 years old is less than the first year after birth. Don't forget: the brain nerve network grows with external stimuli. When a baby is stimulated by a foreign language, the neural network in his brain will develop accordingly, that is to say, the developed network is the most suitable network for learning a foreign language. In contrast, adults only use the existing network to do work that is not for this purpose, and of course they learn more slowly than children.
(2) From 6 years old to 12 years old, naughty is treasure.
Children are constantly learning and revising from birth to 12 years old? Machine? . This one? Machine? Unlimited energy, restless, interested in many new things. Children's performance is often: disobedience; I can't sit well for a while; The more he is told not to move, the more he will stretch out his hand to move; Fickle. Parents are simply overwhelmed. In fact, all these show that the child is normal, and he is trying to play and use his inner things? Learning machine? Give yourself the most opportunities to absorb knowledge, learn and cultivate abilities. Before the age of 6, children learn with their right brain, which is characterized by strong imagination. After the age of 6, children began to learn more things with their left brain. Here are some things to pay attention to:
1. Right brain learning is mainly to train children's overall absorption and creativity in things. This is extremely important and basic information. At this stage, it is very important for children to understand their feelings and accept their emotions for the next stage of cognitive learning.
2. What happened? Why? Need to infer thinking, this is the job of the left brain. Children begin to develop left-brain learning after the age of 6, so it is useless to reason with children under the age of 6. When teaching a child under 6 years old to do something, we should emphasize the feeling of happiness, let the child listen, emphasize what is best for him and help him develop discipline. Children over 6 years old should be taught to understand the logic of things. Of course, proper training is also needed to let children develop good abstract thinking ability step by step.
3. Children's neuron connection network (intelligence) is much stronger than that of adults, but their expressive ability is much weaker than that of adults. Children can feel and perceive the existence of things, such as differences and worries between parents, but if parents don't mention things or even deliberately hide them, children will think that things can't be discussed. In fact, they also lack the expression ability to discuss well, so they have made some wrong judgments in their hearts and some wrong beliefs, values and codes of conduct, which may have a bad influence on his life. If parents can understand this, try not to hide it? There's nothing not to talk about. Attitude. At the same time, parents should understand that children are weak in expression and don't talk to their children. Instead? Children speak, but help them express their inner meaning correctly.
4.？ Naughty? In fact, children are learning.
Children aged 6 to 12 are naughty and constantly come up with new tricks; I like playing more than reading; Always sit unsteadily and walk unsteadily; Keep hugging left and right; Otherwise, your mouth won't stop. Many parents feel very tired because of this.
To explain this behavior of children, we need to analyze how the development process of their cranial nerve system matches the growth of children's bodies. When the child was born, his brain was blank and he knew nothing. Although the abilities of brain and body parts are already available, they need to be programmed so that they can develop comprehensive abilities to deal with various situations in life physically and psychologically. The human body is driven by the human brain, which is composed of countless neurons. The running ability of neurons depends on the connection network they form, and the production of this connection network depends on the stimulation factors that appear outside. The more stimulation, the greater the difference, and the richer and smarter the connection network. Scientific research has proved that children who play less in early childhood have lower IQ than children who often play with others in early childhood, which is the reason. For example, when children are very young, if there are many languages in their living environment, the stimulation of neurons will create the necessary connection network for cooperation, and children will find it easy to learn foreign languages when they grow up. Contact with every new thing is a new stimulus to neurons, which will promote some new developments in the connection network. However, if this happens repeatedly and the content is completely consistent, neurons will only reuse the connection network developed during the first stimulus, and there will be no new development. It can be seen that doing the same thing in 10 different ways will give children more opportunities to develop new neurons and network connections, but such children are often considered too naughty.
If children want to develop a good neuronal connection network, besides providing enough nutrition, the most important thing is to have enough stimulating factors. If we just let things in the environment bring stimulating factors, children will get too few opportunities to develop their intelligence. Therefore, children are always looking for new things, trying new behaviors and being interested in everything. In this way, he will get the biggest stimulus and develop his brain best. Children who try new tricks actually study hard, but they are often called naughty by their parents.
Children need to learn manners.
It is very important to give children enough activity space, let them have a lot of activities, that is, play, so that their brains can be fully developed. But at the same time, children also need to learn manners and know how to behave when getting along with others, so parents should teach their children to sit down and talk quietly at a specific time. It is difficult for many parents to teach their children manners, because when teaching, parents ignore a very important factor: what if they guide their children? Learn manners? Equivalent to letting go? The motive of the activity? The belief that children will not obey orders, even if they are quiet for a while, will make trouble again, because he has preset software control in his mind. What does he think? The motive of the activity? Than? Learn manners? There is greater value. But what if we can keep it? The motive of the activity? At the same time, let children know that if they want to get along well with others, sometimes they need to be able to sit down and talk. The motive of the activity? And then what? Be respected, accepted and affirmed for being polite? Will children be willing to accept two values? Learn manners? This matter.