Let me give an example from my life, which will help me better understand the concept of "acceptance". For example, if a child screws up something, he may be sad because of fear and other factors, and even lose his temper for no reason because of anger.
When we encounter such a situation, if we point the needle at wheat, it will not help to solve the difficulty. At this time, we can let the children release all these negative emotions with the calmest and most tolerant attitude. This is a very basic reflection of accepting children's emotions, but it does not mean that we agree that children's behavior is right. This just gives them a space to ease and release their emotions. Only when children have a sense of belonging can they objectively look at and understand their own problems. However, this is precisely one of the overall goals that everyone should expect when educating children in culture. The core content of accepting children is that parents attach importance to children and understand their various creative ideas and personal behaviors. Parents only accept children, and children can accept all assistance including parents' conversation reminders.
02 Adhere to three key links to ensure that children receive family education correctly. We can grasp the following three key links to ensure that children receive it correctly:
First, as long as it doesn't involve principles, we won't judge children's behavior easily. From the psychological point of view of children, most of them don't like or can't accept other people's judgments on their behavior. If parents use judgment indiscriminately, children will easily have rebellious psychology. At this point, children are actually the same as adults, and no one wants to be judged by others. In my opinion, as long as children's problems do not involve principles, we will not judge children's behavior easily.
Second, show their greatest understanding of children and show empathy for them. The direct reason is that many parents can't accept their children. The direct reason is that they are used to looking at the problems on their children's backs with their own views and perspectives. In fact, they rarely take the initiative to look at things from the standpoint and perspective of children. Without this cornerstone, it is difficult for honest parents to truly understand their children, let alone show empathy for them.
When parents show empathy for their children, it is usually the softest time in their hearts. At this time, the cultural and educational friction is the least and the cultural and educational effect is the best.
Third, encourage children to express their true feelings. Many problems in parenting education usually lie in poor communication between parents and children. The main reason for poor communication is that children have no courage, in other words, they have no chance to express their true feelings.
Parents' careful and sincere encouragement to their children can arouse their children to express their true feelings, help parents to understand their children's feelings more objectively and truly, and reduce the possibility of subjectively misjudging their children's feelings.