2. Learn to listen. Parents should put down their condescending attitude, learn to communicate with their children on an equal footing, and calm down and listen to everything their children have to say. Even if you are busy and tired at this time, you should listen attentively. When he expresses his views on things, I will respect his opinions and discuss with him to give him enough confidence and self-confidence. I think it is very important to cultivate children's character. Listening is an art as well as a learning.
Parents should learn to communicate with their children equally. When we argue with our children because of differences of opinion, we should learn to communicate with them on an equal footing. If we are wrong or misunderstand our children, we will take the initiative to admit our mistakes to them. Therefore, when we communicate with children, we must communicate with them equally. Only in this way can we truly understand our children.
4. praise and praise the children. Praise is the best way to shape a good character. The deepest desire of human nature is to gain the appreciation of others, and children are no exception. Parents' praise will arouse children's inner sense of self-worth and dignity, and urge them to further strengthen good behavior until they develop a good character.
5. Give children enough independent space. In general, you don't have to think too much about "knowing what your child is doing." Adolescence is a stage of drastic psychological changes, because he wants to try everything. Today he is in this state of mind, and tomorrow he may become another one. Parents don't have to be too anxious about their children's abnormal behavior.
6. Parents should change the way of education. When parents get along with adolescent children, don't confront them. Parents should first change the way of education, give timely encouragement where their children are doing well, never fight when their children are doing wrong, and be tolerant of their mistakes.
Only be a parent who is good at changing and learning, realize the rebellious behavior of children, accept the imperfection of children, and believe that the rebellious problem of children is only a problem in the process of growing up. If parents don't adjust their education methods in time and provide help for their children's growth, children may go further and further on the road of rebellion.
7, criticism should grasp the opportunity, some parents in the face of rebellious junior high school students will criticize and educate regardless of the occasion, this method will not only have no effect, but also cause junior high school students' rebellious psychology and arouse their resentment. Parents must find out what happened before criticizing their children, and then pay attention to the ways and means of education. For junior high school students in the rebellious period, praise must be greater than criticism.