Taking obedience as the goal of educating children is obviously a misunderstanding, which is not conducive to the development of children's personality and the stimulation of their potential. In a sense, a child who is too obedient may be "problem children".

Timid, timid

The "obedient" children who are most praised by adults are often timid and rarely express their different opinions.

Psychological fragility

Such children are better at suppressing themselves, even if they have problems in their hearts, they don't mention them and don't argue with their elders. Some children behave like a good boy who is particularly obedient and disciplined in kindergarten or school. They rarely resist their parents at home and are used to being praised and praised by people around them. But they are often the most vulnerable to criticism from others.

Equal communication

Preschool children have a certain sense of independence and have their own ideas about everything. At this time, you can't unilaterally emphasize that children should obey, but also listen more. Although adults are experienced, they also have many one-sided and wrong understandings. Communicate with children equally and think more about whether children have their own reasons.

rational education

Parents should also convince others by reasoning, not oppress others by force. Don't force your child to do anything you say just because you are a parent. Give the child a chance to think and talk and convince him.

Lack of independence

In fact, only emphasizing "obedience" tends to make children have no independence, lack personal opinions on all issues, be unable to fight evil forces, and even lead to personality distortion due to long-term repression.