Learn to tolerate others, first of all, you should be optimistic. A pessimistic person, always easy to think of the bad side of things, depressed, depressed, so always dissatisfied with others or angry. Although some people are usually fine, they are pessimistic once they encounter anything, which is really not optimistic. It can only be said that you are happy when it is calm, which is human nature. True optimism lies in your own mentality. You can always give yourself encouragement and hope and believe in yourself.
In addition, tolerant people must be themselves and make themselves excellent and positive. Because it is difficult for a person who has a bad or unsatisfactory life to get better, once someone has offended himself, he will feel very angry, and even if he doesn't show it, he will be very upset psychologically. This is not true tolerance, but the popular "forbearance" in China. Personally, I think it is better to vent my anger properly so as not to accumulate resentment and dissatisfaction.
Also, have a grateful heart. Think that the world is beautiful, although there are many bad things, but our life is happy enough. I once read an article like this and was deeply impressed. The content is this: We have never experienced a war, but we are already in this world? One of the% happy people; We don't have parents who are dead and homeless. Is this the world? One of the% happy people; We are not disabled, we are the only one in the world? One of the% happy people; We can go to school and get an education, which is the world? One of the% happy people; We can sit at home and watch TV leisurely, which already exists in this world? % of the happy people (I can't remember the specific data). After reading these, do you think you are already a very happy person, because you have nothing. Besides, we live in such a peaceful country, and you have dear family and good friends who care about you. What you have to do is how to make yourself better through hard work.
Seeing these does not make you dissatisfied, but you have a grateful heart and an open-minded mood. You will face every day with a more relaxed and positive attitude. Will you not forgive others because of some small things? Will you make yourself sad or unhappy because of trivial things?
Also, you have to think that life is short, and it is not easy for everyone. Why do you care? Think carefully, what can be brought by intolerance and unforgivability every time? It can only make others think that you are a hungry person, and it can only make you feel that you have taken advantage of it or not, but you are also uncomfortable psychologically. If you are a very tolerant person, what will you lose? You may be wronged by others for a while, but you can explain that you may have been tricked into buying a meal by your friend accidentally, but you can treat him more wisely in the future. Maybe you were stood up because your friend had something temporary, but it's no use blaming him. Gradually, people will think that you are a generous person and your mentality can be adjusted to the best state:)
If there is no room for others, think about how big the world is, how big the universe is, what great people in the world are doing at this time, and how broad their hearts are. If I find a small corner of the world, I am still worried, because I can't tolerate others. How ridiculous.
Or go to the seaside, even the river, or the open playground, exercise, listen to music, and chat with friends, which is also a good solution.
I have seen such a passage before: Even if there are two bitter rivals, when they become white-haired old people, when they meet again, they will definitely not hate each other's hatred, but will cherish such a person who has walked together for nearly a century, laughing and talking about the mutual "mutilation" when they were young ... Think about it, what a beautiful picture this is. Why do you know such a simple truth about life when you are old and dying? Since we have learned from the past, why can't we understand it earlier? How long can you remember what kind of hatred? Since intolerance will soon disappear, why do we need that uncomfortable intermediate process? If someone you can't stand wants to leave his old mother and young daughter behind because of a serious illness, will you still blame him for that little thing? Everyone has a vulnerable side.
Of course, the premise is not to let others take advantage of you or bully you. People should be strong, that is, self-improvement, but also have a tolerant heart. The main problem is mentality:)