1, cultivate children's study habits of self-management. The main reason why children are carried away by fun is that the binding force is not enough. Making plans is the best way to correct it. Usually, taking the initiative to discuss with children will work out an effective plan. We must also focus on the following links: First, do a good job in supervision and inspection. Second, the requirements for children should not be too high at first, but should be gradual. The third is to make a summary. It is best to make a summary once a week, so that some needs of the child can be rewarded for his good performance in implementing the plan, so as to stimulate his consciousness and initiative in implementing the plan next week. But also give children time to play casually, and don't arrange life too regularly. Experts point out that free play is more beneficial to the health of preschool children than planned activities. Parents should avoid cramming their children's time into various activities. All children need some free and casual play time.

2. Set goals step by step, do what you can, and don't rush into it. Parents set too high demands on their children, forcing them to study too much, taking up their entertainment time, making them tired of learning and always wanting to play. We should communicate with children more, try to be their friends and see their positive changes to change their shortcomings. At the same time, there is no need to expose the child's shortcomings and get immediate results. Allow the child's "fault" to rebound. Do a good job in regular communication with school teachers. Always get in touch with your child's teacher to understand your child's performance in school, so as to get a more comprehensive understanding of your child's basic situation from the teacher's point of view. On the one hand, we can make a more comprehensive and accurate evaluation and judgment of children in combination with our own reality, and at the same time, we can find problems in time and adopt targeted methods to effectively help children overcome them. In addition, getting in touch with the teacher often can also keep abreast of the child's curriculum progress, which is convenient for timely urging the child to consolidate and review according to the progress.

3. Let children choose their own learning methods. If you want to be conscious, you must be independent. Without independent consciousness, you can't last long. Therefore, parents should give their children full autonomy in learning methods and let them study in a relaxed and happy environment that suits their preferences. In the process of children's learning, only the general requirements are put forward, and the specific details are left to the children to grasp, which can stimulate children's learning awareness and enhance the learning effect. Let children choose their own learning style, and learning will become a happy thing. A child who teaches him to care about others and be happy needs to feel that he has some meaningful connection with others and understand his meaning to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with him to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.

4. Creative praise When a child behaves well, don't just say, "Good." Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, "It's really polite of you to take the initiative to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today". However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought by completing a thing, instead of rewarding him with material rewards. It is necessary to communicate with children normally. Friendly communication can close the distance with children and understand their hearts. At the same time, through communication with children, we can naturally and steadily instill the truth that some children "learn" when they make mistakes. Naturally revealing your evaluation of your child in daily conversation will not make your child feel that you are "deliberately praising" him, but also let your child know your point of view and enhance your self-confidence. Talking with children should be not only an academic exchange, but also an exchange of ideas. Through equal and friendly dialogue, parents should be children's friends, not their leaders. In this way, children will get a kind of respect in personality, which is good for strengthening self-discipline awareness.

Parents should not only create a good family atmosphere for their children, but also pay attention to their study. Adults usually think that learning is only for children. In fact, parents should also learn how to be parents. You can take the initiative to go online to find some forums or related knowledge to educate your children and learn this knowledge. At the same time, communication with other parents is also a kind of mutual learning. By sharing the gains and losses of educating children in each family, you can take fewer detours and gain more happiness. Parents should set a good example for their children and create a good family atmosphere. It is difficult for children not to watch their favorite programs and play their favorite games. Forcing is not a good idea. In a family, if parents sit in front of TV or computer all day and play by themselves, but loudly reprimand their children for reading, it is actually hard to convince them, and the children are not "unconvinced" from the heart. Therefore, in daily family life, creating a good family atmosphere plays an important role in demonstrating and guiding children to develop good habits of conscious learning.

6. Respect and appreciate children. The famous Appreciation Education Law puts forward that "a good boy is boasted", which has become a generally accepted view in contemporary pedagogy. Blaming children's shortcomings and deficiencies blindly, this kind of accusation education has little effect on children's bad "problems", and sometimes even makes children have rebellious psychology, thinking about "playing hide and seek" and "guerrilla warfare" with you in law. After trying to understand the education law, children are often educated in an encouraging way. In most cases, children can correct their "faults" and their "evils" in time, with good results. Giving up perfectionism We all expect our children to show their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example: dislike that they didn't wipe the table, just wipe it once; Or correct them. They must put things in a certain position. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken children's self-confidence and courage not to be afraid of making mistakes. The next time you can't help but want to get involved and try to help your child do things better, think about it first: "Is this related to health or safety?" "Imagine, after 10 years, is this matter still so serious?" If not, let the children do it!