Teacher: After English class this morning, both teachers and classmates told me that some students were not disciplined. At noon, I severely criticized a classmate. This classmate feels aggrieved because he feels that he is not the only one who has broken the rules in English. Why did the teacher just give him a hard time and criticize him alone? (blackboard writing: grievance)

Teacher: Students, a small matter may bring people grievances. In our life, grievances are inevitable for everyone! So, how do you usually treat grievances? Let's do a little test.

Second, the judgment and identification:

Teacher: (Show the judgment questions and the identification questions) Please look at several ways to deal with grievances shown on the screen. Please tick "√" if they are consistent with your usual practice.

1. When I am wronged by others' misunderstanding, I often argue with others angrily. ()

2, no one can let me be wronged, who let me be wronged, I am not finished with him. ()

When I am wronged, I always hide in the corner and cry and sigh. ()

When I am wronged, I always try to forget and turn my attention to other places. ()

I think it's nothing to be wronged. Everyone will be wronged. ()

6. After being wronged, I always want to talk to my best friend. ()

7. After I was wronged, I never told anyone. I suffered silently and was unhappy for a long time. ()

8. I have never wronged others, and no one wants me to be wronged. ()

Teacher: (check the students' psychological endurance. Everyone's judgment of seeking truth from facts reflects that you have different degrees of psychological deviation when dealing with grievances, and you need to cultivate the necessary ability to bear grievances.

Third, strategy training.

Strategy 1: Restrain yourself and be patient with others.

Teacher: How should we face the injustice that befalls us? With this question, let's go and see the story of Han Xin. The video shows the story of Han Xin's humiliation and success.

Teacher: the humiliation of the crotch is unbearable for ordinary people. If Han Xin can't stand such injustice, what might he do? What will happen?

Health: Han Xin may have drawn his sword and killed that arrogant teenager, and he will be arrested and punished by officers and men.

Teacher: Waiting for him may be a lifetime in prison.

Health: Han Xin may stab the arrogant boy to death, and he himself may be killed by the arrogant boy's men.

Teacher: It's not worth losing a bright future and a beautiful life for such a person.

Health: If Han Xin has a strong self-esteem and can't tolerate humiliation on his legs, he will definitely kill the teenager. However, Han Xin is ambitious and finds it boring to fight this ignorant teenager, so it is not worth ruining his future. That's why he stood for a long time and finally passed between the legs of the teenager.

Teacher: Good idea. Li believes that Han Xin's low self-esteem is due to the humiliation of his legs. Children, what do you think of this problem?

Health (A): I think Han Xin has self-esteem. He thinks about his future, but his self-esteem is not strong. If he had a strong self-esteem, he wouldn't get under that man's crotch.

Teacher: You don't think his self-esteem is too high, do you? This opinion is similar to Li's.

Health (b): I think Han Xin has a strong self-esteem. It is precisely because of his strong self-esteem that he can endure grievances and always think about his future.

Health (c): I also think Han Xin has a strong self-esteem. Because as the saying goes, "Heroes don't eat short-term losses", Han Xin can endure grievances because he thinks of long-term interests, and he is an ambitious man.

Teacher: It is his strong self-esteem to be ambitious and bear the burden of humiliation.

Teacher: Han Xin can endure humiliation that ordinary people can't stand, so he has achieved what ordinary people can't. A child of a poor family, a teenager who made a living by begging, later became a general of the Han Dynasty, and his name will go down in history forever.

2. Teacher: Students, how do you usually face grievances?

Health: Once my cousin came to my house to play with my toys. He saw what I was playing and wanted to play with everything. I have to pick up the toys he threw away to play with. Unexpectedly, he quarreled with me at once. I was angry and ignored him, so he cried and shouted. Mother has been blaming me since she heard the crying. I tried to tell my mother the truth, but she wouldn't listen. I had to say nothing until my mother calmed down and explained to her. As a result, my mother apologized to me

Teacher: Calm and rational.

Student: In math class, the students in the back row borrowed a pen from me. When I turned to hand it to him, the teacher found it. She criticized me indiscriminately, saying that my grades were so poor and I was undisciplined in class. I was sad, but I didn't argue with the teacher either. (talking and crying).

Teacher: Good boy, didn't you say it's nothing to be wronged? Be strong and dry your tears first.

Health: On one occasion, my mother found that she was short of money 10 yuan, and suspected that I had taken it. She kept questioning me, and I was wronged. I reasoned with my mother, but she wouldn't listen. I stopped arguing, thinking that things would come out at some point. In the evening, my mother found that 10 yuan and admitted that she was wrong about me.

Teacher: Be good at restraining yourself.

Student: In the composition class, there was no water at the same table, so I threw it hard and spilled ink on the back of the students in the front row. After class, the students in the front row found the ink on their backs and insisted that I spilled it. I didn't think it could be explained clearly, so I admitted it and apologized to him. He gave a generous smile and it was over. A lot of students raised their hands. )

Teacher: It seems that many students can be calm, restrained and tolerant when facing grievances. Is there a time when you are not calm in the face of grievances?

Health: On National Day, my father went to a friend's house for a wedding reception. It was almost nine o'clock when he got home. When he saw that I was still doing my homework, he always blamed me and said that I was not conscious of my study. All he knows is to play at home without supervision. Actually, it was because the teacher left a lot of homework that day. I was angry and had a quarrel with my father. For several days, I have been frowning and don't scream when I see my father.

