My child's teeth are broken in his hometown, and his parents-in-law let him eat sugar every day.

I don't even listen to what I say. My parents spoiled it.

Do we often hear this voice around us, as if most of the bad children are caused by the older generation, but due to economic pressure and the pursuit of self-growth, more and more parents devote their time to their own careers and give their children to grandparents or grandparents. However, due to the different educational background and life concept, intergenerational education often brings troubles to three generations.

It is really difficult for the older generation to sacrifice their free time to help take care of their grandchildren and reduce the burden on their children. However, some of their educational methods are also dubbed by their parents as "illiterate" educational methods. Although parents want to take care of their children by themselves, they have to give up this choice because of various situations in life. Often there will be various conflicts in life because of different ideas.

In fact, intergenerational education also has a good side. As long as the balance is found, the family can be happy.

First, those common cases of the older generation's education methods: 1. Grandma always overprotects Sun Zishuo and often says:

"Shuo Shuo, don't touch this, it will hurt you."

"Shuo Shuo, that one can't climb up, be careful to fall."

"Shuo Shuo, the sand pool is dirty, don't play in it."

In the long run, there will be fewer and fewer opportunities for the baby to explore, and the child's curiosity and concentration will be annihilated unconsciously, and the baby's learning ability and exploration ability will gradually decline.

Grandpa saw Shuo Shuo tripping over a stool and sat quietly on the ground for a while. "Master, are you hurt? It's all about the floor and the stool. I'll call you. " Grandpa hit the floor to comfort Shuo Shuo.

Blaming the floor is actually a way of shirking responsibility, which is not conducive to cultivating children's sense of responsibility and ability to judge right and wrong. At the same time, it also missed a good opportunity for safety education.

Grandpa feeds Shuo Shuo by adding soup to the rice to make instant rice for the children at the beginning.

The child seems to eat quickly. In fact, the baby swallowed the soup without much chewing. Without the chewing of teeth and the participation of saliva, children can easily get indigestion only by gastric juice.

Shuoshuo's mother went back to her hometown to look after the children. What caught her eye was that grandma was holding a bowl in her hand and Shuo Shuo was playing with a plane with a meal. After eating a bite, leave your place and play around for a while, and then come back for a bite when grandma calls.

Inattention in eating is not conducive to cultivating children's habit of concentration. Eating while playing is not enough concentration, and it is easy to eat more, which is not a healthy eating habit.

Second, find the balance point of a harmonious family 1. Spend as much time with yourself as possible. Family and career can't have it both ways, but mom and dad can comprehensively judge that the advantages of taking care of children independently outweigh the disadvantages. Accompanying the baby in the first few years, cultivating good habits, establishing values that will benefit the baby for life, and giving the baby enough sense of security are the foundations for laying the child's character and ability.

2. Respect and affirm the contribution of elders and express gratitude to them in time. At the same time, invite elders to seek solutions to parenting problems together. Finally, I want to express to them that everyone's desire for communication is for children and a happy family.

Two generations can argue, but pay attention to their emotions and don't turn into quarrels. It is especially important to note that you should not quarrel in front of the children, otherwise it will cause great psychological harm and pressure to the children.

4. Pay more attention to and share some videos or audio of experts' scientific parenting at home, and listen to them with their elders. Spend more time with the elderly and children. Listen to the stories and experiences of elders with children to increase mutual understanding and respect.

In a family, dad is also an indispensable part and a very important role. If dad can participate in the parenting team and act as a lubricant in the family, the contradictions in the family will be greatly reduced.

I have heard a saying: 1 before the age, whoever takes care of the children will kiss them. There is a small video of a 4-year-old boy living with his elderly grandparents. He is sipping his meal and bending his back while eating, just like his grandparents' usual habits.

Whether mom and dad can take care of their children in person, and whether grandparents can take care of their children scientifically, everyone is trying their best for their children. In any case, parents can accompany their children to grow up in various forms. After all, no one can replace the important position of parents in children's life growth.

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