Dear teacher, hello everyone! I'm Li Jiashen's mother. Teacher Zhang, thank you very much for giving me this opportunity to talk about how I educate my children. In all fairness, Li Jiaxuan's progress in learning is the result of teachers' teaching and Li Jiaxuan's own efforts. But since the teacher gave me this opportunity, I will discuss this problem with you. Please correct me if there is anything wrong.
Love children first, but don't spoil them.
As a mother, I love Li Jiashen very much. When he was a child, he was weak and especially loved to get sick. Before he was six or seven years old, he was always ill and had few good days all year round. We were not in the mood to educate him at that time. If only he could survive. So we followed him everywhere and spoiled him, which made him develop many bad habits. It was not until the second and third grade that his health was much better that we realized that something was wrong. We made a mistake in educating children. At that time, we began to correct his mistakes little by little. Because many bad habits have been formed, it is difficult for him to change. But in the end, "it's not too late to mend." He is making progress bit by bit.
To sum up, parents should make rules for their children from the beginning. If the child grows up, the parents will suffer and the child will suffer.
Second, we should know the strength of our children, ask them realistically, don't blindly compare with others, and ask them more strictly. For example, I asked Li Jiashen to write two English reading comprehension articles every day. Because I know that his English foundation is poor and his interest in English learning is average, asking him to do too difficult questions can only dampen his interest in learning, so I have been buying him reading comprehension for lower grades. When I was in the fifth grade, I did the fourth grade problem. When I was in the sixth grade, I began to do the problems in the fifth grade. These questions are simple to him. He can always finish them in a few minutes, and he can basically do them well. He also likes to do it. Although it is simpler, learning is more about persistence. After a long time, some achievements have been made.
From this point, we can see that to improve children's interest in learning, we must proceed from their actual situation and their acceptance.
Third, pay more attention to children. No matter how busy they are at work, parents should take time to spend with their children and let them know that their parents care about them. I will often chat with my child and look through his exercise books and so on. We should praise his progress in time and criticize and correct his mistakes in time.
Fourth, create a good learning environment for children. It is often heard that children know their studies regardless of their parents. Too bad it's not our baby. If I play computer in this room, I can't expect my children to study hard in that room. So when my child is studying, I often do housework, or read books, and sometimes sit beside him. After all, the child is still young and not so awake.
Finally, and most importantly: "Examples speak louder than words." What parents do will definitely have a great influence on their children. I am a cheerful person, and I hope my child is also a "sunshine boy" who loves to talk and laugh. I try to be humble and tolerant of people and things, and I hope my children will not haggle over every ounce and be petty. It is at this point that I still have too many shortcomings. I will try my best to correct my shortcomings. I hope Li Jiashen and I can make progress together.
Thank you all
Speech on educating children Part II:
Dear teachers and parents, hello:
I am very happy to attend this parent-teacher conference, and thank the school for giving us such an opportunity to get together with you and discuss the good ways to educate and guide children so that they can grow up healthily. Next, I would like to share my personal views with you:
First of all, I think we should give children "motivation rather than pressure". Children carry our infinite hopes. As parents, we all want our children to succeed, and we expect their children to have good growth and development. However, as a parent, I think that at the critical moment when children go all out to study every day, whether in study or in life, we should take children as the center, actively cooperate with schools and teachers, do a good job in maintaining children, cheer them up, try our best not to press them, don't talk in front of them, don't distract them, and worry about this and that, for fear that children will not work hard, and the results will be tense. We should trust our children and encourage them.
Secondly, good living and study habits are necessary. Cultivate good study habits in primary school; In middle school, we should cultivate good learning methods and enter a virtuous circle. There are many good habits. In primary school, it is nothing more than a good habit of attending classes, thinking, reading and doing homework. For all kinds of courses, to stimulate children's interest, with interest, they will naturally listen carefully; As for the habit of thinking, if our children rarely raise their hands to answer questions or never ask questions, it means that they are lazy to think, rely on teachers and classmates, or simply memorize and imitate. In this case, the child is in a passive learning state. We should guide children to develop.