Teacher: a little thing makes you lose a few days of joy, which is not good for your study and health.

Student: When I was in the third grade, I didn't finish my homework one day. The math teacher found out and criticized me for being the laziest. Although I didn't refute it, I hated my teacher so much that I made up my mind never to teach my teacher math again.

Teacher: I didn't do my homework once, and the teacher's criticism was a little heavy, so I stopped studying math. It's terrible. Are you studying math for the teacher now? (Laughter).

Teacher: Everyone will encounter big or small grievances. Everyone knows that in the face of grievances, we need to be calm, restrained and patient. However, some students often say to me: "Teacher, I also know that in the face of grievances, we must exercise restraint and be patient. But when I am really wronged, I can't calm down and I can't control it. What should I do? " Do you have a good idea?

Health: I went to sleep when I was wronged. When I woke up, I forgot about it.

Teacher: This is an idea. Let's call it sleep therapy.

Health: After I was wronged, I ran around the playground, kicked the ball and played hard, and I didn't feel wronged.

Teacher: Exercise and forget your troubles, which is worth popularizing.

Health: after I was wronged, I found a place where no one was there, regarded some small things as enemies, smashed them hard, scolded them hard, and vented all my grievances.

Teacher: That's a good idea, but don't break anything of value!

Health: I was wronged. I went to read books, practice piano, practice calligraphy and do what I like. After that, I calmed down.

Teacher: That's a good idea. Teachers often use it.

Health: After I was wronged at home, I went to my best friend. Being wronged at school, I went home to find my mother and complained to them, and my mood was cheerful.

Teacher: No wonder some people say that sharing happiness with friends will double happiness and sharing pain with friends will halve pain.

Student: Teacher, I want to learn from Mr. Lu Xun. When he was late for school, he was criticized by the teacher, so he carved the word "early" on the desk, and he was never late again. I want to write a word "forbearance" on paper and stick it on my desk to remind myself that when I am wronged, I must be patient.

Teacher: If you stick the word "forbearance" in your heart, the effect will be better. Many students raised their hands. )

Teacher: It seems that many children have ways to restrain themselves in the face of grievances. In fact, when we are impulsive, it is very helpful to think about the consequences of irrationality.

Strategy 2: Put yourself in others' shoes.

Teacher: Just now, when it comes to grievances, every child has endless grievances. Teachers make you feel wronged, parents make you feel wronged, classmates make you feel wronged, but your teachers, parents and classmates often feel wronged. Let's take yesterday as an example. Teacher Fang went to Chengdu to attend classes. After class, he rushed back to school without stopping. A teacher saw it and asked, Fang, you are so funny. You just came to work now. Some students also talked about why Mr Fang didn't give us a class today.

Who has wronged us? Now let's watch a sketch performance together. (empty chair performance skills)

(1) Take two chairs and the students sit on one. Imagine the wronged person sitting on the empty chair opposite.

Then let the students tell their thoughts and feelings when they are wronged.

(2) Students sit in another chair on the other side and become the victim of others, putting themselves in others' shoes.

Teacher: What do you think after reading this sketch?

Health: Sometimes, we unconsciously let others be wronged.

Health: Being wronged is really a sad and angry thing.

Teacher: If we put ourselves in each other's shoes when we are wronged, it will be difficult for us to control.

Your mood is very helpful. Write on the blackboard: Look inside yourself and put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Fourth, reflect on the experience.

At the end, can you recall the scene where others wronged you and change your role to think about why he wronged you?

Student: In math class, I lent my pen to a classmate behind me. I think the teacher criticized me because I was angry. There are sixty students in the class. It is impossible for a teacher to see every student clearly and know which one is undisciplined and which one is helping others. With this idea, I can forgive the teacher.

Teacher: Thank you for understanding the teacher. I feel that I have wronged many students in my class unintentionally. Some of them were later known to me, and some are still unclear. Thank you for still trusting me so much and opening up to me.

Health: That day, my mother criticized me for bullying my cousin. Now I think from my mother's point of view, my mother must think how my cousin can cry for no reason. I'm so much older than him. I should definitely let my brother. After such a thought, I figured it out and felt that it was nothing to be wronged.

Teacher: Yes, no one is perfect. Everyone will make mistakes and unconsciously let others be wronged. Everyone will bear the grievances brought by others. In the face of grievances, we should learn to exercise restraint, learn to be patient, and look at each other from another angle, so that even the biggest grievances can't knock us down. In the face of grievances, we must be strong and say that grievances are nothing. Write on the blackboard.

Fifth, summarize the incentive mechanism.

Teacher: Students, we suffered a lot of grievances yesterday. Tomorrow, on the road of our growth, we will inevitably encounter many greater grievances in life, study and work, which need us to endure and overcome. Here, the teacher will give you a few words and the teacher will read them out:

1, our life is not smooth sailing, sometimes there will be small storms, and sometimes there will be stormy waves. In the journey of life, we must withstand the storms.

2. The grievance is only temporary. Grit your teeth, there is light ahead.

The students read aloud together.

Teacher: Although tomorrow's road is full of ups and downs, although grievances may accompany you all your life, children, I believe that grievances are only temporary. Grit your teeth and have a bright future. If you can't stand it alone, I, your friend, will listen to you at any time.