How to teach children well
1. It is necessary for a caring mother to explain to her children that kindness and courtesy are as important as academic performance. Those children with emotional accomplishment tend to have higher EQ. He has a higher ability to coordinate his own needs with those of others, and such a person is more likely to be far ahead in life. A series of surveys conducted by Bell Laboratories show that efficient engineers often have the highest EQ, not IQ. Mothers often need to cultivate their children's friendship skills. A friend said it was difficult for him to make friends when he was a child. At that time, a teammate was injured, and his friend's mother insisted that he call to ask the boy how he felt. ? "Mom," he objected, "he doesn't even know who I am." ? "He will," his mother replied. This phone call marks the beginning of close friendship. ? "My mother told me that friendship comes from caring for others, not you."
? Praise encourages all of us to know that praise can work miracles. Too much criticism will lead to self-blame and make them take some risks to succeed. There are right ways and wrong ways to praise. Most parents will keep their word when criticizing their children, but they will be vague when praising them-"You are a good boy" will take away the temporary glory. So specifically say "I'm proud that you climbed into the car after falling" instead of "you are brave". This explains why this behavior is commendable. Everyone has a "key area". Once praised, this area will produce unexpected results. As a mother, you probably know better than anyone what is important to your children-it can be music, sports or lessons. If you don't know, there's nothing wrong with asking. Secondly, because children can only absorb limited praise at a time, they should give some praise in a small amount and frequently. A hundred encouragements a minute is better than a hundred compliments. ?
? Talking about taboos We live in a dangerous world. In this world, children are exposed to drugs, alcohol and sex. Some mothers worry that talking about this taboo behavior will encourage them to do so. On the contrary, the survey found that children who talk openly with their parents are less likely to take drugs and drink alcohol. Mothers, in particular, can skillfully talk about these sensitive topics with their children. Let yourself know these phenomena first, and then ask the children what they know. Children aged six or seven may hear such things on the playground or see them on TV. Point out that you are talking to them about danger, not trusting them, and let them know that you are willing to answer any questions or talk to them about their troubles.
? 4. appropriately relax the boundaries. Children need unconditional love, so that the seeds of self-esteem and self-love can grow. This unconditional love doesn't mean that you don't set any boundaries. Setting boundaries is to let children know that he is important to you. When children cross the line, make it clear to them that you are disappointed in this behavior, not in them. As children grow up, the boundaries naturally need to be relaxed. Especially boys, they want to keep a certain distance from their mothers. Psychologist Evanso Besso once described it like this: When boys first saw toy trucks, the roar of cars rang in their hearts. They are willing to take risks and express what they see, which is innate. The power of men in the past. As boys grow up, their boundaries should be relaxed appropriately, and mothers should not feel abandoned and cowardly. Mothers are the greatest source of encouragement for children. Psychologist Ayton Tracy surveyed 250 school-age children and found that nearly half of them would rather be mothers than fathers. Bezo speculates that one of the reasons is that children want to know more about their mother's work and visit the place where her mother works. ?
? 5. Point out the way that children need moral compass. This means inculcating right and wrong not only on major issues, but also on everyday trivial matters. A mother saw her five-year-old son sitting in his friend's car. He is a neighbor's seven-year-old boy. ? "Tom doesn't need a car," said his son. ? "He is at school." He doesn't think there is anything wrong with himself, because his friends won't mind. But the mother insisted that her son send the car back: "It is wrong to use other people's property without permission." When mothers pay enough attention to cultivating their children's sense of responsibility, integrity and loyalty, they will establish a value system for their children, which will become priceless for their children. The best moral guidance is the mother's own behavior. If a mother shirks her responsibilities, ignores the rights of others, or breaks her promise, her children will have no behavioral guidance. You may not want to hear the words, "but, mom, you did it." ?
? 6. Playing with children in a short time, mothers usually focus on the so-called important things-catching children and tutoring their homework. However, in our fast-paced society, children are eager for more than that. They want to spend good time with their mother. It doesn't take much time, just a fun attitude, willing to turn homework time into games or housework.