The habit of thinking independently and being good at asking questions makes children not only like asking questions, but also willing to find answers for them, which is very important for their future creative thinking and further study. There are also many kinds of reading books at home, which children can read in their spare time. This not only helps to cultivate children's good reading habits, but also broadens their horizons. Why not? Pay attention to children's homework habits. We should not only pay attention to the quality of children's homework, but also pay attention to the time when children's homework is completed. Many parents, including myself, feel this way. As long as they see their children sitting at their desks, they feel happy, no matter what they are doing. In fact, due to the different age and personality of children, the length of time to concentrate at a time is also different. Parents should proceed from reality and set the homework time according to the homework content. Don't let children get into the habit of muddling along and being inefficient.
Finally, as parents, we should play a positive role model and guide. First, the attitude should be firm. The formation of good habits is a difficult process, which needs perseverance, especially when children have developed some bad habits, and the firm attitude of parents is even more important. Second, we should lead by example. Parents are watching TV themselves, but letting their children do their homework is not only easy to arouse children's resentment, but also affects their study. Third, we should appreciate children and be good at discovering their bright spots. Instead of letting children entangle the wrong things in endless criticism, it is better to praise them in time and applaud their progress! I also believe that an excellent child is not scolded but praised.
What I said above is just my personal understanding. Please criticize and correct the improper points. Finally, I wish all leaders, teachers and parents good health!
Thank you!
Speech on educating children Part III:
Today, I am honored to sit here and share with you my personal experience in educating children. Please forgive me if there are any inappropriate places!
Every parent attaches great importance to his child's study and hopes that he can study hard and achieve excellent results. Every parent wants to have a successful child. However, children can't get good grades at once. Being too strict with children and narrowing their space often backfires and produces rebellious psychology. Not only can academic performance not be outstanding, but it will also lead to boredom and laziness. The growth of children needs the guidance of parents, and finding the fun of studying with children can help children get good grades in their studies. ? Below, I combine some of my own views and introduce my experience from the following aspects:
First, set an example. Parents should first form good habits. Set an example for children. Because everything parents say and do is the enlightenment of their children. Provide a learning atmosphere for children, and read or study with them. Over time, gradually they naturally feel that their parents attach importance to learning, know how they should study, and understand that they are not studying for anyone.
Second, respect children. What is respect? We might as well sit down and communicate with our children at an appropriate time, let them speak freely, and provide us with some information to let us know their joys and sorrows. Sometimes when there are differences of opinion, as parents, we will seriously consider whether our children's opinions are more perfect and appropriate than ours. If so, you should give up your own opinions and boldly adopt the children's opinions. This is an exercise of children's cognitive judgment, which not only respects children, but also shortens the gap between the two generations.
Third, find interest in learning. Children don't like learning, the main reason is lack of interest in learning. Interest is the best teacher. To make children interested in learning is inseparable from the guidance of teachers and parents. Communicate with children in an equal manner at ordinary times. In the process of communication, we should find our hobbies and common topics in our study and life, encourage and appreciate our children in our daily life, make them feel that they can do it, and build up their confidence in learning. Only by making long-term and sustained efforts to support him can children find a sense of success and be interested.
Fourth, cultivate children's autonomous learning ability. Children who don't study, don't want to study, and don't want to study are lack of motivation. They don't have a correct learning goal, so naturally they won't have a clear learning motivation, and they will be blind in the learning process. I don't know why I want to study and I don't know how to study. When you can have a clear learning goal in your study and study to achieve this goal, learning will no longer be an annoying burden unrelated to life. On the contrary, learning will become an interesting and most important thing that can determine one's own destiny. If children don't want to learn, they will solve it if they don't want to learn. This kind of learning is active, conscious and effective, not forced, stressful and inefficient.
Fifth, correct thinking. It is necessary to correct that children think that learning is for their parents, that learning is a burden and a task assigned by their parents, so they lack interest in learning and just deal with it mechanically. Once they encounter difficulties, they will have the idea of escaping. Therefore, before we set learning goals for our children, we must first let students understand the importance of learning and let them know why they want to learn. Only by studying hard today can we have a better future. Learning is for yourself, for your bright future. Parents' worries are for their own good, not for their future.
Finally, communicate with teachers frequently. At this time, parents should get in touch with the teacher in time to understand the child's learning situation. A child can't be smooth sailing in all aspects of his study, and there are ebbs and flows at any time, but he just doesn't know where he missed. After the two sides get in touch, they will correct and make up for the shortcomings in time, help the children tide over the difficulties and lay a solid foundation.
The above are some of my own experiences and opinions, hoping to give you some help in educating children. Thank you!